Stop blaming your child for having a bad temper, it’s all your own permission.

Last weekend, Dingdang’s mother took Dingdang on a two-day trip to the beach. During the trip, Dingdang’s mother was deeply impressed by a mother and her son. The boy, about three years old, had a loud voice. Everyone on the long-distance bus was resting, and suddenly the child\’s screams were heard. At this decibel, Ding Dong’s mother’s eardrums were about to be pierced. The child was crying and shouting loudly. I don\’t know why he was unhappy, but he kept yelling to get out of the car. My mother is also very helpless. The car cannot stop on the highway! So with coaxing, lying and tempting snacks, the child was finally soothed. Unexpectedly, after arriving at the scenic spot, the child became more violent. There is a paid horse riding program in the attraction. When the children saw the horses, they were so excited that they insisted on riding a big horse. Because the price was relatively high, the mother refused to let it go at first, but the child started his \”noisy\” mode again and started yelling and being unwilling to let go. When the mother heard the child making a noise, she paid the fee without saying a word and put the child on the big horse. The child immediately stopped screaming. After coming down from Malaysia, the children wanted to play on the trampoline opposite. Ever since, he started crying and making trouble again. The mother went to pay the fee again, and the child successfully played on the trampoline. Not long after, the child saw other children eating ice cream, and he yelled for ice cream again. This time, his mother did not listen to him. After some kind words and persuasion, she bought him bread. Unexpectedly, the child picked up the bread and threw it on the ground. The bread rolled down and was stained with ashes on the floor. If it were Dingdang\’s mother, she would have started educating her a long time ago. This child has such a bad temper! However, the child\’s mother walked towards the ice cream stall while saying, \”If you don\’t want to eat, we won\’t eat. Let\’s go buy ice cream~\”. Dingdang’s mother was shocked at this time! Isn\’t this mother angry? It’s too dependent on the child! The mother has no authority at all in front of the child. The child\’s crying has become his magic weapon. As long as he uses this magic weapon, he can get what he wants. He is like a little emperor enslaving his mother. And his mother\’s obedience undoubtedly fueled his arrogance. If this continues, the child\’s temper will become worse and worse, the mother\’s status will become lower and lower, and it will become increasingly difficult to control the child in the future. In fact, many times, children\’s bad tempers are allowed by their parents. I have a distant relative whose child has a particularly bad temper. Fierce, pungent, and unruly, these words are not excessive at all when applied to this child. It wasn\’t until I met the child\’s grandmother that I realized that such a character was allowed by the family. The child is like a little emperor at home. When she is in a bad mood, she can throw things and bang on doors. Her grandparents even take the initiative to give her a punching bag, hitting her and pulling her hair, while her grandparents are still grinning. In such an environment, it’s strange to have a good temper! And her mother, while complaining about her child\’s bad temper, was busy at work and never disciplined her. Wasn\’t this a tacit approval of the grandparents\’ model of raising children? Although it has been said a thousand times, there is still one sentence: without the indulgence of parents, there will be no willfulness of children. Don\’t just blame the child for his bad temper. How could he be so unscrupulous without the adult\’s permission? For children with bad tempers, the first thing parents should do is to review their own behavior. It is difficult for children to control their emotions,Without adult guidance, it is easy to develop a bad temper. Some parents are busy with work, do not care about their children or accompany them, and leave their children to the elderly. This will lead to a lack of parental care for the children and a weak parent-child relationship. In the future, if parents want to participate in their children\’s growth, they will have to exert more patience and energy. In this process, once a child develops a bad temper, it will be even more difficult to discipline him. After all, it is much easier to write on a white paper than on a piece of white paper with wrong words written on it. Some parents have bad tempers, get angry at every turn, and like to beat and scold their children over the smallest things. It is difficult for such parents to raise good-tempered children. So, before blaming your child, take a look at your own temper. You may not know that the way your child looks angry is very similar to the way you look angry. Some parents, like the mother above, raise their children completely dotingly and hold their children high in the sky. They will naturally choose to look down on other people instead of looking up, even their own parents. As time goes by, the bad temper develops, but the authority of the parents disappears. It becomes very difficult to correct the child\’s bad temper. A good education not only allows children to grow, but also allows parents to grow. No matter what problems you encounter, self-examination is always the most important. On the road to parenting, parents who learn to review and make corrections in a timely manner will have better children.