Should children be allowed to watch TV?

This holiday, our family of three went to the home of a female friend whom we had not seen for a long time. As soon as I walked in, I felt something strange. After sitting in the living room for a few minutes, I realized that her high-end home theater equipment and the TV were missing. I really appreciate the design of the living room without a TV. Parents and children can get close to each other and sit around chatting and playing, which makes it feel more like home. But to be honest, I never expected that these two friends would give up their audio and video equipment. \”Dongxi asked me to move to my mother\’s house half a year ago. Hey, isn\’t it all for the sake of the children? I\’m afraid that his eyes would be damaged if he clamored to watch cartoons.\” Faced with my doubts, my friend pursed his lips and turned his gaze to The love in the eyes of my son, who was placing building blocks in the middle of the ground, could not hide his exhaustion. Her husband stood aside and spread his hands, with a hint of helplessness in his smile. This young couple used to be well-known literary young people in our circle. The boy was obsessed with movies, and the girl loved music. When they first got married, they didn\’t have much money, but they didn\’t hesitate to invest in audio and video equipment. I haven\’t eaten meat or bought any clothes for half a year, so I just collected the things I like. When they didn\’t have children, their home was a good place for friends to gather, with fine wine, food, music, and movies. A pair of \”fairy couples\” indulged in an ideal life. When they talked about their favorite things, their whole person exuded the spirit of love. The light, that kind of trusting look, is really enviable. But since the birth of the child, their little happiness seems to have come to an end. The reason is very simple. The girl is an overly serious mother, who is \”harsh\” to herself and her children. She is often overly nervous and stubborn to the point of making people laugh or cry. She firmly believed that the mother was the best educator for her children. Her grandparents were worried about raising their children, so she gave up her job with good prospects and returned home to be a full-time mother. She was so tired that she had a fever of 40 degrees and was about to collapse, but she refused to give herself a day off. . She was worried that cosmetics would affect her breast-feeding. She used to have delicate makeup, but after giving birth, she went bare-faced. Even though her complexion was very bad due to lack of rest, she did not make any modifications. She even reduced the use of skin care products, leaving the traces of time on her face. . She is afraid that mobile phone radiation will affect her children, so she controls herself and her husband not to use mobile phones in front of their children, and must stay five meters away from their children when using them. She suspected that the milk powder purchased by her friend\’s friend was not reliable enough and asked the other party to provide a video of the entire purchase process. This made the other party very embarrassed and unwilling to help anymore. This time, in order not to give her children a chance to become addicted to TV programs, she simply removed all their favorite audio and video equipment. For the sake of her children, there is nothing she cannot give up. This is her motherly motto. The husband didn\’t quite understand many of his wife\’s behaviors after giving birth to the baby, but he felt sorry for the difficulty of his wife sacrificing for the baby. Even though he felt tens of thousands of grievances in his heart, he had no choice but to hold it back silently. \”Xiao Yi, don\’t touch Auntie\’s things, put them down! Don\’t move them!\” I was startled by my friend\’s sudden roar. I turned around and saw that it was her precious son who was picking up the iPad in my handbag and playing with it. , his mother gave the order, and he was so frightened that he immediately retracted his little hand. \”It doesn\’t matter, let the children play for a while. My daughter will also watch \”Peppa Pig\” and \”Mickey Mouse Clubhouse or something like that, it’s okay to watch it for a while. \”I was just about to give some advice when she immediately told me that her son had not watched an episode of cartoons until he was three and a half years old. She was worried that the child had poor self-control and would not be able to control himself once he started quitting. It was good to watch. It turns out that she really cares about her son watching TV. \”We don\’t watch movies or listen to music anymore. \”She specifically emphasized that the subtext is that all parents have done it, and children are no exception. Her daughter and her little brother were playing with toys together and said that we should build a house for \”Super Wings\”. The little boy scratched his head and didn\’t know what to do. It’s Super Wings. My daughter said let’s give it to “Pig Man”. The little boy asked who “Pig Man” was. “Super Wings” and “Pig Man” are both characters in cartoons, but they made The children with different education methods were confused. One seemed to be listening to Martian language, and the other seemed to have encountered a generation gap. When his friend saw this, he quickly told his son that the little sister was talking about cartoons. You can’t watch them. It’s not good for your eyes. Like his father, he is short-sighted and cannot see clearly. A question from the child triggered a series of reactions from the mother. Finally, the little boy lowered his head and stopped asking questions. It was obvious that he was unhappy, but he did not dare to express it. I just want to use silence to block the new round of maternal love offensive. How could such a young child be so knowledgeable if he wasn\’t used to his mother\’s thoughts? Sitting in the living room of my friend\’s house without a TV, I didn\’t feel the feeling I imagined. The warmth of parent-child life only makes me feel depressed, and I just want to escape as soon as possible. Think about it, there are actually not a few parents like this in such families. They use the method of squeezing themselves to \”lead by example\” and \”give everything they have\” to their children, but they Never consider whether the child\’s weak shoulders can and are willing to bear this heavy love. Children who grow up in this kind of family have natural pressure. They are immersed in the dedication of their parents to them, so they are particularly afraid of disappointing them. Such Parents are often exhausted. They regard \”for their children\” as a great sacrifice, do not allow themselves to relax at all, and make their lives very difficult. Children have been suppressed for a long time. If one day they want to \”rebel\”, etc. Just wait and see, these parents will scold them with angrily eyes, and then say the classic sentence with full of sadness, \”You heartless thing, everything I do is for you.\” Parents and children, hand in hand, are there for you. We walk together in this world, I grow up with you, and you guard me as I grow old. We have a lot of fate, but we are independent individuals after all. Why do we have to turn our care into a bond and put too many constraints on each other. Smart Parents will never put their own values ​​above their children, but will give their children the greatest degree of freedom on the basis of abiding by principles. I want to tell her that TV is not a scourge, and cartoons will not devour children. If you think about it differently, it is also a window to the unknown world, isn\’t it? Children\’s curiosity is natural. As long as we guide it correctly, it will be unlimited spiritual wealth. What we must admit is that putting away the TV It is just a simple method, but it is not a wise method; abandoning yourself to pay attention to your children is just a low-level teaching, but it cannot be called a proper education. I hope my friendsWhile you are a qualified mother, you are still the little girl with infinite love for life. She takes time for herself and continues to listen to the music she likes and watch the movies she can’t get enough of. I hope she can have a secret channel to relieve her sorrow and a warm arm to entrust her soul in her anxious and entangled time. I hope she can take her eyes away from the child, take good care of herself, take good care of her family, and stop pushing herself so hard and being so tired. I even hope that Xiao Yi, her precious son, can grow up in a relaxed and happy family environment, without being pampered or indulged, nor having his nature suppressed, and become a young man with independent opinions, principles and a broad vision. On the way home, I looked at my sleeping daughter in my arms, and suddenly I recalled the scene of the family sitting together doing their favorite things: Dad was watching a basketball game, Mom was reading a book, and my daughter was setting up building blocks. While the daughter was playing, she suddenly ran to her father and said, \”I want to watch basketball too.\” The father held his daughter in his arms and said, \”Okay, baby.\” My daughter giggled happily and pulled me to her side, holding a book, and said, \”Mom, let\’s read it too. Let\’s read it together as a family.\” Yes, let’s share happy things as a family. As for the rules and principles, and the rules and regulations on the road to growth, let’s explore them together.