People’s Daily Recommends: 8 Golden Rules of Education (Parents Must Know)

Li Zhenxi, a famous educationist, said: \”School education is very important, but no matter how important it is, it is only a supplement to family education.\” No matter how good the school is, it cannot replace the family, and no matter how good the teacher is, it cannot replace the parents. Whether a child can become a talented person is directly related to his parents. Only when parents have good methods can their children have a good future. Today I would like to share with you 8 golden education rules recommended by the People’s Daily to help you cultivate a self-disciplined, confident, and optimistic child. 01 Rules of Appreciation Special teacher Wei Shusheng said: No matter how bad a child is, if you can find out the shining points in him, you will be half as close to excellence. Wei Shusheng once taught a boy who didn\’t do his homework and only scored 8 points in the Chinese exam. But Shusheng Wei sincerely affirmed the boy: a student who never listens to lectures, does homework, or reads can still score 8 points on the test. This is a kind of talent. The boy had never been recognized in his studies. After hearing Wei Shusheng\’s words, he regained his confidence. He spent one week studying new words, and another week studying common sense in literature. From 8 points to 26 points, and then slowly passing, I was finally admitted to a military academy with excellent results. Psychologist James said: The deepest essence of human nature is the desire to be appreciated. Education is not about focusing on shortcomings and trying hard to transform children, but about learning to appreciate children. Even if the child has 99% of the shortcomings, use a magnifying glass to find the 1% of advantages, and then magnify the 1% of advantages to 99%. Only by accepting and appreciating children and giving a thumbs up for every effort can we cultivate excellent children. Behind every outstanding child, there must be a pair of parents who appreciate him. 02 The Law of Pluralism Today, many parents are achievement-oriented. But truly outstanding people are not necessarily those with excellent grades. The famous cartoonist Zhu Deyong had poor grades when he was a child. His teachers ridiculed him and his classmates ostracized him. However, his father saw his talent in art and guided him to fulfill his dream of being a painter. Qian Zhongshu did not do well in mathematics, but the president of Peking University admitted him as much as he valued his literary talent. Zhu Deyong and Qian Zhongshu did not have excellent academic performance, but they had outstanding strengths in other aspects. A scientist is good at doing research, we cannot ask him to write excellent novels like Mo Yan; a chef is good at cooking, we cannot ask him to become an engineer. By the same token, we cannot just look at children’s scores and ignore everything else. Einstein once said: \”Everyone is a genius, but if you use the ability to climb a tree to judge how talented a fish is, it will spend its entire life believing that it is stupid.\” Everyone has their own strengths, don\’t force your children to be A fish that can climb trees. Don\’t use a single achievement to measure your child, help your child discover his potential, provide him with soil and nutrients for growth, and let him grow into himself. 03 Comprehensive Law I read a story. A child has had excellent grades since he was a child. He ranked among the best in every exam and was successfully admitted to a prestigious 985 school. After graduation, he worked as an accountant and cashier in a large company. In a few years, he embezzled millions and misappropriated tens of millions.Dang went to jail. Let me ask, is this kind of education and such results what parents want? The biggest warning this story gives us is: as long as children study well, there is no need to worry about anything else. This is a big misunderstanding. Smart parents take care of their children\’s grades and moral character. Good grades can help children become talented and move into a higher social position. And good moral character can support a child so that he will not fall from a height and suffer a bloody head. Raising a child with excellent character and academic performance is the greatest success as a parent. 04 The Law of Encouragement Zheng Yuanjie, the king of fairy tales, once said: Encouragement can make children grow into towering trees, while belittling can make children wither and become deformed. Children who have been encouraged by their parents to grow up for a long time are happy and lucky. Swimmer Fu Yuanhui, no matter what she does, her father always tells her: \”You are the best, you are the best, you are a genius.\” Fu Yuanhui firmly believes in her father\’s encouragement, and she also firmly believes that she is the best ,the best. Therefore, she has been positive and optimistic since she was a child, and she will not complain no matter how difficult she encounters. What Chinese parents lack most is affirmation and encouragement for their children, and what they like to do most is deny and suppress their children. Lucky people are encouraged to heal throughout their lives; unfortunate people live in the shadow of belittling their entire lives. Parents should be their children\’s encouragers, not criticizers. 05 The Law of Emotions Professor Li Meijin once conducted a survey on 1,000 minors. The analysis showed that children who are often scolded by their parents at home have the highest probability of developing character defects. I once read a true story. Zhang Qiang, a 12-year-old boy, lived with his mother after his parents divorced. His mother often insulted him: \”Why don\’t you die? You are a pig-brained, useless person. Everyone is better than you.\” His mother humiliated, sarcastically, and The sarcasm filled Zhang Qiang\’s heart with anger and shame. Deep down in his heart, he began to agree: he was really a waste, really worthless. Until one day, unable to resolve the pain in his heart, he picked up a knife and stabbed others crazily. The famous pediatrician Adele Farber said: Never underestimate the impact of your words on your child\’s life. Although your casual words will not leave scars on the child\’s body, they will put a thorn in the child\’s heart that is difficult to remove. No matter how young a child is, he or she has independent personality and dignity. It is the responsibility of every parent to stop being arrogant and respect and protect the human dignity of their children from being harmed. 06 The Law of Trust A survey conducted by the China Youth Research Center found that among the 10 most popular parental practices among children, the number one one is – \”Trust me\”. The famous film producer Li Xiaowan once mentioned a past incident during an interview. One day, she received a notice from the police station that something had happened to her son and asked her to go there quickly. She rushed to the police station and saw her son covered in blood and his two front teeth were knocked crooked. He believed that his son was the one who caused the trouble, so he couldn\’t help but cursed at the child. But the fact is that my son was robbed, not only his belongings were robbed, and was beaten severely. Li Xiaowan said that after this incident, her child never told her anything again, and even if she was misunderstood, she would not bother to explain. A broken heart, even if the wound heals, the scar remains. There are many parents in this world who love their children, but few who trust their children unconditionally. The famous educator Tao Xingzhi said: \”The whole secret of educating children is to believe in them.\” Children who have been trusted by their parents since childhood have a strong sense of security. When they encounter difficulties or are wronged, they will open their hearts to seek help from their parents and grow up. It will also be smoother. Children who are not trusted by their parents have no sense of security, no self-confidence, and even self-doubt. The best help parents can give their children is unconditional trust. 07 Laws of Behavior Two days ago, I saw a piece of news. In Hefei, Anhui, an 8-year-old boy woke up and saw his grandmother sitting at the table reading. So, he sat quietly aside, naturally picked up the book and started reading. According to the boy\’s mother, the adults in the family usually have the habit of reading. Under the influence of this family atmosphere, the child also loves reading. It is difficult for parents who play mahjong at home every day to teach their children to read. When you find that the more you control your child, the worse it gets, you might as well temporarily withdraw your attention from the child and focus more on yourself. If you want your children to play with mobile phones less, you must first quit using mobile phones, read more books and exercise more; if you want your children to talk well and not lose their temper easily, you must manage your emotions well. What kind of person you want your children to become, you must first work hard to become that person. Mr. Chen Heqin wrote in \”Family Education\”: \”Children are easy to imitate, and they may have to imitate the behavior and language of their family members. If the behavior of the family members is elegant, his behavior may also be elegant; His words are rough, and his words are probably also rough. \”Education is influence, not preaching, let alone control. The best education is for parents to lead by example and set a good example for their children. 08 The Law of Value Let’s first look at two short stories. After a man became famous and made money, his son became tired of studying. So, the man used money to coax his son to go to school, but the child took the money and ran to an Internet cafe to play games. After his son dropped out of school, he never thought about sending his son to learn a technical skill so that he could be able to support his family in the future. On the contrary, the children stay at home every day, either playing games or watching TV. Because he has always supported his son and conveyed to his son a sense of value: he can still live a good life even if he doesn\’t go to school, doesn\’t work, and doesn\’t work hard. My son was only in his early twenties, and he looked like a loser. This is the parenting style of \”Brother Dayi\” Zhu Zhiwen. The protagonist of another story is also a celebrity. She lives in a 160 million mansion in Hong Kong. But instead of raising her children richly, she was willing to let her children endure hardship. She took her children with their heads above the scorching sun, rolled up their trouser legs and bent over, planting rice seedlings in the paddy fields. Under this kind of education, children naturally experience the meaning of work and understand that eating vegetables and eating is hard-earned. If a child wants pocket money to buy snacks, he must help his father wash the car and earn snacks or pocket money by washing the car.In this way, she made the children understand the hard work of making money. This is the parenting style of \”Diving Queen\” Guo Jingjing. The values ​​that parents instill in their children will bear fruit in the end. Parents’ correct outlook on life is the way to lead their children to see the world. Only by establishing correct values ​​and outlook on life for children can we cultivate a healthy and sunny child. ▽I ​​have read this passage: \”Life is a process of conquering demons and cultivating righteousness. Good parents are the living bodhisattvas of their children. They can help their children open roads over mountains, build bridges over water, and achieve great success.\” In this world, There is never any excellence that comes out of nowhere, only what you get after all the hard work. Excellent parents are constantly making progress while accompanying their children in their studies. Give it a like, grow up with your children, accompany them through the wind and rain, and lead to a smooth road.