After watching \”The Story of a Rose\”, I found a recipe for raising a good daughter

Recently, \”The Story of a Rose\” starring Liu Yifei finally came to its finale. Many netizens joked that Huang Yimei\’s daughter Xiaochu is the real winner in life. His father runs an Internet company, his mother runs a gallery, his uncle opens an architectural design company, his aunt is a senior executive of a large company, and his grandpa is a professor at Tsinghua University. He has had a Beijing household registration since he was a child… But in my eyes, Xiao Chu’s greatest luck is to have Huang Yimei. Such a gentle but strong, emotionally stable, and upright mother. To her, Xiaochu is not her accessory, but an independent individual. She would write letters telling her daughter that her presence was enough to make her happy. When she got divorced, she was honest with her daughter and told her that divorce was just the end of a relationship, not a failure in life. \”Our life is just a brief glimpse in this world. Everything has an end, so we will cherish the present.\” Under Huang Yimei\’s patient education, even if Xiaochu grew up in a divorced family, it did not prevent her from becoming an optimistic and kind-hearted person. A child full of love. They say loving others is like growing flowers. Mother Huang Yimei is the best gardener. She really cultivates her daughter well. As a mother, after reading \”The Story of a Rose\”, I think I have found a recipe for raising my daughter well. Use enough emotional value to nourish her heart. Some time ago, a video went viral: a 14-year-old girl in Jiangxi cooked four dishes and one soup to reward her hard-working mother. As a result, when she excitedly called her mother to come for dinner, she received a cold scolding from her mother: \”Am I going to praise you? You prepared so many dishes, can the two of us finish it?\” You can imagine how much the girl felt at that time. Losing, how uncomfortable. In fact, girls have perceptual thinking and are more easily affected by emotions and moods. The amount of emotional value parents can provide to a girl will determine the girl\’s inner sense of security, strength and happiness. In \”The Story of Rose\”, Xiaochu saw Rose creating art works and asked enviously: \”Mom, why don\’t I inherit your artistic cells?\” Rose patiently comforted her daughter: \”Everyone has their own talent. It’s different, don’t you follow your dad? Look at how strong your logical thinking and hands-on skills are, and look at the models you made, how great they are!” She would sincerely express her gratitude for the little things her daughter did for her; When she picks up her daughter from school and sees her droopy face, she will immediately ask with concern and try to calm her daughter\’s emotions. Thinking of a scene in the hit drama \”My Altay\”: Zhang Fengxia\’s daughter Li Wenxiu was fired from her job in Urumqi, and she felt very frustrated. After she successfully helped her mother collect debts, she asked her mother hopefully: \”Look, although I am clumsy, I am still a useful person, right?\” Zhang Fengxia retorted with a serious face: \”What does it mean to be useful, Li Wenxiu, sir?\” You are not here to serve others. Look at the trees and grass on the grassland. If someone eats them and uses them, they are useful. If no one uses them, they are fine just staying on the grassland and are free.\” These words immediately smoothed the wrinkles in her daughter\’s heart. I have to say that having mothers like Mei Mei and Zhang Fengxia is a girl’s blessing in life. If you have a daughter at home, you must give her enough emotional value and give herShe listens, pays positive attention, and empathizes with emotions enough to let her know she is great. This belief will give a girl courage and confidence, allowing her to calmly accept various challenges on the road to growth. Planting a relaxed attitude towards life into her heart There is a scene in the play where Huang Yimei drew a painting and asked her father how the painting went. The father\’s answer is worth savoring by every parent. He said: If you don’t understand something, you can’t make blind comments. When Huang Yimei lamented that her father had never denied or criticized herself since she was a child, Huang\’s father added: \”If you do something that violates laws and disciplines, the law will punish you; if you do something that violates morality, public opinion and conscience will be punished. They will come to condemn you; there are some things, there is no right or wrong, and there is no standard, just like feelings.\” Under the influence of the unconditional love and acceptance of her family, Rose became a particularly relaxed person. Career-wise, she never cares about what the outside world says about herself, and just does whatever she wants, always calm and confident; emotionally, she dares to love and hate, and is not afraid to devote herself to it. She also has the courage of a strong man to cut off his wrist, sober and free. The same goes for Rose when it comes to educating her daughter, planting a relaxed and calm attitude towards life into her daughter\’s heart. She never criticizes her daughter, and speaks softly every time she talks to her daughter. Once, Xiaochu accidentally spilled milk all over himself. Rose said gently: \”It doesn\’t matter. Mom taught you how to clean up last time. Let\’s go and clean it up together.\” Rose turned on the faucet, and Xiao Chu happily started cleaning the stains on his body. In fact, girls\’ minds are inherently sensitive and fragile, and they can be easily hurt inside. In the growth path of girls, parents should try to create a relaxed and free atmosphere for growth. I think of a girl on the hot search. After she quit her job, she could only work as a floor shop in the house rented by her parents. Although life is difficult, the family never lacks smiles on their faces. The girl was greedy late at night and wanted to go downstairs with her mother to buy popsicles. Instead of blaming her, her mother asked her daughter expectantly: Should she have a supper or a snack? After wearing weird makeup, my father didn’t open his mouth to lecture after seeing it, but laughed with his daughter; when I went to a restaurant with my parents, I would never be scolded for wasting money, but the family would happily take photos and discuss it. . The sense of relaxation that the family exudes from the inside out is truly enviable. This kind of girl who grows up nourished by love and freedom will definitely feel safe in her heart, calm and calm, and have the courage to ride the wind and waves. Fill her spiritual world with knowledge and vision. I think the best thing about Rose is that she never treats her daughter as a flower in the greenhouse. Instead, treat her as an independent individual, take her to see the world, and teach her the ability to be independent. She would tell her daughter that metal objects should not be put into the microwave oven because they would explode; she also taught her daughter about death early on. When Xiaochu asked her, would Fu Jiaming die? Instead of escaping, Rose calmly told her daughter, \”Everyone of us will die, and all lives have a beginning and an end, just like describing everyday things like eating and drinking.\” When her daughter was young, she would go on business trips to various places, and she would always… Take your daughter with you. My daughter is envious of her classmates and wants to ride in a flight simulator. She is agreeing to take her thereAt the same time, she was asked to do more housework to earn money… Under her training, Xiaochu not only had excellent grades, but was also good at getting along with others, confident and generous, and dared to express her opinions. I can’t help but think of Niu Niu, the “hoodie girl” who went viral on the Internet some time ago. She would describe her hoodie: \”It looks very loyal, like Shevne\”; she would also describe the flowers she picked up on her head: \”This is free beauty\”; she would tell everyone, \”What is good and bad about laughter? A person who smiles is never ugly.\” It must be said that Niu Niu, who is only 3 years old, has excellent empathy, expression and logic abilities. It really makes people sigh, what kind of parents can raise such a cute, outstanding, confident, and fairy-like little girl. It turns out that Niuniu\’s parents have liked to take her out to play since she was a child, either walking in the park or exploring the streets. They will explain the name of a flower carefully and patiently tell the history of an ancient building. These gentle guidance and detailed explanations quietly integrated into Niu Niu\’s thoughts, enriched her vision and enlightened her soul. Normally, Niuniu\’s parents would often ask her questions, allowing her to boldly express herself and her views on the world in front of the camera. Because of this, Niu Niu has today\’s colorful words and rich and independent spirit. Don\’t raise your daughter to be a \”silly white sweet\” who doesn\’t understand the world. Only by raising more children to increase their knowledge and broaden their horizons can we cultivate an independent, confident and full-hearted \”heroine\”. Carve independence and sobriety into her bones. After many mothers have children, it is easy for them to devote all their energy to their children and family. As a result, in the end, the child was oppressed and had no breathing space, and he himself became disgraced and exhausted. But Rose has never been like this. Whether before or after becoming a mother, she has always been committed to improving herself. Even when I was raising my baby full-time, I took three qualification exams in three years. During my pregnancy, I often went to the park to read and study. After the divorce, she became even more free and easy, devoting herself to her favorite art field, co-operating a gallery, and running it successfully; emotionally, she did not block herself because of her children, but proactively Accept new relationships, embrace new love. She also picked up her past interests and hobbies. Not only did she pass various certificates, she also learned to drive a motorcycle and fly an airplane. At this time, she was really as bright and free as a rose, blooming wantonly and charming. Chizuru Ueno once said: \”If you want your daughter to be free, the mother herself must also live free.\” Only when a mother takes off her shackles, lives her own life wholeheartedly, and becomes a role model for her children can she carve independence and sobriety into her heart. Into my daughter’s bones. Blogger @Andina once exposed the women of her family on the Internet. At the age of 16, my grandma ran away from home and became a soldier, participating in the War to Resist U.S. Aggression and Aid Korea. After retiring from the battlefield, she studied by herself for two months to take the college entrance examination and was admitted to the China University of Political Science and Law. After graduation, she went to Ningxia. My aunt loves design and art. When she walks on the street wearing the clothes she designed, she has a high rate of turning heads. My aunt decisively ended the marriage that made her no longer happy, lived the life she wanted most, and traveled around the world every year. The blogger’s mother has been doing it for 30 yearsThe teacher taught her to be firm, kind and never give in to evil. The girl knows very well that the reason why she is what she is now, beautiful, brave, free, and has a hot and warm heart, is because she has a mother with an extremely strong core. Women have too many identities in this life, including daughter, wife, mother, employee, housewife… We must let our daughters know that no matter what your identity is, never forget that you must love yourself first and live for yourself. When a mother has her own pursuit, her daughter will follow in her mother\’s footsteps and find her own starry sea. I once heard a saying: \”An excellent mother is a beacon for her daughter. She exudes a soft and firm light, with a wise and warm temperament. She leans down to teach, and it is as subtle as spring rain moistening things; she looks up to pursue her dreams. , as bright and majestic as the stars and the sea. \”The best gift a mother can give to her daughter is to live like a beam of light and make her daughter\’s life a brilliant one.\” If you have a daughter, please plant this rare and famous flower with care, give her the sunshine of love, and give her the glorious freedom. Give it a like and hope that our girls can bloom like roses and live freely, passionately and bravely.