I disciplined my 3 year old daughter because…

But as a mother of a 3-year-old child, I hope to discuss parent-child education issues with more young parents. The ultimate goal of education is to let children live the way they like; and the bottom line of education is to prevent children from harming others. My daughter is 2 years old this year. In our south, she is 3 years old in virtual years. In the eyes of many elders, a 3-year-old child can be tolerated and tolerated whatever he or she does, and it is considered natural. However, I still taught her a lesson. My elders don’t understand. On the one hand, they feel that the child does something wrong, but on the other hand, they feel that I am too strict and should use a gentler approach to their child’s education. But I still criticized my daughter severely and \”touched her\” mercilessly. My daughter has been attending early childhood education for more than half a year. I can feel that she is growing very fast in all aspects, including language ability, numerical ability, hands-on ability and logical ability. Even in dealing with others, she is not inferior to her peers. But one of her shortcomings has never changed – that is, she will use violence to fight for anything she likes. To put it bluntly, it\’s a beating. I saw her grabbing other people\’s toys more than once. I thought I was gentle enough to dissuade her and reason with her, but she still didn\’t change. More than once, I saw her holding toys from the early childhood education center and not agreeing to share them with others. I criticized her, but in the blink of an eye, she still looked like she was the only one. But this time, when I saw her raising her hand to hit someone, I resolutely pulled the child to the corner and criticized her in a low and serious voice. And when the child was crying and rolling on the floor, he spanked her with his hand. (I have mild symptoms, basically no serious problems) The child cried immediately. My mother-in-law conspired together to do this, because we all discovered that behind this child’s so-called shrewdness, there was also a lot of selfishness. We feel that this shortcoming must be corrected slowly. Therefore, no matter how much she called \”grandma\”, my mother-in-law never ran over to coax her. Until she got tired of crying and came over to me and said, Mom, I was wrong. I just took her into my arms. There is a saying: \”Today you use your violence to get everything you want, and tomorrow others can use the same method to take away everything from you.\” For children who often fight for toys by hitting others to get what they get. , not capable, but a kind of lack of education. Some people say that the development of a child\’s character begins when she becomes a governor; but I think that from the time she starts to recognize people, she has subconsciously begun to know people and things. Don’t think that because your children are still young, they need less education. I can tolerate children at this age who do not follow the teacher\’s arrangements during class and do what they like according to their own ideas; I allow children to go to class selectively; I even agree with children who have beaten them before when they encounter something they don\’t like. Her peers ignored her. But I cannot let her influence other students when she does not follow the teacher\’s instructions; I cannot allow her to be the one who takes the initiative to hit others; I cannot allow her to arrogantly take everything in the early childhood education center as her own. Not all instincts should be unleashed unchecked. This is the most essential difference between children and animals. I once wrote an article \”Children, if\”Someone Hit You\”, there is a point of view that was recognized by many people at the time: not bullying others is education, and not being bullied by others is principle. There are many friends around me who have been teachers for more than 20 years. They all have a common view: whether children are raised poor or rich, the most indispensable thing is education. \”Some children are domineering and self-centered when they are in school. Their parents tend to be indulgent, doting, and indulgent towards their children. They will tell you that children are like this, and there is nothing I can do about it. And like this After a child enters society, the most obvious problem is that his reputation is not good. A few years later, when you hear other people\’s comments about him, they are often not very high.\” \”And those who are polite and polite in school Children, whether they are introverted or extroverted, tend to achieve great achievements when they enter society.\” This friend is a teacher at a key primary school. After she talked to me that day, it also strengthened my view of children in my childhood. Education direction: Be tough but also gentle, be principled but also polite. From the beginning to the end, I still have a self-identification of the excellence of my children: they have the ability to make a living, a lifelong upbringing, and an indomitable heart to move forward in life. And I, as a mother, also have the greatest goodwill in my child\’s growth and let her grow freely. But that doesn\’t mean I condone her shortcomings. After all, in this world, only by following the rules and being educated can you go further. I can\’t let her have no way to go tomorrow because of my tolerance and indulgence towards her today. After all, in the long road of life, the person who accompanies her is me, and the person who accompanies her is herself.