For ordinary people like Stephen Chow and me, who do you want your children to be?

On the night of the Lantern Festival, I watched TV and IPTV with my children. I don’t know why Xiaoxi chose Stephen Chow’s \”Journey to the West: Conquering the Demons\”. Although I have seen this movie before, it is a good movie worth watching again, so I relived the classic with my children. . After watching it, I told Xiao Xi that it was a Stephen Chow movie. At 13 years old, she didn’t know who Stephen Chow was, so I briefly explained it to her. As usual, there are always one or two sentences to conclude the story, but I can\’t find any words to describe Mr. Xing. Recalling some interviews I have seen and relevant reports I have read, Stephen Chow is undoubtedly extremely successful in his career, but his life may not be happy, especially since he had a lamentable childhood: Stephen Chow\’s mother traveled from Guangdong to Hong Kong when she was young. She was struggling to make a living without relatives or friends, so she married Zhou Yishang, a poor man, and soon gave birth to two daughters and a son. A family of five squeezed into a wooden room, sleeping on canopy beds with bunk beds. They occasionally ate rice with soy sauce, which they all thought was the most delicious thing in the world. When Stephen Chow was 3 years old, his father cheated on him and his mother discovered it. From then on, he began a life of constant quarrels for four years. When he was 7 years old, his parents divorced. Stephen Chow and his sisters grew up under the care of a single mother, and their life was very difficult. In an interview on the show, Star Master talked about his childhood experience: one day he went shopping with his parents and saw a toy he liked very much, but his parents refused to buy it for him, so he cried and made a fuss, and his mother beat him in anger. In the show, Star Master repeatedly said: \”If you don\’t buy it, you\’ll hit me!\” This incident has made Star Master still very hurt. \”Although I have acted in countless dramas, I would like to say that my best drama was the one I performed when I was 7 years old.\” – One day, my mother came back after borrowing money and bought chicken legs to cook for the children. 7 The 20-year-old Stephen Chow deliberately dropped the chicken legs on the ground. His mother was so heartbroken that she beat him up, then washed the chicken legs covered with soil and ate them herself. Like most children born in poverty, Stephen Chow is very introverted and shy. \”I\’m afraid that others will look at me and watch me talk.\” Stephen Chow rarely laughs in life. His childhood poverty experience made Stephen Chow insecure about money throughout his life. In 1992, Golden Harvest approached Wang Jing to film \”Young Bruce Lee\”. \”Jiahe gave me and Stephen Chow HK$8 million. Stephen Chow proposed that he would have six and four, and I agreed. Two weeks later, he proposed that he would have seven and three. I was a little unhappy, but I still agreed. Who knows that this is not over yet, a A few months later, he changed his story for the third time: He was eight and I was two. I was really popular.\” As a result, this \”Young Bruce Lee\” was aborted. Wang Jing said: \”Although he is very talented, he is selfish and has no character.\” Stephen Chow is lonely. What he values ​​most is movies, and what he fears most is theater. He said: \”Things are more important than people.\” He offended almost all his friends and partners for this. Stephen Chow, who has never learned how to love, has missed four loves and is still single to this day. In 1988, he fell in love with Luo Huijuan during the filming of \”The Great Hero\”. Luo Huijuan gradually discovered that in Xingzai\’s eyes, movies are always more important than love. In 1991, the two broke up. Luo Huijuan sighed: \”I don\’t know how those three years were spent. Why three years? Maybe three years is the limit period of tolerance!\” Then, Stephen Chow fell in love with Zhu Yin again, and finally broke up. Zhu Yin once hatedSaid: \”He has no love for anyone, he only loves himself.\” Later, Xingzi fell in love with Mo Wenwei and Yu Wenfeng. But the final result is to break up. Stephen Chow thought: \”If you fall in love with me, you have to understand how busy I am. I love movies more than anything else.\” However, they both said: \”I understand how busy you are, but I can\’t stand that you are so busy without me.\” 6th Breakthrough in Hong Kong Movie box office record, won 8 Hong Kong movie annual box office championships, and is still the holder of the Hong Kong movie box office championship. Stephen Chow\’s career success goes without saying. However, in his life, there was no entertainment, no social interaction, and no love. He is in his 50s and has a full head of hair. Looking at him, people can’t help but sigh: Mr. Xing is old! After talking about Stephen Chow, I couldn\’t help but think of another person: Japanese film director, actor, crosstalk actor, and TV show host: Takeshi Kitano. Kitano Takeshi\’s childhood was also unhappy, he lived in poverty, and his father had a bad temper and was often abused at home. Her mother severely forced Kitano to study. She believed that only by getting into a good university could he change his destiny and live a good life. Therefore, the relationship between mother and son was extremely bad. Takeshi Kitano loved playing baseball when he was a child. The neighbor\’s aunt saw that he didn\’t even have a glove and felt pity for him, so she secretly bought him a baseball glove on his birthday. Kitano put the handle in a plastic bag and buried it under the ginkgo tree in the yard, only digging it out when he needed it. Eventually discovered by his mother, the baseball glove turned into a bag of reference books. Kitano Takeshi has always harbored a deep hatred for his mother, always thinking about how to take revenge on her. Later, he was admitted to college, but dropped out midway. He wanted to take revenge on his mother: As you wish, I was admitted to college, but I just didn\’t finish it! After Takeshi Kitano became successful as a child, his mother would not forget to urge him to send money home every month. If he was delayed or forgot, he would call and yell at her. Until his mother passed away, Kitano Takeshi received a bankbook left by his mother, with a deposit of nearly 10 million yen. \”All your money is in this bankbook.\” Kitano Takecai understood his mother\’s painstaking efforts. In terms of career, Kitano Takeshi is undoubtedly successful and he has won numerous awards. He is known as the \”New Emperor of Japanese Film\”. Media around the world rank him alongside Akira Kurosawa, as his successor, and as the standard-bearer for the renaissance of Japanese cinema. \”He tells stories in a cold and humorous tone. Although most of his works have gray endings, you can still feel that he is looking at the world with a cold eye and a mocking attitude in the process.\” However, \”Takeshi Kitano The unique artistic style that combines \’seriousness\’ and \’joking\’ has deeply imprinted the family brand.\” The recently popular CCTV \”Chinese Poetry Conference\” program, in addition to the talented Wu Yishu dominating the screen, the host Dong Qing became popular again, people They all sighed: \”I didn\’t expect her cultural heritage to be so profound.\” She is dignified and decent, and her words are well-spoken and eye-catching. Various poems are readily available, showing the audience his profound cultural heritage. For a time, the educational methods of Dong Qing\’s parents were regarded as classic examples by many parents. Dong Qing was born in Shanghai in 1973. Both of his parents graduated from Fudan University. His father, Dong Shanxiang, is the editor-in-chief of a newspaper, and his mother, Jin Luther, is a professor in the physics department of the university. Her father was a poor rural boy, relying on his unremitting efforts and persistence, he rewrote his life\’s destiny. So he had strict requirements for his daughter from an early age: she must memorize poetry as soon as she can read, she is not allowed to look in the mirror, and she starts working in junior high school… What I want to say is that that was China more than 40 years ago, and that was the education method of the previous generation. Even if it succeeded, It is only worth learning from, not copying. Moreover, Dong Qing\’s father also apologized to Dong Qing when she was a freshman in college: \”Let me toast you. I want to apologize to you. I thought about it. Over the years, I have treated you wrong in many ways. Don\’t Take it to your heart.\” Dong Qing recalled: \”At that time, students had morning exercises, and I was running alone on the 400-meter track. It felt very silly. All the classmates and teachers in the school seemed to be looking at you, like Forrest Gump.\” A girl , at the age when I love the most beauty, I am not even allowed to look in the mirror. I feel \”like Forrest Gump\” when I run every day, which is so stupid! The most painful thing is eating, as my father scolds me as soon as it is served. Dong Qing burst into tears when she mentioned the childhood shadow left by her father on her. Dong Qing is undoubtedly successful in her career, but it is unknown whether she is happy and happy in her heart! I read a report a long time ago that a semi-primitive village was discovered in the mountains. The world was greatly surprised and there were a lot of tourists. However, as tourists enter, information and materials from the outside world are also brought to this village. Over time, the lifestyle of local people has also changed greatly, the \”original\” state no longer exists, and the tourism value has gradually been lost. From a tourist\’s perspective, this can\’t help but feel regretful, as if a rare thing has been destroyed. However, from the perspective of the local people, the backward life is becoming more and more convenient, and the ignorant people are becoming more civilized. Isn\’t this a kind of progress? They have no obligation to continue living a primitive and backward life in order to maintain a \”good tourist destination\”. Another example is the ladyboys in Thailand. From the perspective of tourists, we probably hope that they will always exist, waiting for us to watch. But what about from the perspective of the parties involved? Who would want to be a shemale if there was a better option? Those successful people who have obsessions in their hearts may have made huge contributions to the country and society. From the perspective of people who eat melons, of course we like to hear about them. But who cares whether the person involved is happy and happy? People like Stephen Chow and Takeshi Kitano have made brilliant achievements in their careers and made great contributions to society. However, they may not be happy in their hearts. Let’s assume for the moment that they are not happy. All living beings like me are as ordinary as a speck of dust, but mine There is no obsession in my heart that I can’t let go of. Overall, I feel happy and peaceful. Let’s assume for the moment that I am happy. If you were asked to choose, ordinary people like Stephen Chow or me, who would you want your child to be? If you can\’t have both a happy life and a successful career, I would rather have an ordinary child but a happy life!