Whether the child has a future or not, you can tell by looking at the mother.

A few days ago, I was invited to my daughter’s classmate’s house to celebrate her birthday. The child studies well and is polite. Every time he sees me, he says \”Auntie is nice\” and his manners are well-educated. When I went to her house and saw her mother\’s condition and the interaction between mother and daughter, I couldn\’t help but think of a famous saying: \”A good mother is worth a hundred good teachers.\” I used to think that children are smart, sensible, capable and capable. To succeed, it is most likely that he is conscious and self-disciplined. In fact, the key determining factor is related to what the mother does. Yu Minhong once said: \”The quality of the mother determines the life of the child.\” Whether a child will be successful can be seen from the mother. The \”lazier\” the mother is, the more independent the child will be. When I went to my daughter\’s classmate\’s house this time, my biggest impression was: this child is too diligent. As soon as the guest comes in, she takes the initiative to bring the indoor slippers, guides the guest to sit on the chair in the entrance to change shoes, and also helps carry the bag. After everyone entered the room and sat down, she put a few bottles of mineral water on the coffee table, said she would drink it if she was thirsty, and then ran straight to the kitchen to help her mother bring cut fruits. That’s not all. During the birthday cake eating session, my mother said, “Come here.” She quickly untied the packaging rope and distributed disposable paper plates and forks. After her mother cut the cake, she was responsible for decorating it, giving it first to the adults present, then to her classmates, and finally to herself. Seeing how independent and independent she is at such a young age, I couldn\’t help but ask her how her mother taught her. Her mother said with a smile, \”I don\’t teach her much. I just let her do what she can do. If her mother does less, she will naturally do more.\” This makes perfect sense. On the other hand, when I look back at my daughter’s education in the past, I was used to taking care of everything. I thought she was grinding her teeth when she brushed her teeth, so I helped her squeeze out the toothpaste, filled it with water, and waited for her to open her mouth. Worried that she wouldn\’t know how to match her clothes and mess up the wardrobe, I put the clothes and socks away early so that she could wear them as soon as she picked them up. Every time I go camping, I prepare food and drinks, and she just remembers to bring her iPad. As a result, my daughter not only failed to imitate me and became diligent, but also became lazier and lazier. She relied on me for everything and even blamed me for not preparing delicious food. It turns out that my thankless work and my daughter\’s inability to take care of herself are related to my \”too much care\”. Think about it, there are some things that children can already do and should do. If parents interfere too much and deprive children of the opportunity to practice self-care, they will definitely not be able to learn to take initiative and take responsibility. If you want your children to become diligent, independent and self-motivated, mothers have to be lazy and not do everything by themselves, which will tire yourself out. Only when the mother wisely withdraws and lets the child take over can the child have the opportunity to learn to take care of himself and be responsible for himself. The better the mother\’s taste, the more confident and sunny the child. I particularly admire a type of mother, like the mother of my daughter\’s classmate: she is dressed neatly and neatly, her hair is neatly combed, and her home looks clean and comfortable. The entrance, dining table, TV cabinet, and balcony are all beautiful. There are flowers, refreshing. This is also a daily detail that many mothers tend to overlook. When I go downstairs to buy groceries, I wear house slippers. If I\’m too lazy to change, I just wear pajamas. Even if I go out to meet people, I just put on a ponytail and a T-shirt and go out. It’s not that it’s bad, but it lacks the taste and interest of life, which will destroy the child’s sensitivity and recognition of beauty and make the child mediocre. Paying attention to image will make you look fresh and capable, and have a positive impact on the quality of life.The pursuing mother is quietly pushing her children to become better. Netizen @王伟一’s mother is, in her words, “the best woman I have ever seen.” Not to mention that her figure and skin are well maintained, and she also shows off a girlish look from time to time. At home, my father loves my mother very much, and my mother spends a lot of time and energy on cultivating herself. Even though there were two children at home, she did not live like a nanny, but a beautiful and decent hostess. Netizen @王伟一 is most proud of the fact that when her mother picked her up when she was a child, her classmates’ eyes would light up, and she would always proudly introduce, “Look, this is my mother.” Although children are naturally sensitive to beauty, they also need a nurturing environment. Mom carefully creates a comfortable and beautiful atmosphere, and enjoys the pleasure and satisfaction brought by quality life. Over time, this pursuit and focus on beauty, as well as the dedication and enthusiasm for life, will satisfy the child\’s emotional value and greatly enhance his self-confidence. The better the mother\’s taste and the higher her energy, the more she can let her children know what is true, good and beautiful, which will benefit them throughout their lives. The lower the mother\’s voice, the more motivated the children are. I read a street interview and several primary school students said, \”I hate it when my mother speaks loudly and is mean to me.\” In order to urge their children to study, some mothers even threaten them with sticks and shout loudly, which makes their children frightened and panicked. Once upon a time, that flower-like, gentle and considerate woman became synonymous with \”Hedong Lion\’s Roar\” after she became a mother. Perhaps it is the exhaustion of taking care of the family and children and the chaos of life that makes mothers speak louder and louder. But he yelled and yelled, and he was fierce, but the effect was not good at all. Instead, the child became cautious and did not dare to speak. Many times, the mother\’s decibel is inversely proportional to the child\’s growth motivation. The louder you yell, the more timid and inferior your child will be. Only by lowering your volume and speaking patiently and gently can your child listen and regain the confidence and confidence they deserve. Writer Cai Yingqing is a gentle mother. Every morning, she gets up a little early, walks into the child\’s room, sits on the edge of the bed, touches the child\’s cheek and hair, and gently reminds her that \”it\’s time to get up.\” One time, her daughter was studying Tang poetry, but she couldn\’t understand the meaning of the poem no matter how hard she memorized it. She noticed something was wrong with her daughter and asked gently, \”Do you want mom to explain it to you?\” He also took out other ancient poems and slowly explained the artistic conception of the poems. Soon his daughter understood and fell in love with ancient poems for this reason. Later, my daughter forgot to bring her math homework to school and was punished by the teacher. She cried very hard. After hearing this, she comforted her like this: It is shameful to reveal your true feelings. If you can\’t hold back your sadness, just cry out. After crying, think about it again. Think about how to avoid making the same mistake next time. With her \”whispering\” company, my daughter is confident and devoted to whatever she does, especially enjoying the learning process. There is a saying that the best way to communicate with children is to speak softly. The mother\’s gentle guidance makes the child feel like a spring breeze. Not only can it accurately convey the warmth of love, but it can also strengthen the child\’s core, allowing the child to walk on the road of life with steady steps and as fast as the wind. The more the mother praises, the more outstanding the child will be. William James, a Ph.D. in psychology, said: The deepest need of human nature is the desire to be appreciated and praised by others. For children, allChildren\’s self-evaluation and self-worth are inseparable from parents\’ feedback. A mother’s simple words of “you are awesome”, “you can do it” and “you are amazing” are full of power and warmth, which can greatly satisfy the child’s emotional needs and build his self-confidence. Education expert Chen Meiling emphasized in \”50 Educational Methods: I Sent Three Sons to Stanford\”: \”Catching children doing wrong things and holding on to them will only encourage their bad habits. If you praise your children appropriately, they will continue to repeat them. This good behavior continues to do what his parents want him to do. \”As a child, she hated bathing and always made herself dirty. When her mother saw it, she scolded her and asked her to take a bath quickly. But she just couldn\’t change it. Instead, she felt that only by making herself dirty could her mother look at her more and take care of her. In fact, she hopes her mother will praise her and praise her, so that she will actively wash her face every day and learn to tidy herself up. Later, when she became a mother, she saw that her son did not eat well, always eating everywhere, or filling his mouth with food all at once. Seeing that her son\’s progress was very slow, she wanted to remind her verbally, but she immediately realized that \”it needs to be praised\”, so she changed her mind and said, \”It\’s really good to eat. It\’s great.\” Sure enough, with her encouragement, her son gradually mastered it. There are no similar problems with eating rhythm and table manners. Mother\’s heartfelt praise and praise are like a shot in the arm and a placebo, making the children realize that their efforts and contributions are seen and recognized. Even if he does not do well for a while and encounters difficulties and challenges, he will have the confidence to turn the situation around and break through himself. As Carol Dweck, a well-known developmental psychologist at Stanford University, concluded: Praising children for their hard work and hard work will give them a sense of self-control and make them convinced that success is in their own hands. A mother’s words of encouragement and affirmation are a refueling station for her children and a springboard for them to become better. After gaining the power of enough praise, children will believe in themselves no matter where they go or whatever they encounter and bravely face the storms of life. There is a saying that describes mothers: \”The hand that moves the cradle is the hand that moves the world.\” The role of a mother plays an important role in the growth of a child. Whether a child is good or not, and whether he or she is successful, depends on the mother\’s companionship, guidance and education. The mother\’s hands that \”pull the cradle\” not only fill in the background of a child\’s life, but also shape his future direction. Maybe we are mothers for the first time and have insufficient experience and knowledge, but starting from today, we must learn and improve ourselves to become the best role models for our children. I believe that one day, we will give our children a confident and happy childhood, and they will create a bright and wonderful future for themselves.