The more relaxed parents are, the less confrontational their children will be

Liu Mingyi: If this person is very successful in real life, he will come to the conclusion: My experience is effective and I can help and support you. But it is difficult for parents not to tell their children about successful experiences. You think I have a good thing, but I don’t tell you. Then I know that you will take a detour in this way. If I don’t hold you back, you will think that you can get a lot of this kind of thing by spending a little time. It’s your own thing. It is a great pain for children not to enjoy it. Wang Ruijun: This is still our experience, or our limitation. Let’s go back to when we were children. For example, if you write well, who is watching? Liu Mingyi: No one is watching, no one has time to watch. Wang Ruijun: Yes, no one is watching. Everything we may do comes from our experience, but have you ever thought about why your child refuses to spend a few minutes practicing calligraphy? Until now, I am still practicing calligraphy. I rely on my inner drive to grow. No one said anything to me, look at your handwriting so ugly. I am willing to learn and practice calligraphy wherever possible. Liu Mingyi: When a person is truly interested, he will do it regardless of gain or loss. Wang Ruijun: In the past, people were good at writing. This had nothing to do with their cultural level, nor did it have anything to do with how long they had been in school. do you know? On the contrary, I feel that people in the past should be relaxed about this matter. If you want to write, you can write, if you want to think, you can think about it. When it comes to writing, when children reach a certain age, they naturally want to write well. But if we talk about a child, when he is 10 or 11 years old, he suddenly realizes that I want to write well, but he cannot withstand the previous five or six years when you nag him and scold him every day. Liu Mingyi: At that time, the crux of his problem was not whether he could write well or not, but that he couldn\’t cope with your feelings. Wang Ruijun: Confrontation. For example, most of my students cannot write well. I write out the content of the Tian Zi grid and tell the children how to occupy the structure in the Tian Zi grid. You write the two or three words for the teacher. I just want the children to gain an experience. Writing is not so annoying. Writing can be done well after practicing. I just give this message to my children.