People\’s Daily: The real reason for the gap between children in the same class and the same teacher! (Forward to parents)

I often hear parents ask: \”We are in the same class, with the same teachers, the same classmates, the same learning content, and the same homework at home, but why is my child not as good as other children?\” Because teaching is at school and education is at home. The acquisition of knowledge depends on teachers, and the growth of children depends on parents. \”People\’s Daily\” once published an article: Family education determines a child\’s life! What really widens the gap between children is not the school or the teacher, but the parents. Parental Education I remember an education expert who said: “Whether parents educate their children attentively, whether they play a leading role, a supporting role, or a guest role in their children’s lives, may initially only make a difference in time and money, but ultimately determines the difference in the quality of their children’s lives. \”There is no model or standard for educating children, only intention. I have seen many parents who put making money first and their children second. As a result, the child\’s growth is missed and the child\’s future is delayed. It doesn’t matter if you work hard to make money, your child will lose everything overnight; it doesn’t matter if you become successful and famous, your child’s future will have been lost long ago. Beethoven once said: \”I don\’t know what is a more sacred responsibility than raising a child to be an adult.\” Family is the cornerstone of education, and parents are their children\’s first teachers. If parents pay attention, children will be educated; if parents don\’t care, children will become depraved. The kind of person a child will become depends on the kind of education his parents give him. As Suhomlinsky said in \”Parenting Pedagogy\”: \”Fathers and mothers are educators just like teachers. They are no less than teachers, and they are intelligent human creators. Because the child\’s wisdom has not yet matured. When you are born into the world, it stretches out from the roots of your parents. \”The quality of habits. A domestic study found that: the study habits a student develops in the third grade of elementary school, coupled with the learning methods mastered in the first grade of junior high school, Directly determines the academic performance of the second year of high school. The difference in children\’s habits is the difference in performance. Xie Xinying, who was ranked third in Chongqing, was admitted to Peking University with a score of 726 in the college entrance examination. When asked about her child\’s learning secret, her father said: \”It is important to develop good habits from an early age.\” How good are Xie Xinying\’s habits? She goes to bed before 9:30 every day. This habit has been required by her parents since she was a child. She completed all her homework independently because her mother told her to \”do it well when you do it.\” Her parents also asked her to ask questions if she didn’t understand. So she got used to asking the teacher for advice as soon as the get out of class was over, instead of putting off the problem until the next day. A child\’s excellence is the sum of countless habits. The simplest education is to cultivate good habits in children. Japanese educator Yukichi Fukuzawa said: \”If the family is a school of habits, parents are the teachers of habits.\” Parents giving their children gold and silver are not as good as teaching them to develop good habits that will benefit them throughout their lives. The role of role models Children are born with a blank sheet of paper, and it depends on how their parents paint. They will remember what you say and do, and then they will learn from you and imitate you. If you love playing on your mobile phone, don’t blame your child for being addicted to games; if you often stay up late, don’t blame your child for sleeping in; if you never read at home, don’t blame your child for not liking to study… For a family, parents are the root and children are the flowers. If the roots are broken, the flowers will definitely wilt. There is a sentence in the \”Declaration of the Rights of the Child\”: \”Human beings should treat it asThe best things you have are given to children. \”The most beautiful thing about parents is the role model they set for their children. Just like Zheng Hongsheng, the father of the fairy tale king Zheng Yuanjie. Zheng Hongsheng has three children. The eldest son Zheng Yuanjie became a writer, the second son became the carrier pigeon king, and the youngest daughter became a traditional Chinese medicine pharmacist Teacher. The careers of the three children are closely related to what their father Zheng Hongsheng did in front of them since childhood: reading and writing, raising carrier pigeons, and practicing traditional Chinese medicine. Later, Zheng Yuanjie wrote a book called \”The Meaning of Father is a Role Model\”. The book writes: “The key is what parents do in front of their children, not what they say. Everything you say to children is useless and sometimes even counterproductive. \”Teaching by words and deeds is the best education that parents can give their children. When parents change, children will naturally change. When parents grow up, children will naturally grow up. If parents are good, children will naturally get better. No matter how many parents read, they don\’t want their children to lose out.\” \”On the starting line\”. They let their children attend cram schools, do extracurricular homework, and schedule their spare time to a full schedule. But these cram schools are like \”instant noodles\”, which can only solve the temporary hunger, but cannot give the children enough nutrition. Really useful Supplementary lessons are actually reading. Studies have shown that children who start reading at the age of 5 are more literate than their peers; children who read a lot in elementary school have higher grades than children who have loved reading since childhood. People who don’t like reading are better. Reading comes first, and then there are achievements. The most important thing for parents is to help their children become “readers”. Wu Yishu’s parents have been reading various classics with their daughters since they were young. Under the guidance of the teacher, Wu Yishu fell in love with reading and became a well-spoken modern talented woman. When Professor Mengman was a child, her favorite books were \”Jane Eyre\” and \”Wuthering Heights\” that her mother read to her every night. \”My mother was reading, and I was also reading. \”Reading\”, this idea accompanies her as she grows up. Bi Shumin once said: \”Letting children fall in love with reading will definitely become the most cost-effective education for parents in their lives.\” \”The best love parents can give their children is to read with them and grow together with them. The effectiveness of home-school education depends on the consistency between school and family. Not all \”eugenics\” are educated by teachers, \”poor students\” are also It’s not all cultivated by the school. If the family education is not up to par, no matter how good the school education is, it will not help. I have heard many teachers complain that they want to control the students but dare not, because they are afraid of being complained by their parents; just leave it alone. I can\’t get over my conscience. Education that cannot form a synergy is a failed education. And those teachers with outstanding teaching performance are often inseparable from the support of parents. If parents do not protect their children, teachers will not. Only by being tolerant can children have a future! Not being a teacher and not disturbing education is the best support for children! As Teacher Dou Guimei, the principal of Tsinghua University Affiliated Primary School, said: \”I especially ask our parents that our relationship with our school is not between Party A and Party B. It is not a conflict between ourselves and the enemy, but a joint effort to complete the task of educating children. \”The greatest luck for a child is to have teachers who are dedicated to their duties and parents who lead by example. With each other\’s understanding, trust and support, they pave the way for their children to become successful. Written at the end: Both parentsAfter the reduction, the era of \”fighting for parents\” has officially arrived. The Ministry of Education once issued a document reminding parents: \”Double deductions further test the responsibility of parents. Excellent parents do not depend on the level of academic qualifications or education, but on whether they have a sense of responsibility. \”Education is a responsibility, companionship is a responsibility, leading by example is a responsibility, and family Co-education in schools is a responsibility. Behind every top student, there are outstanding and fierce parents. The best education is to \”fight your parents\”!