Don\’t pretend to work hard, kid! (Forward to children to see)

\”Only by working hard can you look effortless.\” When you saw this sentence on WeChat Moments, your blood suddenly boiled and tears filled your eyes, as if this sentence was about you. So you secretly swear: Only by working hard can you be recognized. You feel that seeing this sentence is the beginning of your awesome counterattack, so you like it and repost it. Well, we are about to start working hard and reading… It has only been 15 minutes. You are thinking about whether anyone has commented on the circle of friends you just forwarded. When you turn on your phone, no one likes or comments. You feel a little disappointed. Suddenly, another message was updated in the circle of friends: \”Work hard now, just to be on an equal footing with you one day!\” CCTV recommended over 500 high-scoring excellent documentaries. When your children watch the pattern, they will become addicted to self-discipline and you will think to yourself: Ouch, this sentence says That\’s awesome! So you enthusiastically clicked a like and launched an activity to collect likes for homework. You want everyone to witness your efforts. \”Collect enough 20 likes to finish your physics homework tonight\” \”Collect enough 30 likes to finish your math homework tonight\”… Next, you will be immersed in the comments, replies and constant interactions in the circle of friends. When you walk by Come on, an hour has passed unknowingly. Many students always complain that they are under too much pressure to study. Although they work hard, they don’t have enough time. So now, do you finally know where your time goes? Have you really worked hard? If you want to change, why not be brave enough to admit it? \”You just look like you\’re working hard!\” In many academic leaders, we can see a very strong ability to make plans and execute plans. They are able to formulate reasonable plans for a clear goal and implement them consistently to the end. However, the problem most students face is: after the plan is made, it is either shelved on the shelf, or it becomes a hot topic for three minutes. In short, it cannot be implemented. The final result is that even the plan is useless. Therefore, how to make your plan truly be implemented is the focus of all problems! What kind of goals are high-quality goals? A good goal must include five major elements, namely: necessity, feasibility, specificity, dismantling, and feedback. In other words, when setting any goal, you must first self-reflect on the following questions: 1. Is my goal really necessary to achieve it? Every time you set a goal, ask yourself from the bottom of your heart, is this goal necessary to achieve? I want to go to a key high school. Do I really want to go to a key high school, or is it just a talk? Or do you think any other school would be acceptable? First of all, measure whether the big goal is worth achieving and whether it can bring you meaningful gains now. Even if it requires a lot of energy and cost, it is worth your efforts. Therefore, necessity often requires that the goal be at least better than the current situation in order to motivate people to improve themselves toward the goal. Furthermore, we need to think about whether there is any relationship between small goals and the general direction. For example, the small goal of \”raising your English score to 140 points\” is related to the big goal of \”going to a key high school\”. With limited time and energy, you should choose small goals that are more closely related to the general direction. Many students are participating inWhen adding some activities, after making rational judgments and spending some time, they often cannot let go, so they continue to invest more time in activities, and often paralyze themselves with the spirit of sacrifice. Necessity actually requires those who set goals to make trade-offs and choices among different goals, measure the cost of achieving each goal, and focus their limited time and energy on the most valuable goals. 2. Is it possible to achieve my goal after hard work? An impossible goal means nothing and cannot be achieved anyway. Even once you get into the execution phase, it becomes an excuse not to put in the effort. Goals are not set for the sake of being set, and an unachievable goal means nothing. And a person who does not pay attention to his own goals cannot be responsible for his own actions. 3. Is my goal just a possibility? A good goal must first be specific enough to let you understand what you really want. Don\’t give yourself too many additional choices, because goals are not equal to possibilities. The more specific a goal is, the easier it is to formulate an efficient plan around the goal, and the easier it is to inspire motivation and ambition to achieve the goal. The deeper, more comprehensive, and more specific you go in thinking about your goals, you are also reflecting on your own strengths and weaknesses, and thinking about your inner desires and fears. For example, if \”improving English scores\” is the goal, an increase of 1 point is also an improvement, and an increase of 10 points is also an improvement. This is not as practical as reading a Gestalt every day. A goal that is not specific enough lacks a clear boundary. Furthermore, you blur your goals while giving yourself too many excuses to back down. 4. Can my goal be achieved step by step? A big goal should be broken down into several measurable small goals. For example, from the big goal of \”getting into a key high school\”, it is decomposed into the big goal of \”English must reach 140\”, and then further decomposed into \”increasing vocabulary\”, \”improving English listening and pronunciation ability\”, \”mastering the test skills\” A series of more detailed sub-goals such as \”grammatical phenomenon\”, \”reduce reading score loss\”, \”reduce Gestalt score loss\”, etc. Then turn each sub-goal into a small measurable goal. For example, \”increase vocabulary\” can be broken down into a series of quantifiable small goals such as \”memorize 1,600 words by the end of the year\” and \”expand additional vocabulary to 3,000 words before the high school entrance examination.\” 5. Is there an objective progress bar for my goal? At several key time points in the process from the beginning to the final realization of the goal, you should be able to test the progress and effectiveness of your goal completion. For example, \”memorize 1,600 words in the first semester of the third grade of junior high school\” can be divided into monthly, weekly or even daily, and a daily word memorization plan can be made. A feedbackable goal allows each time node to test whether its phased goals have been completed. The completion of each small goal gives yourself a positive incentive to understand the progress of completing the goal. A goal that can be fed back not only ensures the efficiency of execution, but also puts pressure on oneself when slacking off, urging oneself to complete the goal within the specified time. After understanding what kind of goals are executable, let’s take a look atAfter you set such a goal, how do you implement it, that is, persist in completing it. What should be done at the different stages of the execution plan? Takeshi Furukawa, the author of \”Persistence, a Habit that Can Be Developed\”, divides the process of developing habits into a period of resistance, instability and burnout. The key to successfully completing a long-term plan and developing self-discipline is How to get through these three stages. That is, there are three key stages in cultivating behavioral habits (taking 30 days as an example): Resistance period: full of difficulties and wanting to give up (Day 1 to 7) Unstable period: easily affected by the environment (Day 8) ~Day 21) Burnout period: Feeling unmotivated and bored (Day 22~Day 30) After mastering the correct method, you can easily get through these three stages. 1. The resistance period can be divided into the first stage from the first day to the seventh day of the action. The first two days are the most exciting. Everything is fresh and things are done very efficiently. But on the third or fourth day, I started to feel tired. The book provides data that 42% of business people who challenge new habits fail within seven days. The period of resistance is full of difficulties. How can we get through it smoothly? Here are two strategies: (1) Start with baby steps. When a baby learns to walk, he takes small steps. When we start a new habit, we also take small steps. Start small so that you can learn quickly and move steadily. For example, if you want to develop the habit of writing articles every day, don\’t rush to ask yourself to write 800 words at the beginning. You can start with one sentence. If you dare not take action because you are afraid, or you cannot persist because you find it too troublesome, then start with the smallest things to minimize the pressure of action, such as reading 20 pages of a book, memorizing 15 words, etc. Set the easiest threshold to implement and you can get through the first 7 days without even realizing it. (2) Leave small footprints. After you follow the first step to set your own \”baby steps\”, the next step is to simply record the completion status, \”check\” the day you complete it, and \”cross\” the day you did not complete it. In this way, you can reduce the content to be recorded to a minimum and it will not be a hassle. By continuously recording, you can gain a sense of accomplishment from the tasks you have performed and reflect on the reasons for laziness. 2. The second stage from the 8th to the 21st day of the instability period is during which we are easily affected, because this stage is no longer \”baby steps\”, and the difficulty of action gradually increases to the level we originally requested. For example, if you wrote one sentence every day for the past seven days, then in the next ten days, you will slowly increase it to 800 words. The difficulty has increased, what should we do? There are also three countermeasures at this stage: (1) Behavior modeling. Make the habit you want to develop a regular time, place, and practice. After the behavior is patterned, if you don\’t do things at a certain time, you will feel that something is missing. (2) Set exception rules. Plans often fail to keep up with changes. Maybe when you have a particularly heavy workload and feel uncomfortable, you may not be able to write 800 words. Interrupting actions due to emergencies can also lead to a sense of powerlessness and self-blame.. So, set \”exceptions to the rule\” and allow yourself to write just one line or simply jot down your thoughts when you\’re sick or come home late from work. This exception is not about indulgence, but about keeping the plan flexible if necessary. (3) Set the continuous switch. \”Continuous switch\” is a small method that can motivate you to continue doing it. There are two types. One is the candy switch, which can make you feel happy, such as rewarding yourself with something; the other is the punishment switch, which makes you feel pleasure. A sense of crisis, such as punishing yourself by not eating your favorite food, you can choose rewards or punishments based on your personality. 3. The 22nd to 30th day of the burnout period is the last stage. It is easy for people to feel tired because they may not feel the meaning of cultivating habits, or they may feel empty due to the same routine, feeling \”so irritable\” or \”so boring\” . During the burnout period, there are two methods that can help you get through the final difficulties. (1) Add changes. An unchanging life will wear away people\’s passion, and then they will find various excuses to give up action. So, we need to put some thought into seeking changes. For example, try to study in different ways, try to do some mind maps, etc.; if you want to develop the habit of running, you can change the running route during this period. Change allows you to start over with a new mood and bid farewell to the monotonous life. (2) Plan your next habit. When you complete a habit to 80%, that is, when you enter the burnout period, if you start to formulate the next habit, you will not only improve your current mobility, but also be able to invest in new learning projects with a new mood, killing two birds with one stone. In the end, no one studies purely because they like to study. Do top academics study purely because they love learning? Do people who work overtime until early morning every day work overtime because they like their work? Obviously not. Because they all understand that for a goal worth achieving, the hardship they endure now is nothing. In order to get on a better platform, to apply for a first-class foreign university, to get better job opportunities, and to realize an ideal life, it is worth paying the price for this goal.