Just because the mother refused to buy 170 yuan pants, the child actually held a knife…a wake-up call for all parents

Children who are ungrateful, what use do I have from you! As soon as she got to work this morning, Rui\’s mother saw a very infuriating news: because her mother refused to buy 170 yuan pants, the \”giant baby\” brought a knife and caused a row in the bank. Yes, the \”giant baby\” in the title is this mother\’s son. What happened is this: Recently, in Tonggu County, Yichun, Jiangxi Province, because the mother refused to buy her son 170 yuan of pants, the son lost control of his emotions and even caused a riot in the bank with a knife. He also shouted loudly: One life is worth one life, and I can’t live with it anyway. He was finally subdued after the police arrived. (Please click on the video below for details) After watching the video, Rui’s mother couldn’t help but think of a previous news: a single father was beaten by his daughter for not buying new clothes. Master Li\’s wife passed away more than ten years ago. She has been dependent on her daughter for so many years. The family\’s conditions are not good, so the community has provided minimum living allowance for Master Li. Even if he doesn\’t make much money, Master Li will always put his daughter first if he has any good stuff, for fear that her daughter will be wronged. During the Spring Festival, Master Li\’s two sisters saw that the clothes he was wearing were too worn out after being worn for several years, so they pooled their money to buy Master Li a new set of clothes. This was so good, my daughter was not only unhappy when she saw it, but also insisted on asking Master Li to buy a set for her. Master Li quickly explained to his daughter that he had no money recently and would buy it for her when he had money later. Unexpectedly, my daughter became even more angry. She rushed forward and took off Master Li\’s new clothes, causing Master Li to fall to the ground. His daughter sat on her father and beat him several times, and kept talking in her mouth. Shouting: \”Why don\’t you buy me new clothes? Why don\’t you buy me new clothes?\” Did you notice that the children in these two news stories have one thing in common, which is: when his parents can\’t give him what he wants, he will They will feel resentful and do some abnormal behavior. In fact, in the final analysis, it is the child\’s sense of well-deserved that is at play. The feeling of \”well deserved\” occurs most often in the parent-child relationship. The child always feels that his parents owe him something, or that his family must give him special treatment. He thinks that his parents should give him what he wants. If they give it to him, he feels that it is what his parents should do, and he is ungrateful; if he does not give it to him, he thinks that his parents should not do it, so he feels dissatisfied and resentment. Isn\’t this a typical \”white-eyed wolf\”? Not only does he not know how to be grateful, but he keeps asking for things from his parents. Many parents unknowingly cultivated the white-eyed wolf. A few days ago, he took Ruirui to his cousin\’s house to play, because Ruirui and his cousin\’s child, Little Apple, hadn\’t seen each other for a long time, and the two of them couldn\’t stop playing. When it was time to eat, both children refused to listen, so my cousin and I had to eat first. After a while, the two children came over after playing. Little Apple saw that the two of us had started to eat, and immediately said angrily: \”Mom, how can you eat first? I haven\’t eaten yet.\” My cousin quickly coaxed her away. She said: \”I\’m sorry, mom thought you would have to eat it later, and I was afraid it would get cold if I served you a good meal.\” After saying that, she quickly served the child a bowl of rice. Little Apple sat down stubbornly and started eating without saying a word. From time to time, she deliberately dropped the food on the table and plucked it randomly with chopsticks, as if she was still protesting that her mother didn\’t wait for her to eat. I\’m watching from the sideI couldn\’t help but want to \”educate\” the children for my cousin. I asked Little Apple: \”Apple, Mom has served you a meal. Do you have to thank Mom?\” Little Apple answered me matter-of-factly: \”This is what Mom always does, and she didn\’t do it today.\” She served me the rice. She served it only after I found out. I don’t want to thank her.” After hearing this, I felt like I wanted to spurt out blood. At what time, in the child’s mind, it is already the right thing for a mother to serve herself a meal. Already? Isn’t this the feeling of well-deserved that I mentioned before? Since the child thinks it is what the mother should do, how can she be grateful? In fact, there are many behaviors in life that encourage children to feel worthy. For example, when children go to school, their schoolbags are carried by their parents; when it is time to work, their parents still have to find a job; when it is time to marry a wife, their parents pay for the garage and house, which they feel is natural. But in the future, when the parents are old and need someone to take care of them, the children may say: \”You are so old, so don\’t cause trouble to me.\” He still feels that it is natural. This is such a terrible thing. We must teach our children to be grateful. We have too many children now whose family conditions are very average. They live a carefree life without paying any attention to the pressure from their parents. There is a saying that can be described very well: parents are still contented, but children are showing off poetry and distance. This kind of child likes to go to various high-consumption places with his classmates, and treats guests at every turn. He throws away unpalatable food and gives things he doesn\’t like to others. He spends money like water, but never thinks that the money is for his parents. Not easily earned. I have seen too many vain children from ordinary families: the clothes they usually wear are all famous brands, and a pair of shoes costs more than 1,000, but their parents wear only old clothes that they have discarded, and their parents are reluctant to part with them during the New Year. Buy yourself new clothes; you can eat whatever you want outside without considering the price, while your parents reheat the leftovers over and over again at home and don’t bother to cook new dishes until they are finished; own Apple series products They have all the sets, but their parents are using the cheapest domestic mobile phones… Too many children regard everything their parents do for themselves as \”should\”. Little do they know that all the comfort they have is because their parents are silently behind the scenes. In exchange for hard work. I particularly dislike children who spend their parents\’ money carelessly, just like the daughter of my uncle\’s family who spent money lavishly. I advised her to be more economical, but she retorted to me: \”Don\’t girls have to be rich? ?\” I said to her at that time: \”How much do your parents owe you? You have reached adulthood, and the law recognizes that your parents have no obligation to support you. Do you think you are still qualified to talk about being rich? If you want to If your life is better, then please use your own efforts to make your life better.\” Only a child who knows how to be grateful can perceive the kindness of others to him, cherish what he has, and gain more. Much happiness. If you don\’t want to raise your child to be a \”white-eyed wolf\”, then don\’t do too much for your child.