Loss of trust in childhood causes irreparable damage throughout life

When I went to the supermarket downstairs to buy something, I encountered a middle-aged woman yelling at a little boy very impatiently. The little boy was so frightened that he cried and burst into tears. The supermarket owner stared at the little boy\’s pocket. It turned out that when the mother and son were about to leave after paying the bill, the supermarket owner noticed that there were no candies on the shelf. He suspected that the children had stolen them and stopped them. \”Did you steal it or not? Take it out quickly! There is so much food at home, and you still come here to steal it. How shameless!\” The middle-aged woman yelled at the child continuously, so that the child choked and whispered, \”I don\’t have it.\” The complaint of \”stealing\” was not heard. The scene froze, the little boy couldn\’t stop crying, and the supermarket owner looked like he wouldn\’t give up. So, the middle-aged woman grabbed the little boy like an eagle catching a chicken. \”Cry, cry, cry, you know how to cry!!!\” The mother said as she quickly searched him and turned out all the little boy\’s pockets. Unfortunately, all four pockets were very empty. Only the right pocket of his pants contained a very old and very small toy car. Obviously, he did not steal the candy from the supermarket owner. The little boy\’s dirty pocket lining with four white stuffed balls looked like deflated balloons, hanging empty and out of place on the child\’s body. \”It was the big brother who just went out who stole it, I saw it!\” At this time, another little girl who was shopping in the supermarket said something to the little boy. After hearing this, the little boy stopped crying and said with tearful eyes Looking at the little girl, I am filled with gratitude. At this time, the supermarket owner immediately changed his face and said with a smile on his face: \”Sorry, it was a mistake, it was a mistake…\” Watching the middle-aged woman disappear into the crowd with her child, I suddenly remembered that I took my nephew with me last year. The same thing happened to my son when he went to a toy store to buy something. The owner of the toy store noticed that a small toy was missing from the shelf. He insisted that his nephew had stolen it and refused to let us go. I glanced at my nephew, and he looked into my eyes with very firm eyes, indicating that I should believe him. I immediately believed my nephew, stood up for him, and said to the boss: \”I believe that my nephew is a Good boy, you won’t steal other people’s things. So, boss, I see you have installed surveillance cameras here. Let’s take a look at the surveillance cameras. Anyway, we haven’t been here for long.” So, the boss and I watched together. The surveillance video was played back. There were many people in the store at that time. The nephew did play with the toy, but he immediately put it back and did not steal the toy. Later, the boss found the toy stuck between the shelf and the wall. Since my nephew didn\’t steal his things, I asked the toy store owner to say sorry to my nephew. The toy store owner refused to agree at first, but later he saw that I was standing in the store and refused to go out to hinder his business, so he had to ignore it. I had to say sorry to my nephew, which was very insincere, but my nephew was very happy and said quickly: \”It\’s okay.\” My nephew told me that their kindergarten teacher taught him that when others say sorry, he must say it\’s okay, otherwise It\’s not polite. On the way back, his little hand kept holding mine and never let go. I was a little flattered because he didn\’t want me to hold my hand when he first went out. Later, theyHe would tell me what happened in the class immediately, even his mother didn\’t know. We have reached a wonderful tacit understanding. It is really a very happy thing to trust children and then gain their trust. I remember when I was a kid in first grade, there was a child in my class who was in poor health and often had asthma attacks. Once during a physical education class, a naughty child knocked him to the ground, and then a dozen children swarmed on top of the boy. When the physical education teacher pulled the group of children away, the child was seriously injured. He was sent to the hospital for rescue. The class teacher held him responsible, but the naughty kid falsely accused me of knocking that kid down and asking other students to press him up. I was actually nearby at the time, but I didn\’t do it. Many people saw it. At this time, the whole class But no one of my classmates stood up to testify for me. I burst into tears immediately and said to the head teacher: \”It\’s not me, it\’s not me, it\’s him who put the blame on me…\” The head teacher didn\’t believe me no matter what I said, and asked me to bring my parents here tomorrow. I still clearly remember that I cried all the way home. When I went home and told my mother what had happened, my mother was very calm and said to me: \”As long as you didn\’t do it, it\’s fine. Don\’t worry. I I\’ll go to school with you tomorrow.\” My mother told me not to worry, but I was still very worried and helpless. I had nightmares and woke up crying several times that night. On TV, I often see people who have been wronged, their expressions are very painful, and their crying is extremely exaggerated and fake. After feeling the same, I realized that people who have been wronged actually feel such pain, and those emotions are real. After arriving at school the next morning, my mother said in front of the class teacher and the whole class: \”I believe in my son. He will not bully other children. If he does it, he did it. If he doesn\’t do it, he doesn\’t do it. , the truth will always come out, and until it is found out, I will not allow anyone to wrongly accuse my child!\” The mother\’s aura is very strong, and she speaks loudly every word. Her words were like a bottle of Coca-Cola exploding in my heart. They kept pouring out, from the heart to the liver, spleen, kidneys, and lungs, until they flowed all over my body. I felt inexplicably warm and excited. Later, my mother brought gifts and the class teacher to the hospital to visit the hospitalized child. The child told them that it was the naughty kid who did it. From then on, I was completely proven innocent. To this day, I still remember the feeling of being trusted by my mother. She gave me trust and security, and gave me a complete, beautiful and loving childhood. If my mother had not stood up and trusted me at that time, I am afraid that I Life will be unimaginably bad. Looking back at history, the pain caused by distrust abounds: the literary master Yukio Mishima, known as the \”Japanese Hemingway\”, chose to commit suicide in his heyday due to distrust and lack of love in his childhood. His death caused a sensation in the literary world. Xiao Si, a boy who finished the college entrance examination, chose to commit suicide by jumping into a river. In his suicide note, he complained bitterly that he was not trusted by his father during his childhood. His father often failed to do what he promised him, and thus he no longer had any attachment to the world. Not being aged for a long time during childhoodSanmao, who was trusted by her teacher, created her life-long pessimistic, sensitive, and lonely character. Although she traveled to 48 countries in her life and wrote 26 works, she still could not escape the shadow of her childhood and eventually chose to commit suicide. Human trust and security are built in childhood. It is almost impossible to make up for it after this period. Many parents report that their children do not talk to themselves and are very withdrawn. But have you ever thought about such a situation? Who caused it? And does it give him enough trust and security? As you rummage through your school bag, diary, and pocket in distrust, your child becomes farther and farther away from you! In childhood, if you get enough trust, enough love, and enough respect, you are very lucky. You will have a wonderful childhood. When you grow up, you will have enough security, trust others, and often feel Be happy, life is full of sunshine. If a child lacks trust and a sense of security during childhood, it will cause serious character defects and psychological shadows, which will affect his future relationships with couples, friends, and even his entire life. How others treat their children will first depend on their parents. If parents don\’t trust and protect their children, then no one will protect or trust them. As parents, you shouldn\’t be lazy during those years. Please give your children enough Trust and protection in childhood, mistrust in childhood will cause lifelong harm.