These three types of mothers can never teach promising children no matter how tired they are.

It is said that a child is a piece of flesh that has fallen off the mother\’s body and has an emotional connection that is beyond ordinary people. From the moment a child is born, a mother will naturally devote herself wholeheartedly to her child, from life and health maintenance to daily life education. As long as it touches the future development of the child, we will be cautious. However, living habits and behaviors can be easily improved, but ideas are deeply ingrained. Many mothers are either influenced by their original family or forced by their existing family, and there are many inappropriate ways to educate their children. The education methods that they are proud of or that come naturally may be the source of disaster for their children. Among them, the education methods of these three mothers are particularly suffocating. No matter how tired they are, they cannot teach promising children. 01 Put grades first and ignore mental health. The success of children’s education has always been judged by the scores. This clear and clear standard of judgment directly leads to comparisons between parents. Some mothers will even spend money to arrange many extracurricular classes regardless of their children\’s wishes in order to improve their children\’s academic performance. I should have enjoyed a happy childhood, but I was troubled by heavy studies. It’s not scary to have such worries at such a young age. What’s scary is that as a mother, she only puts her grades first and neglects her children’s mental health. Just like Tian Yulan in \”Little Reluctance\”, she is a typical representative. The academic requirements for children are almost crazy. In front of outsiders, he does everything possible to show off his son\’s excellence, even going so far as to ask his son to memorize 200 digits of pi at the family dinner. Because my math score dropped a few points, I couldn\’t accept it. I went straight to the school and reported the math teacher to expulsion. They also enrolled their children in many cram schools and did not allow them to have fun at all. Tian Yulan\’s education method makes everyone suffocate, and she is indeed the true embodiment of many mothers today. In fact, grades are only a stage assessment of life and cannot represent everything. Caring too much about grades will only make children panic. Compared with studying, a healthy mind and a correct character are the most important. 02 Only focus on punishment when making mistakes and ignore spiritual growth. Life is a stage of constant trial and error. Even adults who have been through many years of ups and downs will still have trouble thinking and acting inappropriately, let alone children who are not familiar with the world? When faced with their children\’s wrong behavior, parents generally have two extreme ways of dealing with it. Some will choose to teach gently and then take full responsibility as if nothing happened. And some will scold them severely, punish their children corporally, or even beat them. As everyone knows, the native family will have a great impact on the children. Children who grow up under the encouragement of love tend to be gentle and optimistic in character. On the contrary, children who grow up under malicious beatings have a hidden inferiority side. Due to long-term negative treatment, when faced with hardships, they will subconsciously question themselves and become submissive, unwilling to even take the opportunity to try. A large part of the reason for children\’s inaction is attributed to parents\’ miseducation. As a parent, you should always remember that making mistakes is a sign of growth, not failure. We should provide correct guidance instead of just blaming. Don\’t let your warm home turn into a terrifying nightmare. 03DominationA newborn child who has a strong desire and ignores subjective development is like a blank sheet of paper. The final picture is all written by the parents. Many parents will feel that they have an obligation and the need to \”interfere\” in their children\’s choices and \”decision-making\” about their children\’s future. They always think that their actions are justified and irrefutable. However, after reading relevant surveys, I realized that in today\’s society, most of the troubles children have come from their mothers\’ control. A netizen’s sharing on the Internet impressed me deeply. Because in addition to the verbal description, she also included a breathtaking picture: a hole was made in the bedroom door by a heavy object. And all this was just because the mother privately browsed the child\’s privacy. Netizens felt deeply uncomfortable and sought explanations from her, which only made them furious. The argument was fruitless, so I went back to the bedroom and locked the door and sulked. Unexpectedly, my mother smashed a big hole in the bedroom and plausibly said: You are my daughter, and I have the right to know everything about you. Her mother\’s controlling nature once gave her bad thoughts, and the hole in the door was a lifelong shadow for her. A controlling mother will be arbitrary and will not tolerate questioning, let alone objection or rejection. If things go on for a long time, it will only make children bored and resistant, and even lose their ability to think independently, and then they will be eliminated by the cruel society. A truly wise mother will not only not control her children, but will cultivate her children\’s autonomy and give them space to develop freely. Only with strong enough wings can we face the unfavorable world calmly. There was a topic on Zhihu: What does a successful mother look like? One highly praised answer is: Whenever I think of it, I will not resist, fear, or escape, but will feel happy, happy, and relieved. No matter whether life is happy or sad, it can be revealed without restraint in front of her. The wisdom in dealing with people, the positive and optimistic attitude, and the abilities that are different from ordinary people are all brought by a mother who is rich in spirit. Only by maintaining positive education can we cultivate glorious children.