Since taking the lead in helping her daughter skip homework, she has become more self-conscious!

Recently, I talked with a friend about staring at children doing homework. After listening to my sharing, she was quite surprised and said, \”As a parenting blogger, you actually took the lead in helping your daughter avoid homework?\” When D first returned to China to enter the first grade of elementary school, her Chinese writing was relatively poor. Once she made 4 mistakes while dictating in class, and the teacher asked her to go home and correct them. She had to write each word about 50 times. I subconsciously said at that time, \”There are so many corrections, I wonder if you can do it?\” Little D also patted her chest and said, \”No problem, I can definitely do it!\” She did a good job correcting the first word. , and then when it came to the second word, I began to find that little D couldn’t persist. (Of course, at that time, Little D’s arm strength for writing was not enough for her to last that long.) When I noticed that she was starting to take advantage of the situation, and her writing became more and more sloppy, I stopped. I said to her: \”Let\’s get up a little and stretch our bodies.\” At the same time, I also thought of a compromise, \”You made 4 mistakes in dictating the new words. How about we do this and correct each word 10 times?\” , after 10 times, if you can write the words independently and write them correctly, we will not do the rest. \”After Xiao D has written 10 words, he can indeed write them correctly independently, and the stroke order is also correct. Finally, she finished her homework, and it was time for her to do what she was supposed to do. It was my turn to start having trouble, how should I explain it to the teacher? I thought for a moment, then wrote a note and explained the situation to the teacher. I also said that I would communicate with Xiao D. What to communicate? I will tell Little D these three things: First, why does mom want to help you reduce your homework this time? This is because your abilities have not yet reached your level. Your current arm strength and writing speed cannot allow you to complete 200 words with high quality and quantity. But you have to remember that other kids in your class can do it. Second, today my mother will explain the situation to the teacher, but if we fail to do it, we have not done it. In essence, you have not completed the homework. Third, in order for you to complete these \”assignments that other students can complete\” with quality and quantity, we have to start a small stove at home. Later, we will have an extra writing time and we will do it for 20 minutes. In the process, I found that I also gained something. The first gain is that the Chinese teacher understands us better. Later, I got acquainted with the Chinese teacher, and he also told me that in fact, what is he most worried about when his children don’t complete their homework? It\’s just that the parents didn\’t care. After seeing my sincere communication, he knew that this mother was not letting things go and had her own plans. Secondly, Little D himself also realized that this so-called \”reducing her burden\” was actually due to her own lack of ability, but it could encourage her to improve herself better. I have always felt that when doing anything we must return to one point – begin with the end in mind. I believe that the existence of homework is necessary, but I will be wary of these three types: the first is repetitive and mechanical homework, and it is far beyond the child\’s load. Second, if a child becomes unable to complete an assignment seriously, he or she will develop a bad habit of fishing. Then it is harmful rather than helpful. Third, let the children do their homeworkThe child loses the motivation to study and even becomes tired of studying. This is not what I want to see. As long as these three conditions are met, I will intervene. This is actually the home-school cooperation that I want Little D to see, including that when she enters the society, any problems can be solved through communication. This is actually a piece of life wisdom that I would like to share with you.