6 words gave this family 36 queens, 36 princes-in-law, and 92 prime ministers

The Langya Wang family in Shandong Province is a famous wealthy family in history. It has produced 36 queens, 36 princes-in-law, and 92 prime ministers in history. How rich is the Wang family? As evidenced by the Tang Dynasty poem \”Wu Yi Xiang\”, \”In the old days, kings and queens flew into the homes of ordinary people.\” This \”king\” refers to the Langya Wang family. The Langya Wang family developed in the Western Jin Dynasty of Cao Wei and flourished in the early years of the Eastern Jin Dynasty. It is known as \”the king and the horse share the world\”. The poet Liu Yuxi of the Tang Dynasty specifically wrote \”flying into an ordinary people\’s home\”, which further shows that the Wang family is by no means an \”ordinary people\’s home\”. The Wang family has been very \”proud\” since its birth, and in the history of the family there has been a great calligrapher like Wang Xizhi. But the \”grandeur\” of the Wang family goes far beyond that. According to records: \”The Langya Wang family has been admonishing the official Wang Ji since the Han Dynasty, and in the Wei, Jin, Southern and Northern Dynasties, there are 62 official members of the family, more than 50 servants of the three ministers, 80 servants, and 25 officials. .\” According to the \”Twenty-Four Histories\”, in the more than 1,700 years from the Han Dynasty to the Qing Dynasty, the Langya Wang family produced 36 queens, 36 princes-in-law, 92 prime ministers, and more than 600 literati. Such a prominent family history truly deserves the reputation of \”China\’s First Look\”. The Wang family is so prosperous because of a family motto, which only has six simple words: \”Speak slowly and be kind.\” As the old saying goes, \”Misfortune comes from the mouth.\” Speaking is an art of language, and you need to think carefully before speaking. This is what the so-called \”speak slowly\” means. The three words \”Yan Yiman\” are the \”secrets\” Wang Ji of the Langya Wang family got from an old man. In 77 BC, when Wang Ji was transferred from Qipin County to serve as fifth-rank lieutenant in the palace of the Prince of Changyi, he witnessed Changyi King Liu He\’s extravagant debauchery and officialdom\’s flirting, which made him depressed. Fortunately, he met an old man and gave him three words. From then on, he became a good official in the officialdom, prospered all the way, and became an important minister of the court. These three words are \”speak slowly\”. \”Speak slowly\” is just three words, but it embodies great wisdom in speaking and life. Nowadays, when we ridicule a person who says the wrong thing quickly and quickly, we say that he \”speaks without thinking through his brain.\” \”Speaking without thinking through your brain\” can easily offend others and expose your own ignorance and shortcomings. The so-called \”be careful in your words and deeds\”, the word \”be careful in your words\” means that you must \”think through your thoughts\” before speaking, do not blurt out in a hurry, let alone speak without hesitation. \”The Analects of Confucius\” says: \”There are three mistakes in serving a gentleman: speaking before you speak is called impatience; speaking without speaking is called hiding; speaking without seeing the color is called blindness.\” Everyone was chatting together, and it was not their turn yet. When it\’s time for you to speak, you rush to speak, which is a sign of impatience. \”Irritability\” is the problem that is most likely to offend people and cause trouble. Confucius also once said, \”A gentleman is slow in words but quick in deeds.\” \”Be slow to speak\” and \”Speak slowly\” have similar meanings. They are both saying, don\’t speak hastily, think twice before speaking. A person has learned to \”speak slowly\”, and after speaking through the brain, he also understands the wisdom of dealing with others. He should not be impetuous in life, not impetuous in doing things, and can handle any situation calmly and appropriately. \”Speak slowly\” is a kind of emotional intelligence, which reflects a person\’s cultivation and connotation. Cultivation and connotationA person is bound to be loved and respected by others. Xin Yishan There was a popular saying some time ago: As a human being, you must be kind. The so-called \”heart should be kind\” means to be a kind person and do kind things. And these three short words were also obtained by Wang Ji from the same old man. It is said that 10 years later, in 67 BC, Wang Ji, who had reached the official position of admonishing the doctors, returned to his hometown to visit relatives. Passing through Changyi, he met the old man again who gave him the three words \”Yan Yiman\”, and the old man gave him three more words, It means \”the heart should be kind\”. Hearing these three words, Wang Ji felt like a thorn in his back, remembering that as his official position rose, he also used his authority to attack political opponents in the power struggle, and he couldn\’t help but feel ashamed. From then on, he changed his mind and no longer harmed others, and his reputation in official circles became better and better. Because he abided by \”the heart should be kind\”, he lived a worry-free life. Mencius said: \”The heart of compassion is the root of benevolence.\” Being able to feel sympathy and compassion for the sufferings of others is the beginning of benevolence. Everyone will encounter twists and turns and even misfortune in their life journey. It is good to have compassion for the misfortune of others and to lend a helping hand to the best of your ability. And good intentions and good deeds will also bring good rewards to a person. As the \”Tao Te Ching\” says: \”The way of heaven has no relatives and always associates with good people.\” As the old saying goes: \”Good deeds and evil deeds will be rewarded.\” As a human being, you should \”never neglect doing good deeds because they are trivial, and do not do evil deeds because they are trivial.\” Having a kind heart and doing good deeds reflect a person\’s character and quality. Kind people will definitely make more true friends, and they will definitely get more help when they are in trouble. How you treat the world will be how the world treats you. A person\’s happiness is hidden in the kind deeds he performs in his daily life. The great principles of life have been clearly summarized by predecessors. Since then, \”Be slow in speech and kind in heart\” has been passed down from generation to generation as the family motto of the Wang family, and it has become the most famous family in the history. \”Words should be slow\” means advancing and retreating in a measured manner; \”mind should be kind\” means following goodness smoothly. These short 6 words are concise, concise and easy to understand, but they contain the most profound philosophy of life.