Inspiration from Haidian parents’ chicken-baby education

Since the last time we were completely crushed, my father and I have been exhausted physically and mentally. Later, when there were several opportunities for gatherings, I declined them because my son was attending extracurricular classes. This gathering was mainly because the child’s father was short of money. His classmate, the Haidian father who graduated from Tsinghua University, posted a photo of choosing books for his child in a bookstore in the group. The child\’s father replied: My son has all the books you selected. You can come to my house next time and take your time. select. Oh god🤦‍♀️On days when a mother is kind and her son is filial, and the years are peaceful, isn’t it fragrant? The child\’s father knew that he had \”caused trouble\”, and he had a smile on his face: \”There are two this time, not four\” (he also stretched out two fingers, as if he was biye, I really didn\’t know whether to laugh or cry). Since we all have other arrangements on the weekend, we made an appointment with my father, an investor from Tsinghua University, and my mother, a financial investment banker from Renmin University of China, to come to our house for a get-together on mid-week evening. This time the purpose was clear. They mainly wanted to see the books I had chosen for my son. We were so busy chatting at dinner last time (mainly because they were so busy chatting) that they didn’t bother to visit the study room. I dare not say anything else, but I still have some confidence in choosing books for my children (arrogant face), after all, that’s what I do! When doing reviews, I usually buy all similar books on the market for comparison; for new books that have just been published and have not yet been put on the shelves, the publisher will definitely send two sets to me as soon as possible for me to study slowly; for good foreign books, there are no imported editions , we took advantage of our trip abroad to move back, and if we couldn’t move it, I shopped overseas. So this time, I secretly planned to win the game. Last year, I watched \”The Dr. Ping Code\”, read \”Diary of a Wimpy Kid\”, and taught my son about nuclear fission. The 4-year-old cute baby is now 5 years old and is transitioning from childhood to childhood. Because he had to get up early for school the next day, he didn\’t come with him. . No matter what, my son is already so old, so he still wants to save face, okay? After dinner, my son went back to his room to do his homework, leaving us four Haidian parents (they were real, but the father and I felt like fake) chatting here and there. Why do parents in Haidian have chicken babies? As people who have been through this, my father and I asked (weakly) about their daughter’s transition from childhood. The investment banker\’s mother was laughing out loud because of a joke made by her child\’s father one second, but she immediately became serious the next second. She said that joining kindergarten bridging classes is just to allow children to adapt to the environment and atmosphere of \”group classes\” early. When it comes to what they have learned and to what extent they have learned, it depends on the foundation they have laid at home. How can they become fat by eating one bite? ? In the same way, studying intensively for one year will not have the same effect as studying step-by-step for three years! My father and I looked at each other, and Shensi gave him a big thumbs up. This realization is ok! It turns out that mothers make development plans of several thousand words every year since their children are 3 years old: languages, mathematics, science, art, programming, sports, etc. How to develop each item and what results need to be achieved in this year , listed clearly and clearly. And there are not only annual goals, but also quarterly plans; not only monthly goals, but also daily plans. She took a look at her phone. It showed the completion status of the children\’s various studies every day. It was carried out according to the plan every day. The couple and the elderly at home must be aware of it. Tsk tsk, the parents of overachievers are scarier than the overachieving classmates! The child\’s father turned to Tsinghua\’s father with a wicked smile:As soon as you invest, you have to take care of everything, so you definitely don’t have time to take care of your children’s studies, right? Tsinghua’s father looked shocked: How could it be! ! ! You underestimate me too much, I am also the main player of Jiba, okay? My father said that he has to change his mind frequently when he is busy at work. When he is tired from work, he studies the textbooks, tutorials, online courses and apps for his children. He has gone through almost all similar products on the market, or else he has gone to the bookstore to choose books. When you get it, flip through it and look at the table of contents, you will have a rough idea of ​​the structure of the book. People who often do research will know whether this set of books is organized scientifically or not as soon as they look through the table of contents. If they look at a few questions at random, they can roughly tell the level of difficulty. My father said that if he goes through all the books on the market in this way, he can quickly choose the most suitable one for his children. In order to win back the game, the child\’s father showed him a set of books that the publisher had just sent us. The eyes of these two top academic parents immediately shone. After mom turned it over, dad turned it over, and after dad finished flipping it, mother took it over and turned it over again. Tsinghua’s father said: When you get new books from now on, I will help you review them! Hey! It\’s too much. It doesn\’t matter if the top academics have crushed us since childhood, and they won\’t even let us lose our jobs. In order to change the topic, I talked about the Primary School Mathematical Olympiad. Some time ago, I gave you a set of supporting plans for primary school mathematics tutoring books. Later I talked about Gaosi Daobin and Xueersi Dabaiben, especially the Dabaiben, it’s just great! Disaster! Got it! Basically, I bought it to use as a \”town house\”. As a result, the couple from the science experimental class (both were involved in competitions at the beginning, and my father won the first prize in mathematics, physics and chemistry) told us sincerely: If we really want to compete in the cup competition, we can’t even use a white book! How can you achieve results by eating from a big pot? You must turn on a small stove! We thought about setting questions and plans for our children individually. The Mathematics, Physics, and Chemistry Olympiad is actually not difficult. I. . . . . . Oh, by the way, when Tsinghua’s father was tired from work, he went to study study plans for his children. You may not believe it when I tell you – when the investment banker’s mother was tired from work, she would do a few Mathematical Olympiad questions to decompress herself. She recalled what the Olympiad teacher was like back then. Said. We are a little lucky that our son is not a cool kid, otherwise ordinary parents like me and his father would be holding our children back. How awesome are Haidian children? We have all seen the awesome kids from the father\’s classmates. Last year, when I was 4 years old, I taught my son about nuclear fission. I went to visit the laboratory in Qingbei when I had nothing to do. I read elementary school students’ books and there were almost no new words… When we met this time, my father from Tsinghua University asked me solemnly: I have a problem. I want to Please give me some advice! I quickly waved my hand: I don’t dare to take it, I don’t take it, I don’t take it! He said: Isn’t it bad for a Chinese child to think in English? My child is now 5 years old. I translate English into Chinese for my child every day, just to change his English thinking. Clam? I quickly told him: Don’t worry about this, thinking in English is not that easy. He went on to say that his daughter is at home, and her grandparents have always used English to communicate with her since she was a child (both her grandparents are old college students who graduated from prestigious schools, and her grandfather majored in English), so the child is now very strong in English. For example, I am 5 years old now. When I lose my temper, I often stamp my feet in anger and don’t know whether to speak Chinese or English. Well……We, the melon-eaters, are all complaining and trying every means to create an authentic English environment for our children. People are already worried about what to do if their daughters are English-dominated. Sure enough, it is my IQ that limits my imagination. For people, English is not a problem, literacy is not a problem, and Mathematical Olympiad is not a problem. Compared with this, those Niu Wa resumes that are widely circulated on the Internet are really nothing. Tsinghua’s father said that the child of one of their college classmates successfully entered the Haidian Six Little Strong School this year. The couple said with emotion: This year is really too easy. There is no need to take a separate exam at all. Why are there any secret codes and passwords? Why are they so troublesome? As long as you have the first prize of the cup in your hand, just pick the school you most want to go to. The child\’s father said helplessly: Yes, then don\’t you also have to get first prize in the cup competition? Sure enough, the parents of Niu Wa and Pu Wa were not chatting in the same channel. How hard-core are the words and deeds of Shanghai Dian parents? In the process of contacting these parents of top academics, I found a particularly interesting thing. They all have special experiences in life. Someone who can guide children. For example, a father from Tsinghua University must have passed on some scientific genes to his daughter to some extent. But how can a child at what age be so interested in science? Even cartoons like \”Dr. Ping\’s Code\” and \”Screw\” are super scientific? Later, I accidentally found the answer. A father from Tsinghua University bought his daughter a portable microscope that clips onto a mobile phone. During this meeting, Tsinghua’s father took out the photos on his mobile phone and showed them to me and my child’s father: What do you think this is? We both:…? ? ? Tsinghua Dad: It’s a mole on my body, hahahaha~ What do you think this is? We both:…? ? ? Tsinghua father: It’s my daughter’s nosebleed (with an arrogant look on his face)! Last time she had a nosebleed, my first thought was to get a slide and quickly ask her to drop blood on it and look at it with a microscope. In this way, the father and I worked together to look at the microscopic world of hair, small soil particles, ant legs, mosquito wings… in the photo album on his mobile phone. (These are not the ready-made ones given to them, they were all made by himself when he took the baby to the suburbs on weekends! He said, \”This is what makes the impression so impressive!\”) Although he is already a fighter among cow dads, he still has a passion for everything. curiosity. At this party, it was already 11 o\’clock at night after we finished eating and chatting. The two of them still didn\’t forget the ultimate purpose of the trip and went straight to the study. My son\’s books are divided into Chinese and English. There is a Chinese bookshelf and an English bookshelf. The two of them are divided into two groups. One reads Chinese and the other reads English. They take pictures while reading. They focus, analyze and make comments. They also affirm me by the way. The ability to choose books (fearingly). The two of them each looked through their own bookshelves, then switched to the other\’s, saying they were checking and filling in the gaps to see if the other had missed anything. One moment this book was good, the other moment they liked that one, and they were completely immersed in the joy of choosing books. During the middle of the day, the father’s eyelids started to fight, and I almost didn’t know who I was or where I was. At around 12 o\’clock at night, the two of them finally finished watching, selecting, and filming. There were actually some books in his son\’s room, but the beast had to go to class the next day and went to bed early. The Haidian parents were obviously not satisfied and said they would come early next time and read the books in the room. To be honest, oftenFriends come to visit me at home, but every time they go to the study, they are most shocked: wow, there are so many books. Then take a photo and send it to Moments, that’s it. For parents like these top academics, who read and choose books so seriously, what else can I say besides being impressed. There is no love for no reason, no hate for no reason, and no success for no reason. When sending them downstairs, they mentioned that mom might be transferred to the UK to work for two or three years (it hasn’t been finalized yet, but it’s very likely). In this case, dad also planned to take a leave of absence from work without pay to take care of the children. Let\’s go together. The child\’s father said jokingly: From now on, you should be a housewife. CCTV recommends over 500 high-scoring documentaries. The child watched the pattern and became addicted to self-discipline. Tsinghua\’s father looked disdainful: How can I be idle? I have to study for a master’s degree again! You already have two master\’s degrees, and you want to study for a third one? Yes, my parents were top academics ten years before me. Tsinghua\’s father said seriously: I can\’t let my children see my father staying at home all day long, doing nothing. I want my children to see their father wearing academic robes and working hard. The child\’s father said leisurely: \”Academic robe, why don\’t you buy one on Taobao?\” 🤦‍♀️What a difference! To be honest, although my father and I are greatly irritated every time we meet these Haidian parents and friends, we also really admire them. Whenever I want to give up, take a break, or can\’t hold on, I think about them. Their children are born with higher IQs than our children, but as parents, they still work so hard and seriously to study their children\’s studies and accompany them. , guide children, influence children by precepts and deeds. What qualifications do we have for Buddhism? ▲An ostrich can bury its head in the sand, but it will still be eaten by a ferocious lion. Although the reality is cruel, parents who only know how to escape cannot raise children who face it bravely and work hard. Maybe we ordinary people will not be able to catch up with the footsteps of the top students in our lifetime. But many years later, when we look back at our efforts, we will find that compared with our past selves, we have grown and accumulated, and this is enough. The saying “Look to Beijing for national education, and look to Haidian for Beijing education” has been circulating for a long time. Although this may not be completely correct, Haidian’s educational resources are indeed abundant, and it is inevitable that the abundant resources will bring fierce competition. I have witnessed too many outstanding parents and children around me, and I feel more peaceful inside. Hard work is a must, but you also have to accept mediocrity.