Never, never, never say this poisonous chicken soup to your children, not even as a joke!

A Chinese student\’s trip to an American university was an eye-opener. He arrived at the campus on the day specified by the school, completed the complicated registration procedures, and moved into the school\’s double dormitory. However, a week passed and his roommate still did not show up. Finally, one day a week later, the roommate showed up, and he was not alone, but actually brought a huge family – five or six people to come to the school to settle in, which instantly made the Chinese international students feel like they were going back to school in China. It is said that this roommate came from another state in the United States. The Chinese student was shocked. This was very different from his previous understanding of the United States. Don’t they all say that once American children reach the age of 18, their parents will let them go? Next, the Chinese international students witnessed with their own eyes how busy their roommate’s family members were: installing broadband, configuring computers, making beds, and even hanging up TVs in the dormitories. What’s even more surprising is that the roommate’s father also enthusiastically helped the roommate establish interpersonal relationships and invited the Chinese international student to a high-end restaurant for a feast. When leaving, they warmly invited the international students to their homes. This situation is in sharp contrast to what parents in China often say: \”When you are 18 years old, we will not care about you. You will be on your own from now on.\” Most Chinese parents are relatively traditional and say something like this, Mostly it is a joke or a threat to children. But for a minor, this matter cannot be taken seriously. They will not consider whether this is a joke by their parents or whether their parents are trying to scare them, but they will start to worry about how they will survive independently after they turn 18. \”When you are 18 years old, we will no longer care about you. You will have to rely on yourself from now on.\” This sentence is a classic. It can be said that the parent-child relationship was ruined in one sentence. A netizen shared a story: In a family with two daughters, the father loved to drink. Once after drinking, he said casually: \”When you are 18 years old, I will not care about you. Look at the United States, after the child turns 18, the parents No matter.\” The eldest daughter was stunned when she heard this. She didn\’t expect why her father would tell her this. Maybe he thought he was a burden. Unexpectedly, when she was 18 years old, she really left home to work and worked as an apprentice in a hair salon. Later, she opened her own beauty salon and brought her younger sister with her. After the two sisters left home, they had less and less contact with their parents. The parents tried to play emotional cards to get their daughters to go home, but the two daughters remained unmoved. \”When you are 18 years old, we will no longer care about you.\” The influence of this sentence cannot be underestimated, and it may destroy the parent-child relationship in an instant. This puts children in a dilemma: if they do not accept financial support, they will be independent but have a difficult life; if they accept financial support, they will feel that they have lost their dignity and always feel that they owe their parents a great favor. Some parents may just say it casually and not take it seriously. But for children, these are words that cannot be easily ignored. So as a parent, you must never say things like \”I won\’t care about you until you are 18\”, even if you are joking! Have you heard anything similar?