5 family education guidelines contained in Zeng Guofan’s family book

As we all know, Zeng Guofan\’s family letters are very famous. As the saying goes, wealth can only last three generations, but the Zeng family has produced talents from generation to generation, and it is inseparable from the guidance of Zeng Guofan\’s family letters. What are the characteristics of Zeng Guofan’s family letters? What implications does it have for our modern family education? Let’s go into Zeng Guofan’s family letters and find out! 01. Not willing to let descendants become high officials. He was deeply involved in the officialdom, and he had no choice but to do so. He suffered from the dangers of the officialdom and the misconception of flattery, so he did not want his descendants to get involved in the officialdom and become high officials. For the sake of the Zeng family, he had no choice but to mediate and fight in the officialdom. He could not bear the suffering and harm of his descendants. His expectation for his children is that he has no ambitions for academic fame and salary, which means that he does not want his children to obtain academic fame. In modern times, which parent has the courage to tell their children that they don’t need to take the college entrance examination? All 12 volumes of the complete works of Zeng Guofan from Baijia Lecture Forum can be downloaded from epub. He advises children to be a gentleman by reading and understanding the truth. This means that if you read and understand the truth, you can find your own happiness and interests regardless of good times or bad times, whether you have money or not. , live your life to the fullest. 02. Don’t study hard, study happily. ​We have grown up under the influence of \”learning has no limit but working hard\”. Does learning have to be hard? Zeng Guofan didn\’t think so. He felt that if he studied hard, he would not find the trick and meaning of learning. Learning should be fun. I heard Teacher Fan Deng talk about the flow state before. Our experience of happiness should not just come from the pleasure of eating, drinking, and browsing on our mobile phones. Instead, we should cultivate the ability to read, achieve a flow state during exercise, and gain the ability to have peace and joy all the time. This is long-lasting. This is consistent with Zeng Guofan, practicing calligraphy, reading, writing articles, and doing it as he pleases. The inspiration this gives us is to let children learn more useless things. Don’t focus on profit-oriented reading, and return to Zeng’s famous saying: Ask about hard work, not about harvest. There is no need to be obsessed with a result, the harvest is often obtained in the process. We must abandon the fixed mindset that is obsessed with results and develop a growth mindset. Life is a non-zero-sum game. 03. Encouraging teaching Zeng Guofan especially likes to discover the shining points and strengths of children, and he does not hesitate to write articles to praise them. This is easy to understand, so I won’t go into details. Easier said than done. Knowing how to do it requires more deliberate practice. We need to use \”Thinking Fast and Slow\” to think slowly, not fast. Think quickly, and the first reaction is often unconscious judgment and blame. We must suppress the first impulse system, activate the second calm system, practice deliberately, encourage and praise our children more. 04. Have an equal attitude and lead by example. In an era when father was the guide for son, Zeng Guofan dared to reveal his shortcomings to his children and advocated that children should be persistent in doing things. This is very rare. He also reflected that within a year at home, he often quarreled with other people over trivial matters, and he felt very regretful and ashamed. He hoped that his son would be gentle and respectful in front of his family and be praised by others. His son\’s temperament would be better than his own. Put yourself down and achieve success for your children. This is something we parents can learn from. Let go of your stature and dignity and learn to show weakness, and your children will develop more potential and creativity.It is always worth learning and applying. 05. Don’t leave inheritance to your children. Mr. Zeng said this, if a child is capable, he will have enough food and clothing in this life, and there is no need to leave him an inheritance. If the child is a playboy, leaving an inheritance will breed his evil behavior. From this point of view, it is even more inappropriate to leave property. Even if Zeng Laoguo really didn\’t leave any property, his eldest son became a famous diplomat in the late Qing Dynasty, and his second son became a famous mathematician in the late Qing Dynasty. His descendants are all very successful. The Zeng family is so prosperous and enduring for a long time, and it is inseparable from Zeng Guofan\’s family letters. Through this study, I deeply reflect on my own family education method and there are several points that need to be adopted. First, learning is no longer everything for children. It is necessary to cultivate children’s ability to work in various aspects. Set an example by yourself, for example, leading your children to do housework and cleaning on weekends. In your free time, take a walk and play ball. Second, establish a good family tradition, do not blame when things happen, and teach in an encouraging manner. Third, learn to show weakness and give children the opportunity to express themselves freely and creatively. Fourth, keep a diary. Review every moment, review everything. Constantly adjust your actions, correct the direction, and maximize your execution power. The above is what I thought about Zeng Guofan\’s family letter today. I hope it will inspire readers. You are welcome to leave your insights in the comment area and discuss how to write our family together.