Am I the worst mom ever?

Some time ago, Thailand released a Nestlé coffee commercial called \”Try a Little Harder\”. This commercial, which lasted 4 minutes and 36 seconds, was said to be incredible, and it was indeed a miracle. As a mother, I read it over and over again, with tears in my eyes and a sour and warm heart. I really want to hug my child right now and say to him: Baby, mommy loves you! The mother in the short play is gentle, beautiful and silently giving. In a football match at school, she saw her son fall heavily and fall behind others. Worry and doubt appeared in her eyes for the first time. She asked herself: Am I the worst mother in history? After the game, she learned about her son\’s situation from the coach, and she told her child this way in the evening: The coach said that you have been working hard and have made great progress. Now you can head the ball from time to time, and you need to work harder. oh. The child was very happy after hearing this and couldn\’t wait to run over and start practicing. The mother stood at the door, looking at the little figure of the child trying to throw the ball, and doubted herself for the second time: Am I telling him a lie? Because what the coach told the mother at the time was that the child\’s heading skills were basically zero, and the situation was not optimistic. Another football match started, and the parents sitting in the front row cheered loudly for their children. Only she looked worried and anxious. The child fell heavily to the ground again and his shoelaces came loose. The mother walked over and squatted at his feet and asked softly if it hurt. The child said disappointedly: I can\’t catch up with others. Mom tied her shoelaces and looked at him with gentle and sure eyes and said: It doesn\’t matter, just try your best to surpass the person in front of you, that will be fine. The child bit his lip and nodded, and ran on the field again. Looking at his son\’s bloody knee, the mother doubted herself for the third time: Am I hurting him? This little boy listened to his mother\’s words very much. After returning home, he continued to practice hard every day, sweating and getting stronger day by day. The third football match came again. At this critical moment with only the last minute left, the child kept falling down and getting up and running again. The mother prayed silently in the audience and recalled every bit of the past. Suddenly, the child ran in front and scored the ball with his head, and the game became 1:1. It was her son who won the game for the team. My mother stood up excitedly and cried with joy. Cheers of victory came one after another. The loving embrace between mother and son made time freeze. In the days to come, her son fell in love with netball, which he was the worst at, and ran happily in every corner under the sun. His mother thought of the past and said: I may not be the best mother, because I am not the best mother. I think my child will always get first place. I just hope that he will surpass himself a little bit every day. The biggest victory is to be better than himself. This is an advertisement, and you can buy coffee. I like this plot better, I like this mother, and I also appreciate this little boy who has a poor foundation but is not willing to lag behind. His progress and final changes were due to his own efforts and persistence, but I would like to attribute this success to this mother. This is a mother worth learning from. No matter how entangled and struggling she is in her heart, or even unsure of her own wishes, she can always tell her children firmly and in time: It doesn’t matter, just go for it, just do it.Just make a little progress. This decisive advice was not weakened by self-doubt, but strengthened. This is a super inspirational love story. Most children aged five or six have never experienced the same difficulties and twists and turns as this child. Living happily every day in good times and smiling faces is also a kind of childhood happiness. But what if our child encounters some questions that he can’t find the answer to? Then it’s time for parents to come into play. This subtle influence may affect the child’s life-long character. When he was three years old, my child couldn\’t always recognize the ten numbers from one to ten, nor could he count things within ten. Even though I taught him countless times on the blackboard, he still couldn\’t recognize it. I was very anxious, and even subconsciously felt that my child was not smart enough. I blamed him and lost my temper with him. He felt aggrieved and helpless when he was young. Later, when I taught him to recognize these numbers, every time he pretended to be playing something else and ignored me, I realized that he started to escape, and I was very angry. But one day, we were walking on the road together and saw a car parked on the side of the road. My son ran over quickly and told me that there was a number 3, 8 and an uncertain 6 on the license plate number. At that moment, I was very relieved and kissed him. He also kissed me and told me: Mom, I can recognize numbers. I am smart, right? A lot of doubts and reflections started from this moment. I asked myself: Have you given your children time? Are you patient? Do you know how to appreciate him? Do you love him or is he just a smart kid? For my child, my eagerness for success may make him less confident in the future. I started to change my behavior. From then on, I found a more suitable learning method for him, which is to learn from the physical objects around him. , so my doubts helped me. The child is making progress, but in fact the person who is making greater progress is myself. In the face of children, constantly doubt yourself, doubt that you are not good enough, doubt whether you are a harm, doubt that you have not done enough; but never doubt your child\’s potential, as long as he is working hard and making progress. , with such a mentality, it will actually bring more love and encouragement to the child. For the child, he will feel the more powerful energy from the mother. \”The Education of Calvert\” is not so much a good educational book as it is a touching story. It is almost impossible to educate a child with congenital mental retardation into a genius, but old Calvert The Te couple did it, and they also improved step by step amid constant exploration and self-doubt. In fact, it is more of a kind of love and unwillingness to be the worst parents, so there are no children who do not work hard. My sister\’s child is not tall, and he always wants to grow taller. My sister told me that she was also very troubled because she was not satisfied with her height, and her brother-in-law was also of average height. My sister said that the child was destined not to be tall. I don\’t agree with her point of view, after all, many factors can be corrected the day after tomorrow. My sister listened and took good care of her. The child grew taller. She also began to suspect that her idea of ​​letting it grow was unscientific? Did you not work hard enough? What\’s more important is that she has reflected on herHint to your children that you will grow taller and healthier, surpassing mom and dad, but you just need to change year by year. The child was happy after hearing this, because he was full of hope in his heart. In fact, in the face of these progress, what I want to say more is the growth of children\’s hearts. Our self-doubt is always changing ourselves, affecting children far away, making his heart full of security, hope for sunshine and love, so parents need This spirit. Some time ago, I saw a news story about a mother who was playing with her child in the playground. When she was accidentally stepped on by another child, she couldn\’t control her emotions and made a fuss. Is it a kind of love to ignore the crying of one\’s own child and refuse to let go of other people\’s children for a long time? Is this how a mother should treat her child? Isn\’t this a disservice? When her husband and others were persuading her, if he could have doubted his own actions, I think it would not have led to such a farce. Doubting himself is also a kind of examination of his own heart, and it is easier to make others angry. Recognize solutions to problems. One of my brothers was sent by his family to serve in the army when he was sixteen years old. He was far away from home in the barren mountains and deserts. I also suffered a lot and went through the most rebellious period of a boy in the most difficult place. Many years later, when my brother\’s parents talked about this incident, they were relieved because they saw that their son had become a sound and useful person and had achieved some achievements, and they were sure that their original decision was not wrong. In their memories, he said that in the past twenty years, they had always wondered if they were too cruel. Are you too strict with your son? Think about it, why are your parents still doubting your original decision? On a deeper level, all doubts are the voice of love, coming from the uncertainty in the heart, and most willing to get a voice of affirmation. This answer may only be given by children in a long time. With this sentence: My child, I may… Am I… these doubts, parents work harder to seek direction, so that their children can stride forward in this right direction from an early age. I hope that all doubts can bloom bright flowers from the poorest soil!