What does it mean to be diverted in the high school entrance examination? The truth is so heartbreaking

I was shopping outside a few days ago and happened to bump into a former colleague I hadn\’t seen for a long time. After chatting for a few words, I found that the other person\’s words were full of melancholy. After careful questioning, I found out that her son was taking the high school entrance examination this year and was studying in a local key middle school. His usual scores were always around the top 20 in the class. Logically speaking, it was not a problem to get into high school. But this time in the high school entrance examination, her son made mistakes in two big questions in mathematics due to sloppy calculations; in the Chinese composition, he went astray because he did not review the questions clearly. In the end, he only got 28 points out of 50; even physics, which he is best at, was affected by his mentality. In the end, she didn\’t even finish answering the questions… After her son finished the exam, he locked himself in the room and cried loudly. She felt bad at the time, and as expected, after the scores came out a few days ago, they were worse than ever before. Not to mention key high schools, even ordinary high schools were in the lead. In the past two days, she has been asking people to find connections so that her child can go to high school. She is very worried. According to her, although her son is a bit poor in liberal arts, the teacher said that he is very talented in science and has a quick brain reaction. He could have flourished in high school. But I didn\’t expect that I failed in the high school entrance examination due to \”sloppy\”, \”poor understanding\”, \”poor mentality\” and other details that I usually don\’t pay attention to. Let alone show off your talents now, it is hard to say whether you will be able to go to high school or college in the future. To be honest, as a mom of a third grade boy, I’ve been tossing and turning all night since my conversation with this friend. 01 The high school entrance examination shunting is often more cruel to boys. CCTV recommends over 500 high-scoring documentaries. Your children will become addicted to self-discipline after watching the pattern. Have you noticed that most of the parents around you who are worried that their children will be \”shunted\” by the high school entrance examination are male parents. This anxiety is not groundless. You see, the one who loses focus in class, makes jokes, and is on pins and needles is definitely a boy; the one who gets a headache when writing essays and finds it difficult to memorize a text is also a boy; as for the one who is grumbling, has sloppy handwriting, and is just so-so when it comes to writing homework, The one who never checks is still a boy. My best friend once complained to me: Her son is in fifth grade this year. He has to watch TV for an hour every day when he comes back from school. He has to ask for help before he can do his homework. Every 10 minutes, he has to find an excuse to go out for a walk. Then Just one look at my homework makes my blood pressure soar. As for my sister who is in third grade, she started to do her homework without any prompting. She sat there for two hours and did her homework perfectly every time. Compared to girls, boys are like unenlightened monkeys. Is this not worrying? Moreover, the questions in the high school entrance examination in recent years have generally been relatively simple. Once the distinction between questions is small, it requires more attention, memory, and completeness in answering questions. At this time, boys will suffer even more. Especially when boys reach adolescence, their self-control is particularly poor. Being active, playful, watching TV, and playing games… are simply common problems among boys. A friend who is a class teacher once said: There is a boy in her class who is very smart and has always had good grades. But during the summer vacation of the second grade of junior high school, the parents put their children in the care of their grandmother because of their work, and the children became addicted to mobile games. After coming back, the boy changed completely. He couldn\’t concentrate in class and was in a trance.Surprisingly, my grades also plummeted. In the end, his results in the high school entrance examination were disastrous, and he was transferred to a local vocational school to attend high school. Mo Yan has publicly expressed that he hopes to \”delay diversion.\” One of the important reasons is that most boys mature late and are not very sensible in junior high school. He also said frankly: \”The high school entrance examination shunting is indeed a bit cruel to late-maturing boys.\” The high school entrance examination shunting is a severe test for those boys who are \”late to mature\”. 02Boys \”come on late\” because their brains are so different. Of course, we cannot entirely blame boys for their late onset of puberty. It is mainly due to the development of their brains. First of all, boys\’ brains develop slower than girls, and the left side of the brain, which is responsible for language and logic, develops even later in the evening. Especially in terms of language, logic, fine movements, etc., they are all slower. Therefore, boys are slow and careless in doing homework, and are generally inferior to girls in writing, recitation, language expression, reading comprehension and other aspects. Secondly, the frontal lobes of boys\’ brains also develop slower than girls, so boys are prone to impulsiveness, have great mood swings, and have less self-control. Moreover, boys have more dopamine secretion in their blood than girls, so boys have more energy than girls. In class, girls will sit quietly even if they don\’t like to listen, while boys look around and jump up and down. In the documentary \”The Secret Life of Growing Up: The Most Adolescent Years\”, it was pointed out that due to differences in the brains of men and women, girls will quickly \”get the head start\” on the road to growth. Therefore, generally in primary school and junior high school, girls are more likely to become good students in the class. A friend of mine once said that in the junior high school class she taught, in the first year of junior high school, only 2 of the top 10 were boys, while girls occupied the top 3 almost all year round. On the contrary, most of the low-ranking students were boys. Fortunately, although boys wake up later, they generally have greater stamina. Professor Raquel Gur of the University of Pennsylvania found in her research that boys\’ brain modularity increased significantly after the age of 13.1. They believe this means that boys\’ brains are beginning to reorganize and optimize. Just like the son of one of my predecessors, when he was in junior high school, he was still at the bottom of the class; but since he entered high school, he seemed to have been opened up to the second line of Ren and Du, and he worked hard to catch up, and finally passed the exam successfully. A pretty good 985 university. Boys do have stronger stamina, but the most important prerequisite is that you have a chance to counterattack. Even this senior admitted that if her son had been born 10 years later, he would have had to go through the high school entrance examination. He might have been rejected long ago, and there would be no chance of going to 985. It’s not that vocational high schools are bad, but the learning atmosphere, teachers, teaching environment, and majors available for students to choose from are extremely “limited.” Once a boy is diverted, it will be difficult for a boy to enter higher education or counterattack in the future. 03 If there is a boy in the family, you must not leave it alone. I saw a mother asking a question on the Internet: \”My son entered a local vocational high school after the high school entrance exam was diverted last year. Now he is just messing around every day. But I have never understood why my son has always been very smart since he was a child. Why is he not even in an ordinary high school?\” Failed the exam?\” One netizen hit the nail on the head:\”If parents are attentive and children work hard, it is difficult for children to fail to pass the high school entrance examination if they have the same qualifications.\” Yes, hard work can make up for weakness, and no matter how inexperienced a boy is, he cannot resist the care of his parents and his own hard work. To successfully pass the \”diversion\” test, parents of boys must put in more effort and sweat. Those boys who look outstanding and dazzling are indispensable behind their parents\’ attentive companionship, continuous supervision, and strict discipline. In view of the weaknesses of boys, I suggest that parents of boys do these five things well in primary school. 1. Cultivate children\’s interest in reading. Anyone who has read the high school entrance examination questions in recent years should know that the high school entrance examination has very high requirements for reading comprehension in various subjects. Children who are not good at reading will not only be unable to get high scores in Chinese, but their scores in politics, history, and even mathematics that require understanding the meaning of the questions will also be affected. If you want to cultivate boys\’ reading ability, you must accumulate it bit by bit from an early age. Interest is the best teacher, and love is the greatest motivation. Don\’t force boys to read obscure classics. Let them start with books that interest them. Remember to put down your mobile phone at ordinary times, create more reading atmosphere, and set a good example. Once a child\’s interest in reading is developed, it will not only be beneficial to future understanding of topics, but will also benefit them throughout their lives. 2. Find a learning method suitable for boys. The same method involves memorizing the text. Girls may memorize it in 15 minutes, but boys are still stumbling after half an hour. Brain science research has confirmed that boys are more receptive to stimulation from charts, images and even moving objects than monotonous verbal stimulation. If you think boys are slow learners, you may just not be using the right method. Parents can try this: when reciting ancient poems, they can guide him to close his eyes and imagine a picture; usually attract boys to participate in discussions and create an active atmosphere; when teaching boys, they can arrange more hands-on practices in activities, Play more games. If you find the right method, the boy\’s learning will naturally get twice the result with half the effort. 3. Develop a stable mentality. Affected by testosterone, boys mature more slowly and are more fragile than girls. Especially large-scale exams like high school entrance exams often rely on on-the-spot performance and mentality. To help a boy develop a strong heart, parents must create a relaxed family environment from an early age: when he fails in a test, do not criticize him harshly, but give him full love and acceptance; when he fails, comfort him in time, Teach him to be optimistic about winning and losing in life. In this way, he will not lose control of his emotions due to a temporary failure and always maintain a normal mind. 4. Develop good study habits. Many parents have said something like this: My son is actually quite smart, but he is sloppy; he can actually do this question, but he was too slow to answer the first question and did not finish it later; he memorized this knowledge point I passed, but I just forgot during the exam… In fact, problems such as slow answering, carelessness, poor memory… etc., in the final analysis, are insufficient knowledge and lack of good study habits. Therefore, it is crucial to help children develop good study habits and lay a solid foundation from an early age. For example, the habit of consciously writing homework, the habit of planning, the habit of independent thinking, the habit of frequent checking, the habit of previewing and reviewing… Parents must pay close attention to their children\’s study habits as early as possible to let him quit behavioral and ideological habits. Lazy,Only then can he learn consciously and make continuous progress. 5. Improve self-confidence. Before high school, boys in many classes were overshadowed by girls. This outstanding performance of girls will also sting the self-esteem of many boys and easily cause them to develop an inferiority complex. To cultivate boys\’ self-confidence, parents can guide boys to do things they are good at. Allow them to take risks, support their hobbies, and encourage them to participate in competitive sports, such as mountain climbing, swimming, playing ball, cycling, etc. Confident boys have a greater sense of purpose and can face difficulties head on. I heard a saying: \”The raising process of a boy is destined to be tortuous. On this road, the boy is like a playful elephant, who can only see the present. The parents are the elephant riders who hold the map in their hands and can see into the distance.\” Raising boys is always fraught with anxiety and challenges. Only parents who understand the growth pattern of boys and use more scientific and suitable methods to educate boys can achieve twice the result with half the effort. I hope every parent can wait patiently, guide with care, and water carefully. I believe that one day, our boy will blossom and bear fruit and be amazing. Give a thumbs up and encourage us together.