A brief discussion on how to cultivate children\’s attention

In the past two years, the term \”flow\” has become particularly popular. It refers to the psychological state that people experience when they focus on a certain behavior. It is a feeling of fully devoting one\’s mental power to a certain activity. When flow occurs, there will be a high sense of excitement and fulfillment. When I saw this word, I remembered that when I was a child, I seemed to be able to enter a flow state often. When I was four or five years old, when I was building blocks and playing puzzles, I would often not leave the house for an entire afternoon. I would stay in the same position and be immersed in it. When I wanted to go to the toilet or get up to eat, I realized that I could no longer move my waist and my feet were numb. . I particularly like mathematics. When I was in fifth or sixth grade, I would often be immersed in a Mathematical Olympiad problem for an hour or two without even realizing it. How to cultivate children\’s concentration? After downloading the large album of training methods to improve concentration, what makes it more and more difficult for me to enter the flow state? It started with my mother interrupting me again and again. When I was doing my homework, she would always come in without knocking and startle me; when I was thinking seriously, she would come unexpectedly to deliver fruit… so that my state of concentration was always difficult to sustain. Later, I had children. Once I saw him painting intently, I told my wife not to disturb him. We talked about how we were obsessed with doing something and entering a flow state when we were young, and my wife said that she was the same way. As long as her mother says it\’s time to eat, she must go and eat immediately, otherwise her mother will be unhappy. But after she finished her meal, she could never regain her concentration. Looking at my son who had been drawing for more than two hours, my wife and I looked at each other and smiled and agreed that unless our son came to us, no one should disturb him when he was concentrating on one thing, whether he was playing or not. studying. In fact, it doesn\’t matter if you eat earlier or later. We discussed the meal time with our son in advance, and then let him do his own thing in his room. Even if he is not finished by then, my wife and I will not knock on the door or burst in suddenly. The effect of this is obvious. Ever since he entered kindergarten, the teacher has always praised his son for being very focused in listening to classes and being very involved in playing games. Therefore, when a child is immersed in something, rather than caring about whether he is thirsty, cold or hungry, not being disturbed is the love he wants most.