How much influence does a father\’s temper have on his children?

There was a mother who wrote a letter to her husband but didn’t know how to give it to him. She was anxious, watching her son grow up day by day, but he was never close to his father. Even when he hears his father\’s footsteps coming home, he will immediately put down the toys in his hands and become very anxious. She wrote, \”I know you also love our son very much, and you very much hope that he can be close to you and love you very much. But every time your son does something you are not satisfied with, you yell at him, such as when he eats Sometimes he just said that the shredded potatoes were too salty and he wouldn’t eat them! You felt that he was deliberately looking for an excuse to be picky about food, and he got angry and slammed the table. Then his son finished the meal silently with tears in his eyes. Another time, it was because you were taking a nap. , your son went to your room to get a toy and accidentally dropped the toy on the floor. The noise woke you up. You had red eyes and yelled at your son in the room, telling him to get out and not appear in front of you. You Knowing how scared my son was at that time, he was trembling all the time and was too scared to cry. I comforted him for a long time before he calmed down. Now, if he sees you sleeping, he almost doesn\’t dare to enter your room. You have to know, he is just. At 3 years old, for him, he definitely wants to hear more gentle voices from his father instead of furious roars. \”Little children should be careful when they are with their father and learn to watch his words. Then how tiring will his life be? And you would never imagine that at some point, your angry roars would have penetrated deep into the memory of your children, making them unable to forget and always in fear. Being a father is actually difficult. If you are too casual, some people will say that you don\’t know how to teach your children, and you are not like a father. In most people\’s impressions, their father is always the one who is taciturn, working hard, and has a temper like an ox when he is angry. When the child does something wrong, he will appear in time and become the one who teaches the child a lesson. I am busy with work on weekdays, so I don’t have time to take care of my children’s hearts and thoughts. When you ask him something, he also tells you, \”Go to your mother!\” But now, I have more expectations for my father. Fathers are becoming more involved in raising their children. As a veteran baby daddy, I would like to share some of my thoughts. For most families, the father plays a supporting role in raising children, so he must cooperate. Try to speak against the child\’s mother as little as possible, and reach a unified attitude on key issues. For example, the mother said not to buy candy, but the father bought candy for the child and said that it was okay to eat it once or twice. Mom says not to play with mobile phones, but you secretly play with your children. Once or twice is okay, but the more times it takes, the longer it takes. Not only does it make it more difficult for mothers to discipline their children, it also makes them develop bad habits. If parents are always at odds with each other, the children will also be confused, not knowing who is right and who should listen. Then the loopholes will be caught, and bad habits will grow wildly. Don\’t yell at the kids! Please, control your emotions. Yelling at a child is more harmful than not having time to take care of the child. Some time ago in my hometown, my cousin who was about to take the high school entrance examination was watching TV. Her father saw it, argued a bit, then yelled and threw her books to the ground. Her father had good intentions and wanted her to get into a good high school. But this method is inappropriate. The child cried loudly and ran out of the house. I heard that she returned to a nearby school and cried in the classroom for a long time. The head teacher comforted her. The roar at that time scared everyone and thought something had happened. Her father also looked very unhappy and was depressed all afternoon. I can understand how he feels. In fact, he was also an \”emotional out-of-control victim\” and could not control his impulse at that moment. Because no one wants to see such a result, including him who loses his temper. But it actually happened. I told him that when I was in the third grade of middle school, my grandma stopped treating me like this. Children also need to be respected and have something to say. He actually understands and hopes to control it. There are countless such scenes happening in various places and at various times. A father who yells in anger, a child who cries and is scared. The fewer such scenes, the better. Being a father still brings a lot of responsibilities. One of the responsibilities should be to maintain a gentle temper when in front of the children, so as not to lose control of emotions hysterically in front of the children. Share this with all fathers. Don’t allow yourself to be the only “critic” and “executor.” Many times, you will hear mothers or the elderly saying to their children: \”If you are still disobedient, wait until your father comes back to deal with you!\” It\’s such a familiar sentence. Those children who obeyed immediately must have been repaired by their father. It seems to work, but if you overdo it, it will only make your children hate you. What kind of relationship should be between father and child? I think we should recognize, understand and love each other. A father should not stand tall, but should squat down, look his child in the eyes, and talk to him. When a child disobeys discipline, tell him firmly and seriously what he can do. You can also play with your children in daily life and let them know: My dad can actually be very gentle and he loves me. Of course, we must also learn to be grateful and thank our children for choosing us to be their fathers. Give us a chance to walk with Him for a while…