How to choose a school suitable for your child from primary school to junior high school

What kind of school is a good school for children? What should parents pay attention to when choosing a school for their children? The choice of a child\’s school is a very personal issue. Each family\’s situation is different. The final choice must be based on their own circumstances and cannot be generalized. So, are there some common issues that parents need to pay attention to? I think there are still some. First of all, we must understand and respect the children\’s talents. Nowadays, too many parents only consider the school’s hardware and software conditions, but rarely consider their children’s talents, personalities, interests, etc. As a result, the local \”good\” school seems to be \”good\” for all children, and all parents flock to it. But is this school really suitable for my child? Children have their own souls, and no one can be the engineer of other people\’s souls. The better the teacher, the more he understands that he is just a \”gardener\”. His mission is to understand the nature of plants and the characteristics of their environment through patient and meticulous observation and study, and to find the most suitable way to cultivate them. In this process, the gardener must cultivate the plant according to its nature, rather than asking the plant to grow according to the gardener\’s ideas. For example, if your child is an apple, send him to an apple orchard, not a pear orchard. If you are shy, sensitive, and introverted by nature, you may not be suitable for a school with overly strict management. Children with this kind of personality are often not good at expressing themselves, and will hide unhappy things in their hearts. If things go on like this, they may become timid, cowardly, and have low self-esteem. Such problems may not occur in a child who is optimistic, lively and cheerful by nature. Therefore, when parents choose a school for their children, they must first fully understand and respect their children\’s talents, and try their best to choose a school that is suitable for their children and can fully develop and demonstrate their own characteristics and potential, rather than what others think of them. The \”best\” and \”most famous\” school. In addition to understanding our children, parents also need to understand ourselves and our school. As the saying goes, if you know yourself and the enemy, you can fight a hundred battles without danger. Every parent has his own beliefs and values, based on which he builds his own outlook on children and educational concepts. Some parents regard parenting as acceptance, respect, belief, awakening, etc.; other parents view education as discipline, carving, indoctrination, shaping, etc.; some parents hope that their children will succeed and honor their ancestors, while some parents only hope that their children can be healthy. Just be safe and happy. I personally think that no concept can be said to be absolutely right or wrong. It is just a personal choice as a parent. However, there is a problem here, that is, when parents choose a school for their children, they must fully understand the school\’s educational philosophy, policies, and characteristics, and try to match it with their own educational philosophy. Otherwise, when their children go to school and face specific problems that arise every day, parents will become more and more disappointed with the school, leading to more and more disagreements and growing conflicts. Over time, it is inevitable that your own uneasiness and anxiety will be passed on to your children, leaving them at a loss as to what to do and suffering. Parents should understand that no school can be completely suitable for their children and meet all their expectations. The key is to know what you value most. selectWhen choosing a school, you must also choose a loving environment. The school\’s mission is to \”preach, teach, and resolve doubts,\” but more importantly, it must have humanistic care. School teachers can base education and teaching on the basis of respect and trust for children, on tolerance and optimistic expectations, always have a sense of compassion and a spirit of love in their hearts, and respect the dignity and value of children as human beings. and uniqueness. With this kind of humanistic care, it can at least be guaranteed that teachers in this school will not use violence or cold violence to corporally punish children. Over the years, I have heard too many harmful incidents of school teachers insulting and corporally punishing students. Just imagine, an education that destroys children\’s self-love, self-esteem, and self-confidence. No matter how high the test score is, what\’s the point? A bad education is worse than no education. When choosing a school, you must have a normal mind and don\’t take the school too seriously. The ultimate direction of all education is self-education, and schools and examinations are not the ultimate goal of education, but only means, and they are not the only way to achieve educational goals. Children do not have to go to a certain school, and there are different ways for children to achieve success. If you look at your children\’s school choices or scores today with a 10- or 20-year perspective, you will naturally feel more confident and calm. [Chinese + Mathematics + English] The more problematic the education system and schools are, the more we as parents have to shoulder the heavy responsibility of educating our children. You must have your own educational concepts, goals and principles, and cannot blindly follow the school or teacher. We need to understand that, in a sense, schools that force children to win at the starting line are more likely to make children lose in the future. Because they only focus on children’s grades and blindly cater to the exam-oriented education system, the qualities and abilities of children that schools kill are exactly what these children need most in the future when they enter society, such as the ability to listen to their own hearts, the ability to choose, and the ability to think independently. Competence, the ability to love and share, and so on. Regarding how to choose a school, each parent will make a choice based on his or her actual situation. Even if the same child is at different stages such as kindergarten, primary school, middle school, etc., the reference standards for choosing a school will be different, and he must have his own principles and standards. Finally, I would like to borrow a sentence from writer Chi Li to send to all parents: \”I hope that my daughter can first understand the meaning of life from a real life. If she slowly understands that food and clothing are a big thing, diligence and thrift are a virtue. , Calmness is a kind of atmosphere, tolerance is a kind of true love, knowing is the best, what kind of homework in the world can she not get an A in?\”