This should be done as early as possible in a child’s life

Sometimes, we find the logic of this world a little interesting. For example, after reading this, I still remember a joke from a mother group: \”Many people seem to be living the wrong life. Spending 5000W to buy a house thinks it\’s normal to spend 50W to buy a car. They think it\’s normal to spend 50W to buy a bag. They think it\’s normal to spend 10W to go to the mahjong table. It is normal to spend 6,000 yuan to buy a mobile phone. It is normal to spend 3,000 yuan to buy clothes. It is normal to spend 800 yuan to have a big meal. But when I spend 100 yuan to buy a set of books for my children, I shake my head and say: \”It\’s too expensive…\” At that moment China, this joke is part of the reality. There are not many places to study around us, it can be said that there are too few and too few. Just 1 kilometer away from me, there is a city complex known as the largest in central China. On weekends When I was young, I often took my son to play. But there were one playground and game arcade after another in that place. Unfortunately, there was no bookstore. Why is this? Our children only need to have fun, don’t they need to read? Some people say that if you want to read, you can go to the library. But the library is always a pile of crumpled books with missing covers. Children often have several people grabbing the same book to read. Many children go there once , I don’t want to go. In fact, the root cause is that we Chinese people don’t like to read, and reading is not popularized. The previous generation has missed it because the country is poor and weak. But now that we have the conditions, the concept has not kept up, and it is still the same. I think , more hope is in the home – the creation of a home reading corner or even a home library. Parents help and influence their children to develop the habit of reading. The habit of reading should be developed as early as possible in a child\’s life. I often say this to some friends , but only half of my friends would listen. And half of the friends who listened listened to this sentence from the other ear. So, when a mother whose child is already in high school asked me how to cultivate children\’s reading Interest, because the child has been addicted to the Internet, and he is helpless. I hope reading can change him. I don’t know how to say it. Because reading is not a medicine, it is just a way of life, a way of learning, and it will become a habit. Moreover, The better this habit can be cultivated when the child is young. When can this start? Careful parents start when the child is still in the belly. Parents will read stories, poems, and music to their children. I think It\’s pretty good. I remember that I insisted on doing it at that time. I read some selected Tang poems and classical music to my son. My wife also read stories to my son. At that time, he listened quietly in his belly. , we felt that it was wonderful to be able to communicate with him in a way, and there was no other purpose. When he was a few months old, he would be very interested every time he saw the cards on the wall. At that time, Reading can begin. From identifying colors, shapes to objects. Then start listening to short stories. Sometimes he doesn\’t listen, then look at pictures. If you keep doing one thing, it will become a habit, and the accumulated power is Huge. So now he will read three or four picture books and storybooks every day without our urging. Last time, a mother asked me if her child was three years old and had no reading experience.Develop a reading habit? Of course, I think most children can quickly develop this habit before they are 10 years old. Of course, it doesn’t mean that there are no opportunities after the age of 10, but it just takes more energy. Because in the early years, children\’s personality and habits are more malleable. They are more willing to accept the influence of their parents. For example, in reading, parents can help their children get better step by step. Children will not resist, and may be a little resistant and unfamiliar at first, but they can quickly integrate into it. I remember a relative in my hometown who had a 6-year-old son. Once she came to my house and saw her son\’s bookcase. She suddenly felt like she had discovered a treasure. She sat there and looked at it for a long time. His father found it strange. He said that his son didn\’t like to read much at home. I said, what books did you read to him at home? They are my own Tang poetry and Song lyrics, as well as some advanced mathematics, literacy and writing books bought by his mother. He shook his head every time. I gave him a set of picture books, saying these were suitable for children. A month later, he came back for a few more sets and said that the child had fallen in love with reading. Parents’ active guidance and preparation can help children gain better access to reading. This is a critical handover ceremony. Lead children from a world of blank reading into a rich and colorful world of reading. The hands of parents have a pushing effect. After entering this world, parents need to participate in parent-child reading. Choose the right books and find the way your child likes to read. For example, some children like their parents to read aloud, while others like their parents to hold them and read pictures together. Some children like their parents\’ exaggerated performances, while others like their parents to tell them something exciting. Careful parents will always try to understand their children. Once you catch the little heart, you can easily handle this little kid. After we put our children on the fast track to reading. Leave the rest to the children themselves. They will choose books by themselves, and parents only need to participate in the communication and give some suggestions. Especially in middle school, children\’s ideas may even surpass those of their parents. Because their insights will be different. Every generation has something they yearn for. What we can do is support our children to realize their dreams. For example, some children like science fiction novels, but their parents consider them to be idle books. Some children like to read comics, and their parents wonder why a child in his 10s still reads comics like a little kid. They don\’t even know what kind of books their children read. Is it inappropriate to issue a restraining order immediately? I really recommend that parents read more books to their children and read them sincerely, rather than with the purpose of being a detective or with colored glasses. Try to accept what your child likes instead of violently destroying it. Many parents know nothing about the books their children read and leave everything to the school. Or they stay in their own ideas and adopt a conservative and rejecting attitude towards some new ideas. In the book \”Silent Confessions\”, when his son Hans told his father James that his dream was to go to outer space and become an astronaut, James unconsciously slapped the child and tied him to the child. Broken. At a time when astronauts were just a dream, parents will feel that their children have been reading some news and books about aerospace all day long, and are not doing their jobs properly and not studying seriously, so they slap their children in anger. Nowadays, if a child tells his parents that he wants to be an astronaut, he will definitely be praised. But it will be many years before we can accept it. So when your child has an idea of ​​his own, please actively embrace it. The same is true for reading. Don\’t control it too much and let your children try. When your child says he wants to read, you can say go ahead and read. Come on. Moreover, you can also read it together. If you are really not interested in reading it, you can also flip through it to learn more. Maybe it can bring you closer to your children. Of course, it is very important for the family to have a reading atmosphere. Having a scholarly atmosphere at home is an edification to the children themselves. For children, the best way to understand the world is to read. Other people\’s worlds are hidden in books. Once you understand them, your world will expand. We can talk to the author and communicate with the great minds in history. Bai Yansong said that he has been promoting reading in recent years. I always wonder, have you ever seen which day is designated as \”eating day\” internationally? No. Since there is no international eating day, why should there be a reading day? For people\’s bodies and bodies, it is impossible to survive without eating, but for our spirits, isn\’t it as impossible to survive without reading as without eating? Why have we fallen so low that we need the whole society to promote \”reading\”? This incident just confirms a certain sadness and a certain awakening in China. What we have to do is to turn our children into people who love to read. This needs to be done as early in a child’s life as possible. Of course, another very important thing is \”experience\”, allowing children to travel and walk thousands of miles. Let’s save this for another time.