The child was destroyed in this way, which shocked countless parents!

Recently, a friend complained to me that her child refused to do homework and got into tantrums when asked to do homework. It turns out that the child\’s grandfather loves his grandson. When the grandson writes a word in his homework book, the grandpa will praise him and feed him snacks. Now grandpa is traveling with his old friend, and the child refuses to do his homework without snacks, so he is worried about being a bad person. This grandpa is really ridiculous! You have to have a certain limit when it comes to loving your grandson! How can there be such pain! Although we say this, but… Thinking back, do we use the same trick every time our children get into trouble – what about rewards? Rewards are really useful. When a child gets into trouble, just give him a candy and it will go away. However, if the reward is excessive, it will make the child difficult to lead, disobedient, and want to be rewarded first in everything he does. Over time, our children have become spoiled! Children\’s minds are very simple. When they express their love to us, what they hope to get is not a reward, but a response from us. If we respond to their love with rewards for a long time, they will not learn the correct \”way of expressing love.\” Over time, he became a white-eyed wolf in the mouth of others. So – after reading today\’s comic, some friends may say: Cai Ma, your method is too troublesome and useless! My children need rewards for being obedient! Yes, the method of \”rewarding\” is really very trouble-free for us parents. The child cried for a candy, and the child refused to take a bath and received an ice cream. If the child makes some trouble, reward him with anything, and he will stop immediately. What could be simpler than this in this world? But have you, parents, ever thought about it? When we raise our children, we choose a method that does not trouble us, but we have to trouble our children to relearn habits such as eating by themselves, going to the toilet by themselves, sleeping by themselves, and doing homework by themselves when they grow up. In the words of Dao Dad: The thing we save on our children is the bug we leave behind. After the children grow up and run it, they work overtime every day to fix bugs, but they can’t fix it! Dear parents, children do not grow up in a day, and there is no immediate way to raise a good child. The only feasible way is to cultivate their good habits day after day, year after year, without fear of trouble. Don\’t ruin your child\’s life just to save trouble.