Never tear down your child’s wall

Many parents are always afraid of their children making mistakes: when painting, parents will tell their children which pens to use for painting and which paints to use for color mixing; when building blocks, parents will show their children how to build tracks and how to build houses; when getting dressed, Parents dress their children according to their own preferences. Seeing their children put on socks and buttoning buttons awkwardly, parents can\’t help but dress their children themselves. Adults want to use their own life experiences to tell children: Listen to me and you can avoid many detours. French writer Romain Rolland said: \”You should do something wrong in life. If you do something wrong, you will learn something.\” 1. Don\’t scold your children when they make mistakes, so that they are not afraid of making mistakes. The weather has changed a lot recently, and the temperature has actually cooled down over the weekend. My daughter Duoduo must wear the new skirt I bought for her. This skirt is obviously a bit thin. I said the weather was a bit cold and I could wear the skirt when it warmed up. But she insisted on wearing it, so I happily put it on for her. Before going out, I took my jacket and pants and put them in my bag, and told her to change them if she felt cold. After walking around in the park for a while, Duoduo\’s lips turned blue and he ran over to get the clothes in his schoolbag. Many people would say that they are just used to it and just force themselves and their children to wear thick clothes. I think respecting children\’s choices is more important than saving trouble. So even if I know that her choice is wrong, I will not force her to accept my advice. I respect her choice and allow her to make mistakes. In addition, I will not blame her afterwards: You see you didn’t listen to me and wore so little, now you know it’s cold. I just need to bring her cold-proof clothes and do my best to protect the child. Only in this way will she dare to make mistakes. The fear of making a mistake is more terrifying than the mistake itself. 2. It is better to make mistakes early than late. In fact, the younger the child, the mistakes they make are all small mistakes, such as wearing inappropriate clothes, buttoning the wrong buttons, wearing shoes backwards, spilling rice on the ground, and failing in exams. , said words that hurt classmates, and made mistakes in the competition. These can be corrected in time and will not cause serious consequences. When we grow up, our mistakes will be many times greater than these! Falling in love with a scumbag, choosing the wrong job, listening to so-called friends and spending the hard-earned money on financial management. When children are young, the cost of trial and error is lowest, and they will make mistakes sooner or later. So let them make more mistakes when the cost is relatively low. 3. Don’t always choose options that are easy to win. Many of us think we are smart and will always choose options that are easy to win. For example, when a school organizes a sports meeting, it only allows children to sign up for events that they are good at and have a high probability of winning. It is not a good thing for a child to always win and rarely lose. When I was a kid, I probably had good talent, and I worked really hard, so I rarely failed in learning. When I go out to work after graduation, I always choose a job that I am good at, and I get promotions and salary increases much faster than my peers. These successful experiences made me mistakenly believe that I was extremely capable and intelligent, and that I could succeed no matter what I did. But people\’s abilities have upper limits, and people\’s cognition has boundaries. This self-perception that deviated from reality caused me to have too high requirements for myself, so that I could not accept failure. When my company suffered from the epidemic for three years, when I was unable to raise funds to maintain the company’sWhen a huge amount of capital was needed, I attributed the company\’s cash flow rupture and collapse due to the company\’s shutdown due to epidemic prevention to my lack of ability, and I could not accept such a failure. In fact, if I can accept the failure caused by this kind of natural disaster, I can quickly look for new opportunities and develop new business after careful review. Not to mention a comeback, at least I won\’t be trapped in depression and illness. What can enlighten a person is never preaching, but suffering; what can persuade a person is never truth, but the southern wall.