Ma Yili regretted giving birth to a child and admitted that the birth of her child changed her too much…

Ma Yili has always given us the impression of an enthusiastic, free and capable strong woman. Most of these impressions are left to us by her image on the screen. In real life, Ma Yili is not so free and easy. Especially in 2014, when she was pregnant with her second child, Wen Zhang was photographed being intimate with Yao Di on the streets of Shenzhen as if no one else was watching. In the face of overwhelming media reports, the article chose to admit that it was his own fault. When everyone expressed support for Ma Yili\’s divorce, Ma Yili made a surprising decision: to continue living with Wen Zhang. Her phrase \”do it and cherish it\” even became a famous saying for a time! Many people don\’t understand why Ma Yili swallows her anger like this. Although she is famous and has a career, she chooses to forgive a cheating \”scumbag\”? Many people feel sorry for her, and many others believe that the marriage has cracked and cannot be repaired, and that the two people will not be happy in their future marriage. Why did Ma Yili choose to forgive the article? A few days ago, Ma Yili told the truth in an interview with the media: everything is because of the children! Ma Yili said that she was once a person who did not want children. After having the child, her first feeling was that she was very sad and regretted having the child. Because children have to endure a lot of suffering. Ma Yili mentioned that children suffer a lot. She told two small things. One was that when the child was just born, blood was drawn from the heel to screen for serious diseases. At that time, the nurse came over and drew the blood without saying hello. She and the article couldn\’t hold back their emotions in an instant. They couldn\’t bear it. He burst into tears. The second thing was that my daughter had severe jaundice when she was born, so she needed to be treated with a blue light. When she looked at the child who was only three or four days old, wearing only a small diaper and wearing an eye mask and being exposed to blue light in a glass machine, she felt heartbroken. When the child cries, she takes it out. The blue light was going to illuminate 24 small things, so Ma Yili stood in front of the blue light box wearing sunglasses until two o\’clock in the middle of the night. She couldn\’t stand it anymore and burst into tears. She said that before she had children, she was a very optimistic person and believed that many things in the world could be overcome. But after the child was born, she discovered that she felt powerless against the setbacks her child had to face. Ma Yili said that since having a child, she has become much weaker. She used to hate crying, but she became very tearful after giving birth. I used to think that I was very powerful, but after becoming a mother, I realized that there were times when I was particularly weak and vulnerable. Since becoming a mother, she feels that she has become gentler and more understanding of others. This tolerance and gentleness are not only for outsiders, but also for the other half of the family. When she was newly married and had no children, Ma Yili said that she had a very tough temper and would not take the initiative to reconcile when she was angry. But after having a child, she found that if the relationship was stalemate as soon as there was a quarrel, both husband and wife would be hurt in the end. She chose not to argue about right and wrong in marriage, and began to find that right and wrong in marriage were not that important. The opinions are all due to different perspectives. Compared to being immersed in one\’s own emotions, a normal family atmosphere is more important! Because of the child, Ma Yili began to change. Because of the child, Ma Yili became weak and tolerant, willing to reconcile in the relationship rather than confront her.anti. She would forgive the article because she saw her own changes in the growth of her children, and was willing to face the failure of her marriage and choose to reconcile and start again. As a mother, I was extremely moved when I saw what Ma Yili said. Giving birth to a child changes a woman\’s life in a way that is truly unimaginable. As Ma Yili said, after giving birth to children, people will become weak. Many mothers around me, like Ma Yili, thought they were strong and capable of facing all difficulties and setbacks when they were single. After giving birth to a child, everything has changed. I will become nervous and anxious because of the little problems of the child. A friend said that the day after her child was born, the doctor checked several times and said the child’s ears and hearing did not pass the screening and asked them to come back for a re-examination in 42 days. My friend is a very strong person and has never shed a tear in front of outsiders before. After the doctor left that day, she suddenly burst into tears uncontrollably. Her husband and the confinement nanny who took care of her were both frightened. My husband said that it was the first time he discovered that she could cry, and she cried so sadly. My friend said that he could not understand how he could become so weak after having a child. Throughout the confinement period, my friends were on tenterhooks, suspicious, and worried about their child\’s ears. I would often cry sadly for no apparent reason. It was only after 42 days that my friend finally relaxed after a reexamination showed that the child\’s ears were fine. There is also a friend who came home from the hospital with her newborn baby. When giving the baby a bath, she suddenly found that she had no idea what to do. After all the fussing, my friend burst into tears. She said that for the first time she felt her own incompetence. She never thought that she could not even bathe her baby. The same goes for me. Ever since I was a child, I never thought that I would be nervous and scared because my child had a fever. But when Zaizai had a fever for the first time in more than four months, looking at the rising body temperature, I was so scared that I started crying, and my mind was filled with all kinds of bad thoughts. That time, I really realized how helpless we are when it comes to our children\’s problems. Such behavior may seem weak, but in fact it is the gentleness that is unique to mothers. The key reason why I feel sad for my child’s suffering and worried about my child is because I care! If you don\’t care about your children, how can you be sad because of your children\’s problems? Children are like a mirror, reflecting the weakest side of ourselves that we are not even aware of. This weakness may be objectionable and disgusting to many of us. It shows our inner powerlessness. Originally, when we were alone, we could use various methods to numb ourselves, try our best to escape, and get rid of this feeling of powerlessness. The birth of a child makes us discover that as long as we face the child, we must face our own inner powerlessness in the child\’s weakness, and there is nowhere to escape. Weakness and helplessness make us become \”mother-in-law and mother-in-law\”. We were once so strong that we would not shed tears in front of outsiders no matter what, but in the face of children\’s problems, we will cry inadvertently. Those moments of fear and worry that once only flashed through in the dead of night and when there was no escape, are now likely to happen when a child falls or becomes ill, forcing us to face it… Escape is not an option! Weakness is not the answer! After crying hard, after the inner weakness and powerlessness are aroused again and again, many mothers choose not to escape, but to turn around, face their own weakness and powerlessness, and face their own limited power to deal with their children\’s problems. The wonderful thing is that at the moment of turning around, , we begin to experience physical changes. As long as we experience and feel this weakness with our hearts, we can slowly see our own strength from it, and find that we are not as fragile and helpless as we imagined, and that vulnerability actually contains strength. A friend of mine\’s daughter was born with intracranial hemorrhage. The doctor rushed to rescue her and asked her to prepare for the worst. The chance of the child being rescued was very low. Even if the child was rescued, she would probably suffer from cerebral palsy in the future because of the brain injury. When she first heard the news, her friend said that she was trembling all over, her mind went blank, and tears fell from her eyes. But after a few seconds, she calmed down and realized that she could not be weak at this time, otherwise she could only watch helplessly. Watching the newborn baby leave. The friend begged the doctor to save the child no matter what, saying that no matter what the child\’s future would be, she would accept it and she would make every effort to raise the child. Fortunately, the child was eventually rescued. On the day she was discharged from the hospital, the doctor gave her special instructions on many nursing matters and methods. Keeping her friend in mind, she checked out a lot of professional knowledge and has not stopped since the confinement. She has been studying all kinds of baby care knowledge crazily. She touches the baby every day, reads children\’s songs, tells stories, and performs various rehabilitation trainings to promote the baby\’s brain. She does all developmental behaviors. Through her friend\’s unremitting efforts, her child recovered very well. Now he is in elementary school, very smart, and has excellent grades. Many women, like this friend of mine, begin to become stronger after becoming mothers. There is no other reason, just because I see my own weakness in the child. Some mothers can\’t even tell the difference between salt and sugar before they have children. After giving birth, in order to make their children eat nutritious and healthy foods, they learn all kinds of nutritional knowledge and become nutrition experts. Some mothers are very particular about hygiene and love hygiene, but after having a baby, they become very nervous. Even if the baby poops next to her while eating, she can handle it with ease. Even through thick clothes in winter, she can keenly detect that the baby has pooped. Some mothers have never done any heavy physical work before giving birth, but since they have a baby, they are held and coaxed every day, and they gradually become strong men. They can hold the baby with one hand, make milk with the other hand, and also hold the baby in front of them. The baby has a bag on his back and a stroller hanging on his body! When we see the weakness of our children and see our own worries, fears, and powerlessness towards our children, this weakness will actually make us more powerful. This is the power of motherhood, because it is weak, it is strong! After many women become mothers, they feel that their lives have become complete. The most important reason is this. Children allow us to see those traits that have been deeply suppressed in us. When we face and accept our \”bad\” ”, gain strength. This is the life growth that children bring to mothers!