You have to love yourself enough to be a good mother

\”The Little Prince\” said: Every adult was once a child. In the same way, every mother was once a girl, a woman, a pretty and beautiful woman. If you want to be a good mother, please respect yourself, love yourself, and become a beautiful woman. Give yourself a good external image. Look at your face and you will know whether you are doing well or not. Recently, there is a popular saying: no one wants to look at your inner self through your sloppy appearance. I feel like I can no longer agree. In the year after giving birth, I lived a life where I didn’t know what day it was or what the weather was. The pores on my face are enlarged and shiny, and I am wearing pajamas with my hair tied up and ready to go out. The strange thing is that I still feel good: \”It\’s okay, I am just a cow now, I don\’t have any image.\” That feeling is telling myself: \” No one is looking at you, and even if they are, they will forgive you, because it hasn’t been long since you gave birth, your figure has not recovered, and it is very hard to take care of your children.” Until one time when I went out and met a mother in a toy store, I completely changed Got my idea. She wore a casual but not messy ponytail, a white loose linen top, a pair of dark green casual nine-point pants, a pair of black platform shoes, and a black backpack. She had fair skin and a faint smile. She was alone Pushing the child around in the toy store. I was attracted by her appearance at that time, not because of how beautiful she was, but because the child should be about the same age as my baby. She is also a nursing mother. Looking back at myself, I have messy hair, a loose pajama-style T-shirt, and flip-flops, exposing my fat feet. I thought she must have good financial conditions, someone to look after her children, and a caring husband, so we started chatting unconsciously. I learned that her mother-in-law came here with her husband from out of town. They met while working and had little financial foundation. She took care of the children at home, and her husband rode an electric tricycle to the square every day to sell ice cream. Well, I don’t know what to say. I admit, I judge people by their appearance. I think her family background must be very good, otherwise how could she break away from the role of \”cow\” so quickly and become well-dressed and full of love. At the same time, I also think that I may be right to judge people by their appearance. She may not have such good material conditions, but judging from her dress and condition, she should be living a happy life. It is not material satisfaction but harmony in life and self-balance. . I think that children who grow up in such a family will not be too bad. With such a mother, the children will understand that no matter what the environment and conditions in which they are raised, they can find a balance point in life and be able to please themselves. Delight life. To give yourself romance and love, the most intimate thing is for a woman and her husband. I once saw this sentence in a book: \”Don\’t believe in any intimacy parenting method that confuses your heart. Among all close relationships, the most intimate one is It is a woman and her husband. When a husband and his wife love each other intimately, the love will not become less and less, but more and more. It will not only satisfy themselves, but also overflow a lot, thus nourishing the children.\” After having children, we suddenly felt that our big bed had been invaded by all the children\’s things. When we slept at night, the children took up most of the bed, butYes, we have never slept separately. I have always felt that the bed is a very delicate object in a couple\’s life, private, sacred and inviolable. Now the child is two years old and there is no separate bed. However, the child has always slept on one side, with me in the middle and dad on the other side. I tried letting the child sleep in the middle, but I couldn\’t bear it. I couldn\’t feel his presence beside me. , my arm could not touch him inadvertently, and it felt very uncomfortable. So, until now, the child falls asleep next to him, and we sleep next to each other. And, I think this is the right thing! In \”Where Are We Going, Dad\”, everyone remembers Duoduo, who was well-behaved and sensible. She looked like a considerate, well-educated, sunny, smiling, and understanding young lady, who was simply envied by everyone. Netizens expressed their intention to marry Huang Lei as \”sons and daughters\” and asked Huang Lei for his advice on raising children. In fact, in my opinion, there is no need for any methods or means. Huang Lei and Sun Li’s little family of love is to give their children the most perfect love, the intimate and rich love between parents. He will feel it while lying in the honey. Not enough? Therefore, there is no need to feel guilty and tell your children confidently: Happy families in the world are all the same. The person dad loves most is mom, and the person mom loves most is dad. Then, mom and dad will love you together. Giving yourself spiritual food and inner enrichment and growth is the best gift for yourself and your children. A writer and mother wrote this sentence: \”As a mother, my realization is to constantly improve myself. If I don\’t do it, I don’t know how to let the child do it. If I do it, I don’t need to let the child do it, because he has already seen how to do it.\” With the broadcast of \”Chinese Poetry Conference\” and \”The Reader\” After her debut, Dong Qing captured the public\’s attention with her new look. In a program interview a few days ago, she frankly said that she had become a mother. She said, \”You have to be what kind of person you want your child to be. I think I should work hard to make myself better, so that when he really understands you in the future, he will treat you There is love and respect, and he can learn some good qualities from you. I don’t want to give up the possibility of continuing to grow, and I don’t want to stop myself because of him.” I have a friend Fangfang, who lives in I work in an English tutoring agency. I speak humorously and work vigorously and resolutely. Fangfang graduated from a bad junior college. In order to make up for her shortcomings, she went to Beijing for English training at her own expense. She worked hard and made progress. In two years, she achieved the position of director of the teaching and research group. A year later, Fangfang got married and had a child, and then resigned. However, she did not resign to be a full-time housewife. She used her previous connections in a tutoring institution to set up English tutoring classes by herself. She only had classes on Saturdays and Sundays every week, so that she would have enough time to spend with her children and be able to work hard to achieve her goals. financial freedom. In order to continuously enrich herself, Fangfang continued to study English and passed the professional graduate degree. She wakes up early every day to prepare an exquisite breakfast for her children, including milk, eggs, fruits, and nuts. For this reason, she signed up for a nutritionist course. In order to make her English training smoother, she studied psychological counseling.Consultant\’s course. Now, there is her home with bright sunshine, fresh fruits, beautiful flowers, and little figures of children reading and playing. Fangfang said: \”I want to give my children warm love, but also give myself room for improvement. There are flowers and light around me. My children will see the process of me trying to be a good mother. This in itself is education.\” Long Yingtai also used similar language in \”Child, Take Your Time\” – Who can tell me how to balance being a \”mother\” and being an \”individual\”? I love being a mother so much. Just putting the child\’s head on my chest makes me feel happy. However, I am also an individual who needs a lot of inner space, like a wild wolf, which cannot live without its open fields and cool moonlight if it is not hungry. I suddenly discovered that all good mothers under the new standards are first of all a warm, beautiful and radiant woman. Just like my introduction: May you be loved, loved, wise, and profound. May you be happy and warm as ever.