Always complaining that you are too busy to spend time with your children? He obviously gave up his rights

Good companionship can happen anytime and anywhere, it doesn’t have to take a long time. ——Xin’s mother’s lunch break is the busiest time of the day. Most of the people in the office were women, so they chatted endlessly about gossip, beauty, TV dramas, long-legged oppas and domineering CEOs with facial paralysis… the chatter was endless. Several colleagues who are mothers often get together to talk about parenting. The eternal topic is probably \”complaints\”. She complains that she has been too busy at the end of the year and has no time to spend with her children; she complains that her husband acts like an uncle when he comes home, and she also has to take care of herself when she comes home after a day\’s work; more What they are complaining about is that today’s primary school and kindergarten teachers always assign too many so-called side-curriculum tasks such as handicrafts and painting, and specify that parents need to participate. …I am almost brainwashed by these complaints, and the pressure is increasing day by day. Oh my god, the children\’s homework! What should I do if I encounter it? Will you be looked down upon by the teacher if you fail to complete it? I confided my concerns to my husband during dinner. He pondered for a moment and said, \”Look, complaining about not having time to spend time with your children means you still want to spend time with your children; but complaining about needing help with homework means you don\’t want to spend time with your children. Isn\’t this a contradiction?\” He glanced at me again, He said: \”If you are so troublesome, don\’t worry. Don\’t chase the teacher for homework, hahaha!\” That\’s true. Thinking about normal times, I just like to take my children to play everywhere, and I will follow suit. I bought some exquisite and lovely parent-child handmade DIY material packages to take home. Although the little one and I made them all over the table, and the finished product was not as perfect as printed on the package, it always brought us both a lot of fun. Seeing my understanding, my husband smiled heartily: \”That\’s right! No matter how busy you are, you should find time to spend with your children instead of complaining that the teacher requires you to participate in your children\’s growth.\” Moms or dads who shout \”busy, busy, busy\” all day long, please Ask yourself: Are you really so busy that you don’t have any time to spend with your children playing with toys or doing small crafts? Who checks the Moments updates during off-duty hours? When did you watch a soap opera that was full of eloquence and filled with family treasures? Are all those online game players who are still online in the middle of the night singles without children? It is undeniable that today\’s life is extremely fast-paced and the pressure to survive is huge. We spend most of our time working hard every day to make our family\’s life more comfortable. However, in front of your children, your \”no time\” is just a lame excuse. The root of the problem is that you do not think \”spending time with your children\” is more important than browsing your mobile phone, playing on the computer, and watching TV series. It is the right of parents to accompany their children to grow up, and you are doing things that you voluntarily give up every day. Office workers always envy stay-at-home mothers, \”You are at home all day, so you always have a lot of time to spend with your children, right?\” However, this is not always the case. There is a full-time mother of two in our community. Her eldest daughter has just entered elementary school, and her younger son is about the same age as my baby. But I always feel that despite giving birth to two children, she is still not very \”competent\”. There is no other reason than that every time I meet her, her eyes are always looking at the phone instead of the child. That time, she was sitting by the flower bed playing with her mobile phone, and her son was sitting in a stroller nearby. My baby is pushing a plane that makes a \”ding-ding\” soundtoy airplane passed by them. When the little boy saw it, he yelled \”Ahhh\” and pointed at the plane, expressing that he also wanted to play. But the mother didn’t even raise her head. She stared at the phone screen and said, \”I have the same one at home. You don’t play with it, but you want to play with other people’s when you come out. It’s really troublesome!\” I said to the baby, \”This kid wants to play with your plane.\” Come on, can you let him play for a while?\” The child obediently handed the plane to the little boy. The little boy just stretched out his hand, but to his surprise, his mother immediately grabbed the plane, forced it back to me, and said, \”I won\’t give it to him anymore. He keeps pushing me around, trouble!\” In her eyes, the child was lost for a moment. Happiness is not as important as playing with her mobile phone. The child\’s interaction with her peers only adds \”trouble\” – could it affect her playing with her mobile phone? Later, I occasionally saw her walking with her two children. It was her eldest daughter pushing her younger son, and she followed behind and played with her mobile phone! That posture makes it seem as if the mobile phone is her own, otherwise why would she be so fond of it? I really want to ask this \”unfashionable\” mother on behalf of her two children: \”As a full-time mother, what business is more important than spending time with your children? If it\’s troublesome, don\’t give birth to two children! You have two children!\” It’s just fine when you’re born, no need for education?” A few years later, when she was old and bedridden, if her children were playing with some fashionable gadgets and said to her, “Look, you’re lying on the bed again!” Trouble!\” How would she feel? I am spending time with my child, but my heart has already flown away. How terrible is this kind of \”appearance and detachment\”! What’s even more frightening is that there are many such parents. Look around you, there must be one! The time your child belongs to you is only three years. Why not make good use of this time to accompany him and develop a lifelong family love with him! Companionship is a word that implies deep love. It costs nothing, just a little time, and you can do it by giving your full attention during this time. But it is often a luxury item that is out of reach for children. Once when I was playing in the park, I met a father and son like this: the little boy was swinging on the swing, climbing on the hanging bar, and shuttled among various sports equipment. The little boy kept saying: \”Dad, look at me! Look!\” But the father always looked impatient: \”Can\’t you just let me take a break!\” As he said, Staring at the phone without looking up. With that posture, going out does not feel like playing with a child, but rather like being executed. After a while, the little boy said listlessly to his father: \”I don\’t want to play anymore, I want to go home.\” The father was relieved, holding the phone in one hand and holding the baby in the other as he walked away. I felt uncomfortable looking at it: The child calls you daddy. If you are not tired, who will be tired? Besides, it would be great to relive the fun of childhood with him. Can I complain that I am tired? In companionship, doesn’t it mean that you only have each other in your eyes and feel each other’s feelings? I am very fortunate that my husband is a qualified father who is willing to accompany his children. When he gets home from work, he plays with the baby\’s toys or reads to her while I cook. This is a tacit understanding among the three of us. Usually, he will turn down optional meals and try to hug the baby before he goes to bed; Occasionally, he would take the unfinished work home, but he would always wait until the baby fell asleep before taking it out to do it.; On weekends and holidays, he also tries his best to take care of the baby, allowing me, a stay-at-home mother, to go out and \”get some fresh air.\” Looking at the child having fun in his arms or turning on the \”walking dad\” mode, you would never think that before he had children, he was a top \”World of Warcraft\” player, with equipment and skills that were so luxurious that he was blinding; at that time, He is most afraid of interacting with children – \”Children are too troublesome!\” I asked him: \”Why don\’t you bother children now?\” He said: \”There is no reason. Seeing children happy makes me very happy. !” It turns out that whether you treat companionship as a pleasure or a burden, your state of mind will be very different!