Please give simplicity back to that sensible child

A few days ago, I had dinner with a few friends. It happened to be a holiday, and we all had children with us. One of the children was particularly sensible. Under the guidance of his parents, the little person was like a little adult. He could also observe the words of his father. Under the guidance of the teacher, a toast was given to each of us. When she meets a fatter aunt, she will definitely avoid the word \”fat\” and praise her beauty and temperament. When she meets older uncles and aunts, she will flatter them by praising them for being young and well-maintained. When it was my turn, his father reminded him that this uncle was an article writer. In the blink of an eye, she came up with a set of words to praise my beautiful writing, my talent, etc., which were more literary than my Chinese teacher\’s comments. Of course, after all this, everyone was very happy and praised the child’s parents for their good parenting skills. I accidentally asked the child: What fairy tale book do you like to read the most? The child said disdainfully: Fairy tales are all lies, they are just for fun! We were surprised: Aren’t you a child? The child said very maturely: I am not! During this period, my daughter ran in sweating with some children from playing, rushed over, grabbed a handful of food from the dining table and stuffed it into her mouth. The sensible child commented like a little adult: It\’s so dirty. The people at the table laughed. But I feel inexplicably sorry for such a sensible child. When she grows up, will she recall the happiness of childhood? I have always thought that the childhood, adolescence, youth, middle age, and old age that God arranged for each person to have when he created human beings have their own reasons. How simple a childhood can give birth to the dreams of teenagers, the impulses of youth, the calmness of middle age, and the calmness of old age. In fact, everyone does not need to rush to grow up and become sensible. The rules and worldliness in the world are the thresholds that everyone must go through sooner or later. Don’t rush to overdraw in advance, this is undoubtedly a spoiler! Wouldn\’t it be nice to let him enjoy innocence when he is simple, share his longing when he is dreaming, have passion when he is impulsive, be wise when he is calm, and learn elegance when he is calm? Now that I am middle-aged, I deeply understand that with a long childhood, his life will be fuller in the future. The sensible 7-year-old Zhang Ailing has lived in anxiety and loneliness all her life. The young and sensible Sanmao has spent her whole life wandering and traveling alone. Child star Shirley Temple once said in her later years: If I could do it all over again, I would rather live The life that an ordinary person should have, a long childhood, he will warm me in all the dark times. A deserved childhood is like a seed, it will grow into a big tree, shade the brilliance of a lifetime. Of course it is simple, that is the bright life we ​​should have! Yesterday, a little girl was sharing at a book club. A girl is mature and sensible beyond her age. What she shared was Long Yingtai\’s \”Watching Farewell\”. Of course, her age and experience did not allow her to truly understand the reluctance and desolation of watching farewell. , she is understanding her father\’s watching with a sensible and worried way of forcing her sorrow. To be honest, since I had my daughter, I wished that he could live a carefree life like a princess. How I want to tell that little girl that as her parents, we definitely don’t want her to be sensible too early and calmly enjoy the support given by her parents. At your current age, you don’t have to bear and repay that support. This is the love you should have. , your brilliance will make those watching you feel at ease more than your sensibleness. sometimes specialI sympathize with children who grow up in the city. They live from one building to another, from one house to another. Their childhood is compressed without limit. In the name of being sensible, parents actually do it to save themselves worries. Take away their wildness and innocence in the name of being sensible. So they became more and more separated from the earth and soil. Things that can be given to them naturally are taken away little by little, and adult rules are used to tell them that this is life! What is the vastness of the grassland, what is the joy of climbing, what is the fragrance of the earth, what is cold and hot, what is carefree, they were all taken away before there was a chance to get close to them. Childhood is as short as lightning, as fast as drying. dew. From then on, they become as realistic as adults. The lack of this piece of simplicity in a person\’s life is actually a pale foreshadowing of the future. The Holy Lord Genghis Khan once gave this exhortation to his people in his motto: My people come from the grassland, and you must return to the grassland. The grassland teaches you a vastness and a broad mind that the city cannot give! In fact, the same goes for the growth of a child. He should have the childhood he deserves calmly. Only by having the simplicity and innocence of childhood can he know the difference and hardship of maturity. People who have never tasted sweet food in their lives will never know what sour tastes like. People are talking about depression lately, which has become a terminal illness in modern society. However, people rarely study the root causes of depression. According to a foreign expert\’s research, depression is often related to past experiences. It is Pandora\’s box. Everyone has such a box in their heart, and some people keep it locked. Some people were released. And childhood is undoubtedly the lock, it all depends on whether his childhood is rich enough! Leslie Cheung\’s childhood was full of loss and loneliness. His father was busy with work, and his mother often helped with housekeeping and socializing. She did not have time to take care of multiple children, so Leslie Cheung was taken care of by the servant Sixth Sister since he was a child. Leslie Cheung is the youngest among ten brothers and sisters, three of whom died in childhood. Since Leslie Cheung\’s birthday is on the same day as his ninth brother\’s death, his family has always considered him the \”reincarnation\” of his ninth brother, who came to collect debts and was not loved by his parents. When he was 13 years old, Leslie Cheung was sent to study in the UK and lived alone abroad. It was not until he heard that his father had a stroke that he dropped out of school and returned to Hong Kong. However, due to the shadow of his ninth brother and the long period of separation from his parents, he has been living in In an inexplicable uneasiness. After Leslie Cheung passed away, his sister cried: \”Although he lived a wealthy life, material life failed to fill his brother\’s empty heart. When he grew up, he often complained about the lack of warmth and family happiness in his childhood. My brother chose to die in this way, They expected that there was always a restless young man living in his heart.” I am very glad that my childhood was happy. It is simply a barbaric growth. I am also lucky to have met so many relatives who indulged my ignorance and provided me with horses and grasslands. I let nature tell me what vastness and delicacy are. I am lucky to have spent the happiest time. When maturity comes, you will not be hasty and confused. I think today\’s children may be more lonely. Too many adult lifestyles have made their childhood incomplete. Sensibleness undoubtedly reduces their curiosity and exploration. for adultsIt is unethical for thoughts to interfere with a child\’s childhood. In this utilitarian world, if the criterion for measuring anything is whether it is useful or not, when one day they can truly enjoy life, they will not take leisure. There are many people who do not understand leisure. Give the innocence back to the children and keep the adult world away from them. Each age has its tasks at each stage, while childhood is only responsible for happiness. It is the responsibility and kindness of adults to return simplicity to sensible children. The beauty of childhood is because of its innocence and simplicity, and it is the age when one believes that dreams can come true. Just like the beauty of the epiphyllum is due to its silence; the beauty of the orchid is due to its non-competition and no noise, and the fragrance of the empty valley; the beauty of childhood is not to be contaminated by the dust of the world. I used to be slow, so slow that I can only love one person in my life. I have a long childhood and only love once in my life. A sensible child is undoubtedly overdrawing his future. Don\’t worry, you will understand as you grow older, and you will grow old as you live. Life is not long, and you have to see all the scenery before it is a complete life. When worldly success comes in exchange for being sensible, do you feel that the pale boy in your heart is struggling to fight against loneliness? Even a lifetime!