Li Meijin: What do parents do right to have promising children?

In the vast sea of ​​​​education, every child is a star with potential that needs to be discovered. But how to make this star shine for a long time and show its strong \”stamina\”? Behind this lies the profound wisdom and scientific methods of education. Today, we will discuss a topic that is often ignored – how to stimulate children\’s inner motivation and cultivate children with lasting stamina without forcing them. 🌈 Educational inspiration: Starting from the story of a hen, imagine a scene like this: an educator places a hen on a podium with a handful of rice in front of it. When the professor forcibly held down the hen\’s head to let it eat, the hen struggled. However, once let go, the hen immediately starts pecking naturally. This simple experiment vividly reveals the true meaning of education – the difference between external drive and internal drive💡Imposed pressure will only generate resistance, while inner desire can stimulate unlimited potential💡. 🌿 Intrinsic drive: Marathon growth philosophy In the growth of children, especially in primary school, we should focus on cultivating children\’s intrinsic drive. Just as the winner in a marathon is often not the fastest runner, children\’s learning also needs to be focused on the long term. 🎯Cultivating children with strong stamina means focusing on continuous progress rather than short-term leads🎯. Those children who appear to be \”learning by playing\” in the early stages of their studies and whose grades are above average but who continue to make progress often stand out in future competitions. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 How to do this by maintaining an “intelligent distance” from your child’s learning? The secret is to keep an appropriate distance from your child\’s learning. 👀The role of parents is to guide rather than replace, allowing children to face challenges and experience success and failure on their own👀. If a child encounters difficulties in a certain subject, even if the parents are capable of tutoring, they should avoid direct intervention to prevent the child from becoming dependent and losing the motivation for self-exploration. 🌟 The art of praise: Praise for nurture, not nature. When encouraging children, we must also pay attention to methods. 💬Properly praise children for their efforts, attitude and conduct, rather than just praising their intelligence**💬. For example, \”You have reviewed very carefully this time and have made great progress!\” Compared with \”You are so smart\”, it can stimulate children\’s self-efficacy and encourage them to continue working hard. 🍽️ Post-exam ritual: Enjoy the process and transcend the results After the exam, regardless of the score, a positive feedback environment should be created. Reward your child with a treat or a little trip to make learning an expectation rather than a fear**🎉. Doing so not only recognizes the children\’s efforts, but also teaches them to enjoy the learning process and look down upon temporary gains and losses. 📈 The correct way to look at results: a developmental perspective Finally, as parents, we should look at every test score of our children from a developmental perspective. One exam does not mean the end, the important thing is to learn from it and keep improving🌟. When children encounter setbacks, our task is to help them correct their shortcomings and rebuild their self-confidence, rather than simply denying or withdrawing rewards. In summary, cultivating children\’s \”stamina\” means respecting their inner development rhythm, encouraging exploration and self-motivation, motivating them in the right way, and taking a long-term view of their children\’s growth. At thisDuring this process, parents’ wisdom, letting go and positive guidance are the solid foundation for their children’s unlimited future possibilities. Let us work together to support the long-lasting endurance of our children and witness them becoming victorious generals on the track of life.