When you learned that you were going to be a father, did you find that you were overprotective or improperly protective?
Bad living habits may cause harm to the \”first-level protection\” at home?
Investigations show that it is these expectant fathers who are responsible for a considerable number of expectant mothers experiencing abnormalities during pregnancy. What are the attentive dads doing wrong?
Reason for being on the list: Overprotection
Common offenders:
Expectant father\’s statement
When your wife is pregnant, as a husband, you naturally have to focus all your attention on the expectant mother and be cautious. The less the expectant mother exercises, the better, and the more she eats, the better. Do the housework alone and don\’t make your mother tired. Of course, going to work is strictly prohibited. What if you get hit by a car? Naturally, the less she goes out, the better. There are a lot of bacteria and dust outside, so how can she be allowed to go out alone? She should stay at home, so that I can rest assured!
Wrong comment
Life is movement! When the mother-to-be moves, the baby moves too! Moreover, a child\’s future coordination, balance, and even physical fitness largely depend on his athletic performance during the fetal period. It is understandable that the expectant father cares deeply about the expectant mother, but it is also undesirable to blindly take over the work and not let the expectant mother do any physical labor. In fact, too little activity for expectant mothers can lead to physical weakness, which not only increases the incidence of dystocia, but is also detrimental to the growth and development of the fetus. Moreover, excessive diet and a small amount of exercise can also cause excessive fetal weight gain, leading to an oversized fetus, increasing the difficulty of delivery and increasing the chance of cesarean section for the expectant mother. In addition, expectant mothers have too little physical activity during pregnancy, which leads to weakened abdominal muscle contraction and insufficient labor force during delivery. These are the results of overprotection.
The correct way
1. Develop an exercise plan suitable for expectant mothers: A major prerequisite for expectant mothers to exercise and do housework is to take good care of themselves and constantly adjust exercise intensity according to the pregnancy period. During the first 8 weeks of pregnancy, prolonged and strenuous exercise should be avoided. Taking walks outside and shopping at uncrowded supermarkets are great ways to relieve stress and get some exercise. But it is best not to exceed 1 hour. From 10 weeks to 30 weeks, the exercise time of expectant mothers can be appropriately extended according to their own conditions.
2. The forms of exercise that expectant mothers can choose: In addition to more conventional leisure sports such as walking, expectant mothers can also choose some softer items, such as soothing aerobics, gentle body dance, etc. This is not only beneficial to the child\’s physical coordination and balance in the future, but also promotes the development of the fetal brain. Practicing midwifery exercises and yoga during pregnancy, as well as some appropriate water sports in the later stages of pregnancy, are very helpful for expectant mothers to have a smooth delivery. And if the father-to-be can also participate, it will increase the enthusiasm of the mother-to-be.
Reason for being on the list: Bad living habits
Common criminals:
Expectant father\’s voicebright
I know that smoking is bad for pregnant women and fetuses, so I never smoke at home. When I really can\’t stand it anymore, I hide on the balcony or downstairs to entertain myself. When I returned to my wife, I almost no longer smelled of cigarette smoke. Additionally, I canceled entertainment every weekend. I always stay at home with my wife, watching TV with him and playing on the computer. I can always be considered a qualified husband and father, right?
Wrong comment
Nowadays, with the popularization of health knowledge during pregnancy, most expectant fathers have a relatively high awareness of smoking cessation. But did you know that the latest scientific research has confirmed that in addition to the harm caused by smoking and second-hand smoke to the human body, there is also a potential killer, which is third-hand smoke, which refers to the smoke emitted by cigarettes and trapped in walls , furniture, clothes, even hair and skin. Harmful particles and gases can be absorbed by human skin. Changes in ventilation and pollution levels can cause residual cigarette odors to linger for hours, days or even months. Even if you are just smoking outside, nicotine can still be detected in the air and dust in your home. Moreover, they can also enter the bloodstream through the mother\’s respiratory tract, and then enter the fetus through the placenta, affecting the normal development of the fetus and prone to miscarriage, teratogenesis and low birth weight babies.
Computers are an essential partner in today\’s life and entertainment. But did you know that when the computer is turned on, the electromagnetic radiation emitted by the monitor has a damaging effect on cell division? Early in pregnancy, it damages the fine structure of the embryo. According to the latest research report, expectant mothers in the first trimester who spend more than 20 hours a week in front of the computer have an 80% increase in miscarriage rate and a greatly increased chance of giving birth to a fetus with malformations. Of course, the same goes for turning on the computer next to the expectant mother.
The correct way
1. Try not to smoke: No matter whether the mother-to-be is pregnant or not, the father-to-be should not smoke. If the expectant father has difficulty doing this, he can use some smoking cessation products, such as spraying smoking cessation medicine into the nose, eating smoking cessation candy, or using smoking cessation toothpaste.
2. Stay away from radiation: During this special period, try to keep some dangerous modern technologies at home in a dormant state. In addition to computers, televisions, microwave ovens, and mobile phones are all radiation products.
3. Don’t go out to socialize too frequently: Your wife will be more sensitive and narrow-minded than usual during pregnancy. Going out too often can make her restless and start wandering around. Even the most mundane entertainment can take up your time and energy. If you don\’t want to participate, just decline in the name of your baby and everyone will understand you. If you really can\’t leave, call your wife as soon as possible and tell her your arrangements and estimated time of arrival. With this attitude, your wife will understand you very well.
4. Maintain personal hygiene and give up the hobby of growing a beard: Beards, especially thick beards, will absorb and contain many germs and pollutants in the air, such as phenol, benzene, toluene, nitrogen, lead, etc. -Be and the expectant mother are intimate, and they will naturally enter into their wives.Respiratory tract and digestive tract, so for the health of mother and baby, expectant fathers should give up being \”athletic men\”!
Reason for listing: Improper protection
Common criminals:
Expectant father\’s statement
Since being overprotective is not a good thing, just let nature take its course. Anyway, I don’t think pregnancy is a big deal, and my wife is still pretty strong.
Wrong comment
There is no need to be overly cautious, but carelessness is absolutely unacceptable. No matter how high you get together, you have to control yourself now. Because many times
, mother-child accidents are all caused by these inconspicuous little things. Below, we have listed a few things that expectant fathers and expectant mothers tend to ignore, but the consequences can be serious. Compare it to see if there are any inappropriate situations:
1. Let your wife carry heavy objects or climb ladders.
2. Let your wife watch horror movies and horror novels with you.
3. Take her to the amusement park to ride bumper cars, ride rapids, or even a roller coaster. Anyway, she can follow whatever she wants to play.
4. Let her stay up late with you.
5. Your wife can also drink some wine when dining out or attending parties.
6. Karaoke with friends for more than 2 hours.
7. Soak in hot water bath (water temperature exceeds 39℃) for more than 1 hour.
Correct approach
Be a good housekeeper: If you are used to being taken care of by your wife, you will inevitably be a little confused now. Don\’t worry, study professional books and parenting magazines to find out what you want to know. After mastering the theoretical knowledge, you can help your wife plan her pregnancy life based on her actual situation.
What she can do and what is absolutely not allowed; what her physical condition can bear and what is dangerous for her. No matter what channel you use, you must take good care of the expectant mother, use your dignity, and strictly control the situation.
Reason for being on the list: bad mood
Frequent offense level: ★★★
Statement from the expectant father
When my wife is pregnant During this period of time, I deeply felt my responsibility as the head of the family. In order to earn enough money for milk powder for my precious son, so that mother and son can get more material protection, so during this period of time, I naturally worked harder than usual. Hard work and hard work, I think any reasonable wife should understand and sympathize with her husband\’s hard work, but I didn\’t expect that not only did she not understand, but she also got into trouble with me and lost her temper because I came home late from get off work. I really thought she was unreasonable. !
Comments on misunderstandings
Pregnancy is a stage in a woman’s life that will undergo many subtle changes. Compared with changes in physical appearance, there are actually more internal changes, including emotional changes. It is the one that has changed the most. The safety and health of two people, the expectations of the whole family, etc. are all at stake at this time.With it tied to her alone, one can imagine the pressure she feels. When you face your wife losing her mind intermittently, are you as angry as her and refuse to give in? Still making irritating remarks to his wife, that is really a big mistake. Being in a state of mental tension and depression for a long time will seriously affect the health of the expectant mother and fetus, and increase the chance of premature delivery of the expectant mother. For impatient expectant fathers, making noises with their wives, or even pushing and fist-dancing are not only It creates the risk of miscarriage, puts expectant mothers in a desperate situation, and causes maximum emotional and physical harm. As everyone knows, the negative impact of mental and emotional harm is much greater and longer-lasting than the impact of physical discomfort.
Correct approach
1. Countdown to 30 seconds to calm down: If you have another quarrel, or you think your wife is really unreasonable, wait until your bad mood escalates. In a more intense fight, please stop immediately! There is still room for maneuver at this time, keep a distance of more than 1 meter from her, look at your watch, and count down 30 seconds in your mind, without thinking about anything, try to calm yourself down, you can also Take deep breaths while counting down. After 30 seconds have passed, are you really not that angry anymore? If there is still some residual energy, then count down for another 30 seconds!
2. Become a gentle gentleman: In your daily life, you are always considerate to your wife. Why can\’t you do better now? Not to mention obedience, but also double the love. Kind smiles and heart-warming words will turn into spiritual strength for expectant mothers. Moreover, pregnancy is the most sensitive period for every woman. Although it lasts for 10 months, the patience you have now is nothing compared with the happy time you will have in your life. Please believe that happiness is ahead and you will do well.
Reason for being on the list: Improper sexual life
Frequent crime level: ★★
Statement from the expectant father
Now my wife is pregnant , I can tolerate it at first, but as time goes by, my body will inevitably lose self-control, but I think as long as you pay a little attention and be gentle with your movements, there should be no big problem
Comments on misunderstandings
Appropriate and comfortable sex life during pregnancy can not only enhance the relationship between husband and wife, but also promote the growth and development of the fetus. However, as expectant mothers undergo physiological and psychological changes at each stage of pregnancy, the frequency of sexual life must also be adjusted accordingly. Some husbands do not understand or lack self-control and do not exercise restraint in their wives\’ sexual life during the early and late stages of pregnancy, resulting in miscarriage, premature delivery and intrauterine infection. Data show that 10% to 18% of miscarriages are caused by improper sexual life during pregnancy. Because in the first three months of pregnancy, the placenta has not yet fully formed, and the embryonic tissue is not firmly attached to the uterine wall. Frequent sex or rough movements can easily stimulate uterine contractions, leading to premature rupture of membranes; in the last three months of pregnancy, Month, sexual life can easily bring foreign germs into the vagina, causing infection. Causes premature birth, especially one month before delivery. Sexual intercourse will increase abdominal pressure, leading to premature birth and intrauterine infection., puerperal infection, etc. Therefore, you should not be greedy for temporary happiness and cause trouble. The so-called small impatience may mess up big plans.
Correct approach
1. Restrain yourself: Expectant fathers should restrain themselves during pregnancy and be considerate of their wives. Especially in the early and late stages of pregnancy, they must pay attention to reducing the number of sexual intercourse. If the expectant mother has a history of spontaneous abortion or habitual abortion in the past, she should pay more attention and refrain from sexual intercourse one month before delivery.
2. Choose the right time: Compared with the first and third trimesters, it is relatively safe to have sex in the second trimester, but you must be very careful and limit the frequency. Under normal circumstances, once a week is appropriate, and you should choose a position that does not compress the fetus and use a condom to prevent prostaglandins in the semen from stimulating the uterus and causing strong contractions.