Ode to joy: This is the foundation of parenting, but it is ignored by many parents

Mother Fan in \”Ode to Joy\” especially wants her son to live a good life. So since childhood, she has always responded to her son\’s requests. No matter what you do, your son should be at the center. Therefore, Fan Shengmei has to stick to her brother first in everything. After working, she has to send half of her monthly salary to her brother to buy him a house. Even so, Fan\’s mother still did not forget to educate Fan Shengmei: \”My brother has given the Fan family a grandson, and you should support him.\” But because of this, she raised an idle son who caused trouble everywhere and waited for his sister to deal with him. Many times, your self-righteous love turns out to be harmful. If she had taught her son to be self-reliant and self-reliant, Brother Fan would not be so irresponsible as to hide in Tibet all day long and become a frequent visitor to the police station. To love a child is not to be a spoiled child. If you love a child, you must teach him good conduct. Sister Zhang, who lives upstairs in my house, pays special attention to the education of her daughter Lingling. When I was young, I studied painting and dancing. I heard that I recently signed up for an eloquence class. One day, I took my son to the supermarket and happened to meet Sister Zhang and Lingling shopping. I saw her carrying large and small bags. While she was shopping, she said to me, \”I forgot to push the shopping cart when I came in.\” At this time, a supermarket staff happened to pass by pushing two shopping carts. Sister Zhang shouted: \”Hey! Give me one!\” Seeing her arrogant attitude, the staff replied: \”These are for pulling goods.\” He turned around and left. Sister Zhang muttered: \”Tch, what\’s the air? I\’m just a waiter.\” She seemed to be annoyed and said to her daughter: \”See, if you don\’t study hard, you can only do such a menial job!\” A few days later , when I came home, I happened to meet Lingling going out to play. She threw the drink bottle she had just finished on the ground. Behind her, the property manager shouted: \”Little girl, didn\’t your mother teach you to throw garbage into the trash can?\” !\” Lingling curled her lips and said, \”If all the garbage is thrown into the trash can, what do you need to do? Aren\’t you just for cleaning?\” That expression and tone were no different from her mother\’s. Many times, we educate our children to study hard and take them to various cram schools to enhance their talents, but we often ignore the most basic education – moral education. A while ago, five college students came to our unit for internship. The number of places was limited, and in the end only two could be left. What impressed me the most was Little A. He graduated from a prestigious university and was the president of the student union when he was in college. He has a leadership style, a good eye, and knows how to get things done. He was an intern in the credit department, and I often saw him running up and down with a thick stack of information, yelling at everyone, and his sweet mouth. Once, after get off work, I passed by the door of the credit department and saw that he was still working overtime. I said: Why don\’t you leave yet? He said: I feel that there are too many things to learn, so I have to take the time to read. The internship period passed, but he did not stay. This kind of thing is usually recommended by the manager of the department where the internship is held. I was very puzzled. One time when I was having dinner with Manager Zhang of the Credit Department, we mentioned Little A. Manager Zhang said that Little A was indeed very qualified and performed very well among this group of interns, but one time he saw Little A stuffing two boxes of reception cigarettes into his pocket. I completely rejected him in my heart. Later, I met Xiao A when I was shopping. He was running business in a company., tanned a lot, and lost a lot of weight. Perhaps he never would have thought that a small detail like stuffing a cigarette would make him miss out on a white-collar job. Business legend Liu Chuanzhi talked about such a past incident when participating in \”The Reader\”. The year he graduated from high school, Gagarin, the first Soviet astronaut, went into space at the age of 17. At that time, he was selected to be a pilot in the semester before graduation. Of the more than 200 students in the school, he was the only one who passed the interview. He felt extremely proud. He kept a photo of Gagarin in his room and dreamed of becoming a famous pilot. However, after applying for the application, he received a notice saying that for some reasons, he could not be admitted to the Air Force. This incident had a great impact on him, and he was completely confused. When he returned home, his father said to him: \”As long as you are an upright person, no matter what industry you are in, you will be my good boy.\” This sentence made him feel very warm. From now on, when I go through ups and downs in my life, I will be able to deal with it calmly whenever I think of this sentence. Later, when he educated his son, he also paid special attention to the cultivation of character. He said that Lenovo has a saying when inspecting cadres: you should look at the front face as well as the back of the head. The front face is the person\’s performance, ability, and what he wants others to see; the back of the head is the person\’s character, which is generally not assessed. At his son Liu Lin\’s wedding, Liu Chengzhi conveyed these words to his son: \”As long as you are an upright person, no matter what industry you are in, you will be my good boy.\” Nobel Prize winner in Literature Mo Yan once talked about such a thing. When he was young, he went to pick wheat ears with his mother, but his mother was slapped in the face by the watchman. Many years later, he and his mother met the watchman in the market. At this time, the watchman was already a gray-haired old man. He wanted to take revenge, but his mother persuaded him. She said: \”Son, the person who hit me is not the same person as this old man.\” Sima Guang of the Song Dynasty believed: \”Talent is the endowment of virtue; virtue is the endowment of virtue.\” The genius is so handsome.\” The German philosopher Nietzsche said: \”In fact, people are like trees. The more they yearn for the sunshine at high places, the more their roots will stretch into the dark underground.\” And moral character is like the roots of a big tree. , Only when the roots are deep can the leaves be luxuriant. The same is true for parenting. If you want your children to have a bright future and a bright future, you must first lay a good foundation for them. Only with good qualities can the road of life become wider and wider.