No one can control the \”naughty child\”, and child psychologists can make him behave with just one sentence

In the article \”Children\”, Liang Shiqiu told such an interesting story: A mother took her child to a department store. After passing the toy department, she saw a wooden horse. Refuse to come down. The wooden horse is not for sale, it is a display in the store. The store clerk asked the child to come down, but the child didn\’t listen; the mother asked him to come down, but he didn\’t listen even more; the mother asked him to take him to eat ice cream, but he still didn\’t listen; when the mother asked him to take him to eat ice cream, he still didn\’t listen; when he went to buy chocolate candies, he especially refused to listen. No matter what wish I make, you will never listen to it. At that time, it developed into a deadlock and a stalemate. Finally, a clever clerk suggested: \”Why don\’t we invite a child psychology expert specially hired by the department store to come to the rescue?\” Everyone agreed, so an expert with a natural professorial face was invited down from the eighth floor. . The expert asked what had happened, walked gently to the child, and whispered something in his ear, and the child rolled off his saddle and fell off the horse as if he was electrocuted. Holding her mother\’s dress, she ran away in a hurry. Afterwards, someone asked the expert what exactly he said to the child. The expert said: \”I said: \’If you don\’t get off your horse, I will smash your head!\’\” He is worthy of being a child psychologist! He knows what the child is afraid of. The child didn\’t listen to the clerk\’s advice because he knew the clerk didn\’t dare to hit him. The child ignores his mother\’s \”temptations\” because he knows that his mother cannot bear to beat him. But when I pretended to be the \”evil person\” with a straight face, the children couldn\’t figure it out, so they had to obey obediently. According to Liang Shiqiu, this is a \”foreign story.\” It can be seen that even in foreign countries, experts are not opposed to using a little \”forced deterrence\” for those disobedient children. Friends often ask questions about children\’s education, and one of the very hot topics is whether parents can spank their children. To this, I usually answer in the affirmative: Yes! Of course, I will also catch up: spanking children is a parent’s \”nuclear weapon\”. Let your children know that you have it, but it is best never to use it. Just like the child psychologist, it is enough to achieve the goal, but not necessarily to actually implement it. Our purpose in educating children is just to establish in them a sense of rules and bottom lines. Let him know that there are some things that you cannot tolerate and some bottom lines that cannot be touched, and then educate him in a reasonable way. This is the best state. But if this is not possible, some coercive measures may not be a bad idea. The same is true in school education. The reason why many front-line educators have criticized the provisions of the Minors Protection Law that prohibit corporal punishment and disguised corporal punishment of students, as well as prohibit expulsion of students, is that teachers are legally deprived of the ability to \”deter\” students who violate the rules. ability. Under such regulations, the school teachers actually became the \”clerks\” in Liang Shiqiu\’s story, helpless against the willful \”naughty children\”. It is certainly correct for the law to protect the rights and interests of minors, but to only protect the rights and interests of minors without taking into account the difficulty of school management is definitely not considering the issue from the perspective of a \”child psychologist\”. As the saying goes, \”To spoil a child is to kill one\’s child.\” If you pamper your underage children too much, parents, teachers, and society may do bad things with good intentions. It can be imagined that if the child sits on the wooden horse, no one can control him until he plays.Only come down when you have enough, and don’t care if the product is damaged. Then sooner or later, you will be irredeemable and play with yourself. Let us all become \”child psychology experts\”, let children have fear in their hearts, and develop a sense of rules from an early age. This will definitely be beneficial to the growth of children without any harm.