Pay attention to the hour before going to bed, which determines your child\’s life

As parents, we are always with our children as they grow. The famous educator Mihir Burba once said: The most prime time for parent-child companionship in the 24 hours a day is the hour before parents and children go to bed. Just one hour may seem inconspicuous, but it is enough to affect a child\’s life. Parents must know that if you do the following four points, your children will definitely become better and better. 1. Parent-child reading For children, the sooner they develop the habit of reading, the better. How big is the difference between children who love reading and those who don’t? Teacher Yin Jianli mentioned such a case in the book \”A Good Mother is Better than a Good Teacher\”. She once had long-term contact with four children in the fifth grade of a certain elementary school. Xiaofei and Xiaozhuang are the kind of children who study very hard but have mediocre grades. Xiaobo is a student with excellent grades and strong abilities in all aspects. The last Xiao Cheng is a student with average grades, lazy in all aspects, but excellent eloquence. The composition level of the first two children was very poor. Not only was the content poor, but there were also many grammatical errors and typos. The latter two children\’s composition level is very good. [Children\’s Bedtime Stories] The collector\’s edition of 300 classic philosophical stories is not only free of typos, but also has unique insights. When they reach the third grade of junior high school, the gap in level becomes even wider. Although Xiaofei, Xiaozhuang and Xiaocheng are in the same ordinary junior high school, Xiaofei and Xiaozhuang are struggling more and more with their studies, and their grades have been declining, but they are almost at the bottom; while Xiaocheng\’s grades have been rising and they are among the best in the class. Xiaobo attended a key junior high school after graduating from elementary school. Due to his excellent grades, he was recommended to a key senior high school in his third year of junior high school. Why are the achievement gaps between several children getting bigger and bigger? After getting to know them, teacher Yin Jianli found that Xiaofei and Xiaozhuang did almost zero extracurricular reading. As soon as they picked up extracurricular books at home, their parents strongly opposed them, fearing that they would affect the learning of in-class knowledge. But Xiaobo and Xiaocheng love reading very much. There are many books in Xiaobo\’s home, and his reading volume far exceeds that of his peers. Xiao Cheng often goes to bookstores to look for books and reads whatever he finds. Therefore, let your children fall in love with reading from an early age. Parent-child reading is an effective method. Parent-child reading can not only increase the emotions of children and parents, but also cultivate children\’s learning ability, language expression ability, and improve cultural literacy. 2. Simply guide parents to help their children recall what happened that day, pleasant things and unpleasant things, and cultivate their children\’s language expression ability. At the beginning, the child may not be willing to tell, or the description may be relatively empty and unspecific, but it does not matter, our focus is not here. As parents, we should guide slowly, not only cultivate the child\’s ability to reflect and summarize, but also establish Good parent-child relationship enhances the relationship between children and parents. 3. Make plans for the next day. Plan tomorrow with your children before going to bed, look forward to tomorrow, make plans together and clarify goals. This will not only make children more motivated, but also allow them to participate in learning more efficiently. The cultivation of this habit can not only Cultivate children\’s good habits of planning study and life. You don’t need to be too careful at the beginning. You just need to guide the children to explain what we are going to do tomorrow. Over time, the child will develop a goodplanning habits. 4. Praise before going to bed. Many parents habitually make critical summaries of their children before going to bed. Perhaps they subconsciously believe that this will enable their children to deepen their understanding of their own mistakes before going to bed, thereby achieving The effect of correction is exactly the opposite. There is a famous experiment in psychology called the Pygmalion effect, which is a typical social psychological effect. Generally speaking, the higher the expectations of those who expect them, the better their performance will be. We all know that good children are praised, especially before going to bed. The child\’s mood is very important. Parents must find out what their children did well today and praise them. This way, they can let the children know what is right and what is wrong. It can also enhance children\’s self-confidence.