After reading too many growth stories of super academics: I feel at ease

In fact, in the past few years, as someone who has studied education in depth, I really don’t like to read articles about the growth stories of college entrance examination masters. I think that not only are their stories similar, but the articles always have a burning sense of hostility and There is an urgency to harvest leeks, but as a mother, I still can’t turn my eyes when I see titles with “student master” or “number one scholar” in them. I can’t help but want to pay my respects. Alas, this is human nature that cannot be avoided. It’s a bit sad. ! For example, a few days ago, I re-read the story of the so-called 68 top students in the college entrance examination (originally called \”top picks\”). Several new top academics in recent years have been added to the article. But to be honest, I have become smarter now, and this time I am not just looking for novels. I read it with seriousness, exploration and research in mind, and I want to draw some valuable conclusions from it. As a result, the meaning of reading it this time is that I have been directly immune to the only fluctuations and flukes on the parenting journey, and I feel more at ease. What is the Primary School Mathematical Olympiad? 24 math lessons on how to effectively improve your grades? Here are my three thoughts. 1. Children’s innate learning physiques are really different! Learning physique is everyone’s feeling, experience and digestion and decomposition process of learning knowledge. Most of the top academic kids (the top 100 in all provinces and cities in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen) are what I am describing in this article. What kind of people can be admitted to Tsinghua and Peking University? I have summarized the important characteristics below, which is basically this kind of learning constitution. If the parents\’ education method is appropriate and consistent with the child\’s growth pattern, such children will be even more powerful, with better grades and overall quality; even if the parents\’ education method is wrong, they are random and have a strong desire to control, children with this kind of physique will generally You can achieve good results by using the popular blackening method of Jiwaquan: resistance to chickens. What does \”chicken-resistant\” mean? They basically don\’t resist their parents\’ chicken-baby methods, and they accept both soft and hard. However, children whose parents are extremely controlling will have varying degrees of psychological hidden dangers. Some hidden problems will become apparent as soon as they go to college. Some will only become very rebellious in their 30s. Some will never be able to get rid of their parents\’ domineering and controlling parents throughout their lives. Use various methods to resist your parents\’ expectations. Of course, there are only a few people who have a top-notch learning physique. The vast majority of ordinary children have different learning physiques. For example, take learning mathematics as an example. Children with academic master physiques generally have strong logical thinking ability and can learn it as soon as possible. Even if they cannot learn it for a while, they will find ways to study hard because of their sense of learning goals and self-discipline. Very strong. Ordinary children are usually like this: Ah! Mathematics is so difficult to learn. It’s boring. I can’t learn it. Let’s stop learning! Some lie down as soon as they encounter a problem, some lie down after nibbling for a few times and can\’t get any more, and some lie down when they see a problem from a distance… Children with a domineering physique, no matter how their parents educate them, they look like they are… Yes, because some babies will grow better if you don’t teach them. So when you see the parents of high school students introducing their experience, they are like \”no matter what\”. We ordinary kids, no matter what, we really can’t do it. But some people can be managed well, but it seems that no matter how hard they are managed, it is difficult to manage a top student. If the goal is to manage a top student, then we might as well just ignore it. Take the subject of mathematics as an example. Qian Xiaoya also fell behind in mathematics in junior high school. We only slightly encouraged him to do so.Encouraged, the girl tried her best to catch up again. Qian Xiaoneng is not good at mathematics either, but his initial thought was: What the hell is this special horse? It’s so difficult that I won’t learn it anymore! However, he was lucky and met a good math teacher who never underestimated him and often encouraged him. So in the end he didn\’t give up on mathematics. Let’s take the use of mobile phones as an example. Qian Xiaoya and Qian Xiaoneng have owned smartphones for about the same time. Qian Xiaoya has completely controlled his mobile phone from the first year of junior high school to now. I tried many methods for Qian Xiaoneng before he finally got it. Achieve mobile phone self-discipline. The difference mainly lies in the innate physique, and secondly in the degree of parents\’ intentions. understood? 2. Parents of high-achieving students say that their children should grasp habits from an early age, but how to grasp habits? ! Can we remedy the bad habits we have had since childhood? If you don’t believe me, then you can just open any Jiwa official account and take a look at the interviews with the parents of top students. Almost all of them say that they must first grasp habits. However, if you want to learn how other parents develop habits, most likely you will only see words like this: For example, Qu Xuan, a female top student in Wuhan, Hubei. The mother of Qu Xuan, who scored 693 points in the college entrance examination, said she hopes her daughter will develop a reading habit. When the child was in kindergarten, he read storybooks to her in a role-playing manner. Later, every time the child performed well, he would ask for a book as a reward. The old lecturer has a very solid foundation and good study habits. As long as she is given a book to read, she can read it all day long. Therefore, when she grew up, Qu Xuan liked reading very much. She was very focused when reading and studying. So I asked, in the past 10 years, the importance of reading has become a household name among parents in large and small cities in China. Everyone knows how to encourage children to strengthen reading and broaden their horizons. Why are there so many children who stop reading as soon as they enter junior high school? What if you start to rest on your primary school laurels and can\’t concentrate on reading or studying? Why can\’t we be like Qu Xuan? No article tells us: Can ordinary children continue to read and study, and can they focus? If it can be done, what kind of approach and idea is it? There is no article that tells us the truth: these ordinary children in our hands, middle-level students like Qian Xiaoneng, have not developed solid good habits in the early stage. Can they be remedied in the later stage? If so, how to remedy it? There is no article that talks about whether the learning physique of ordinary children can be improved? What exactly can be done to nourish sustained inner drive? Because there have been major deviations in the parents\’ parenting methods, the children have psychological problems of varying degrees. Can these children recover? How to go this way? It’s also hard for us to see thoughtful guidance. To put it bluntly, few people talk about the exploration path of our ordinary parents’ lowest desires and expectations, because it is too difficult to write, too trivial, thankless, and difficult to attract attention. I\’d love to try it. 3. It is my pursuit to stimulate the inner drive of middle-level students and ordinary children. A reader asked, Teacher Mei, what do you mean by the title \”After reading too many growth stories of super academics: I feel at ease\”? It means that my future writing purpose and exploration goal are more determined, that is, to improve the learning physique of ordinary children and middle school students, how to cultivate their habits, restore their psychology, ignite their inner hope, and make their internal drive stronger.Be gradually awakened and fully revived! Let’s just say Qian Xiaoneng. This average student really continued to work hard in his senior year of high school. I felt a little sad when I saw that he was so enthusiastic about all the subjects and wanted to make up for all the time he wasted. I started to treat Qian Xiaoya like I used to. Every day I hold him back, and I use my brain every day to let him go out to play, rest his eyes, pay attention to his sleep, and don\’t let him fall asleep. As the mother of a girl who is a top student, and the mother of a boy who is an average student, I now see that they are both walking steadily on the road of progress. I am happy but also have mixed feelings: the past ten years have been painful. I have been hesitant and driven crazy with anxiety, but I have never lost hope in my children. I have been thinking of ways, constantly learning and reflecting, and have experienced many times of reborn growth. I particularly want to share my thoughts, thoughts, and insights over the past few years so that my parents and friends who are in the same situation as me can be inspired. You know, for an ordinary child, it is very painful to supervise the process of developing his habits. You have to use your brain to observe him and pay attention to him all the time. You have to think of many ways, and you even need to use all possible means. At the same time, I have to be self-disciplined, restrained, and demonstrate. I talk about my feelings without nagging. I think about how to say things so that my children can listen. For example, after Qian Xiaoneng got a mobile phone, he went back and forth several times, constantly swinging between being in control and being unable to control himself. As a mother, I have thought of many ways. If this doesn\’t work, that doesn\’t work, and then adjust. From all books, articles and daily life Get inspiration and inspiration from them, and then apply these to your children. Under the guidance of key nodes, think about what principles should be infiltrated into all daily education, and create a long-term family environment suitable for children\’s growth. A little bit of edification…how to let children open the window, get closer to nature, see the sea, see the stars, See the fields and improve his imagination and expression skills… These are easier said than done and require a lot of dedication and hard work. Really, no education method is simple. Education also requires hard work. well! The improvement of any ordinary child is soaked in the infinite efforts and sweat of his parents, which is also in line with the saying: there are no blockbuster miracles in the world, they are all traceable cause and effect.