It is difficult for this type of family to raise confident children. No matter how many children they have, it will be useless. The children will already have low self-esteem.

General Napoleon said: There are only small differences between people, but this small difference can make a huge difference. A small difference is a positive attitude and a negative attitude, and a huge difference is success and failure. It can be seen that mentality has a great impact on each of us, and the key point behind a positive mentality is self-confidence. Comparing the people around you, you will find that whether in study or in the workplace, those who are at the top of their studies, promoted and raised their salary have a strong aura and are very confident. He is always eloquent and confident when facing the public. Even talented scientists in scientific research, no matter how taciturn they are on weekdays, are confident when it comes to their own exclusive fields. I have been watching Professor Zhang Chuanfang lecture on \”Dream of Red Mansions\” these days. Teacher Zhang Chuanfang is very old and not very beautiful, but her analysis of the entire \”Dream of Red Mansions\” is very good, and she can examine it from a historical perspective and an author\’s perspective. This work analyzes the personality traits and destiny of each character in the book. The appearance is very ordinary, but when you sit there and talk about \”Dream of Red Mansions\”, it will shine. Readers will sincerely say: The teacher is so charming! This is the power of self-confidence. As parents, we all want our children to be confident, outstanding and successful, but the first step to success is self-confidence. Only by believing that you can do it, how can you do it if you don’t believe in yourself? ? Of course, we will also find a phenomenon. Some children are obviously from poor backgrounds, but they do not feel that they are inferior to others at all, and they still have dazzling self-confidence. For example, Pang Zhongwang, the top scholar from a poor family, became the top science scholar in Cangzhou City with a high score of 744. Pang Zhongwang’s mother is in a wheelchair and his father suffers from intermittent mental illness. Since he was a child, Pang Zhongwang has been studying while picking up used paper shells and plastic bottles and selling them for money. Growing up in such an environment, he never complained, quietly persisted in his hard work, was admitted to Tsinghua University, and became the first student of that generation to be received by the president of Tsinghua University. There are also children whose family background is not bad, but who do not have such strong self-confidence. The difference lies in the attitude and education of their parents towards their children. It is difficult for the following families to raise confident children. No matter how many children they have, it will be useless as the children already have low self-esteem. Punishing parents are always bad judges of their children. No matter what their children do, their first reaction is to oppose, attack, or even speak harshly. In fact, deep down in a child\’s heart, parents\’ attitudes and evaluations are very important. Some time ago, I was busy with work and felt irritable. During that time, I was impatient with my children. When he was doing homework, I always accused him of poor writing, saying that he was \”stupid\” and \”doesn\’t like to study.\” He originally had a very positive attitude towards studying last winter, but during that time he often fell into self-doubt and self-denial. He often said: Mom, do I like studying? Do I study well? After asking the question, I answered it myself: Do I not like studying? I am stupid at studying! Since then, I have realized the problem, because during that time I was always using such words to hit my children, so the children subconsciously thought that they were bad. So for a child, even if the whole world doesn\’t understand him and abandons him, as long as his parents believe in him, he can succeed. AlthoughNow Li Jiaqi is attacked by many netizens, but his past glory and success are indelible. Before becoming an anchor, Li Jiaqi worked as a shopping guide for skin care products in a shopping mall. In order to introduce the color of lipstick, she often spit lipstick on her mouth. At that time, all her friends, relatives and classmates were questioning him: What is wrong with a big boy? It’s disgusting to sell skin care products every day and make yourself look neither male nor female! But in response to these doubts, Li Jiaqi\’s mother has never disliked her son, and said to him: You don\’t steal or rob, just do what you like. This is the power that parents believe will be passed on to their children, and then the children can become more confident. I graduated from a university with a bachelor\’s degree and was rated as an outstanding graduate in the year I graduated. However, after graduation, I changed careers and did not engage in this major. Instead, I chose my favorite copywriting editing job. Later, I used my spare time to write articles on various platforms. When the income from my side job exceeded my main job, I decided to quit and become a freelancer. Every time I go back to my hometown, I get asked: What do you do? With such a high degree of education, she doesn’t go to work and works as a housewife at home! At that time, I was not happy when I heard this voice. My mother would encourage me: It doesn’t matter what kind of job I do, just do the job you like and make money to support yourself. Don’t care about what others think, and don’t live by what others say. Don\’t live in the eyes of others. Therefore, when parents have absolute trust in their children, they can build their children\’s self-confidence. Parents who constantly criticize and discourage their children will never raise confident children. Jiang Wen openly talked about his mother in the \”Thirteen Invitations\” program. He said: My relationship with my mother has never been very good. When Jiang Wen was admitted to the Central Academy of Drama, he excitedly showed his admission letter to his mother, but her mother showed no emotion at all and only said: You still have a basin of clothes to wash! Later, Jiang Wen became more and more successful as an actor and director. He made money and bought his mother a big house. He thought that his mother would be very happy, but her face was still pale. So for so many years, although Jiang Wen has become a successful person, he still can\’t let go of this obsession in his heart, and he still has low self-esteem in his heart. On the other hand, Jiaozi, the director of the movie \”Nezha\”, studied medicine in college, but switched to animation after graduation. He did not work or socialize, so he hid at home and concentrated on animation. At that time, many relatives and friends didn\’t understand, thinking that the child was a waste. However, the financial resources for the three years of focusing on animation were all dependent on the support of his mother\’s pension, which led to the release of \”Nezha\”. Nowadays, it is often said that the \”law of attraction of the universe\” is actually the power of trust. One thought of heaven, one thought of hell, one thought of becoming a Buddha, and one thought of becoming a devil. What kind of child you believe your child will be will determine what kind of person your child will become in the future.