A person has to be \”crossed\” by his children three times in his life

In infancy, the child awakens to the love of its parents. At this stage, the most important thing is to provide love, protection and care to the child. Children will be closely connected with their parents. At any time, their attention is on their parents, and they will do what their parents say. During adolescence, children often arouse the anxiety of their parents. At this time, children begin to recognize their own differences and find their own path by rebelling against their parents. Many parents say at this stage, I don’t know how to get along with their children. Especially when a child closes the door, it is easy for parents to feel that he has been abandoned. Then some parents will do a lot of extreme behavior, such as kicking the door, opening the lock, and peeking at the child\’s diary. Such behavior will only cause trouble. The parent-child relationship presents additional challenges. In fact, the moment the child closes the door, you feel that your sense of self is broken, leaving a hole in that place, and you feel that your feet are empty. This feeling of powerlessness eventually turns into anger. Through your child, you are aware of the hole in your heart. How do you face it? How you respond determines whether you can be a healthy parent. If you can take a breath, step back, make a space, settle down, and bring the connection back within – When I am with my child, when I see that the child does not behave as I expected, What is going on inside me? Bring the connection back within, settle your emotions, awaken your love for yourself through your children, and bring mature love back to the unhealed pain in your life. When you can connect with yourself, you are also more able to feel the vulnerability deep inside your child. In the parent-child relationship, you are independent, and the child is also independent, but you and the child are connected. You are both independent and connected to each other. This is the most beautiful aspect of the parent-child relationship. Because your child is not a copy of you or an extension of your sense of self. If you often extend your sense of self to your children and let them live up to your unfulfilled ideals and expectations, this is a sign of no boundaries. Similarly, if you often unconsciously let your children carry the pain that has not been healed and integrated to dissolve your uneasiness, tension, and fear, this is also a sign of no boundaries. The child will not be able to live his own life. A great boundary in the parent-child relationship is – dear child, this is something I need to face, transform and transcend in my life. You don\’t need to help me carry it, let me do it… I can bring the power back to myself, let me face it, let me heal it, let me transcend it, then I will have a complete life of my own. My child, this is my life, you also have your own life, please go and bloom your unique life! Mom and Dad will be happy for you, Mom and Dad will bless you, Mom and Dad will look at you kindly… This journey is not easy, we must learn to move from integration to independence, to see us We are connected, but we are ourselves. In adulthood, when children grow up and we grow older as adults, what is the most important thing at this time? I think soRevere life itself and face the anxiety of death. Get out of the daily routine, focus on the existence itself, be full of awe for the existence of things, live in the moment of life wholeheartedly, and live a life without regrets. When you can bring such a connection with you, Such a state of existence may be the most important blessing you can give to your child\’s life.