There are no noble people who are late to speak. There is a price to be paid for passively waiting for language enlightenment.

Speech is a very important milestone in the growth of babies. In this regard, the differences between children can be said to be very big. Some children can already speak sentences just after they are one year old, and some children still refuse to vomit after they are two years old. One word can be said to be a focus of parental bragging and anxiety. When parents encounter babies who talk late, when parents are anxious and angry, there will always be someone to comfort them and say: It doesn\’t matter, noble people talk late, and children who talk late are smart. Einstein didn\’t speak until he was 5 years old. It seems that the later you speak, the wiser you become. I actually checked the historical data, and it turns out that Einstein did not speak until he was five years old. As early as when his sister was born when he was two and a half years old, he had already said something like this: \”This is my new toy.\” But how can we play without wheels?\” Although the brain circuit is relatively strange, it is already a very complicated sentence. He must have said the single word earlier, so he should not let the old man continue to suffer injustice. In fact, a child\’s delayed speech has nothing to do with whether he is smart or not. However, some research shows that one-fifth of children whose language development is delayed at the age of 2 still have worse language skills than their peers at the age of 7. . The reason why some people think that late-talking children are smarter is because many late-talking children, once they speak, just speak long sentences without the process of babbling, and they appear to be very smart. In fact, it is just because their language development lags behind and they are catching up relatively quickly. It\’s relatively fast, it\’s just an illusion. Language is the medium of thought. Children who speak early must be more advanced in cognition, social interaction, emotion, and even fine motor skills. It is undoubtedly a good thing to speak earlier. Even if a child who speaks late does not have any organic problems and finally learns to speak fluently when he is more than three or even four years old, he will still pay the price for speaking late for a year or two: he will most likely be expressing something urgently when he wants to A two-year-old who is rebellious in his own will and becomes irritable and unreasonable because he cannot express his thoughts. This is also very likely to change the parenting style of his parents. You will also find that the more well-behaved the children are, the more expressive they are, and the parents will be more tolerant and caring. The more irritable the children are and the more impatient the parents are, the more likely they are to be high-handed. Once the yelling and scolding starts, , it will be extremely difficult to change it back. Habits and domestication are two-way, parents and children build each other up. The older the children grow, the less parents tolerate crying and yelling. If there is a child in the family who cannot speak, he will always It\’s a snarling little monster, and it\’s hard for parents to keep a good temper. Therefore, let the child learn to speak early, learn to express himself better, communicate with others, and let him lose his temper as little as possible. This will directly determine whether the family environment the child will live in will be relaxed and friendly in the future, thus further shaping his character. , affecting his life. In fact, the United States attaches great importance to the fact that children talk late. When Mao first went for a check-up at 15 months old, he couldn’t speak a word, and he didn’t seem to understand what I said. I didn’t realize that this was a problem. If there is a problem, the pediatrician will help me contact a children\’s speech rehabilitation specialist to help Mao Tou\’s speech problem. However, before the rehabilitation specialist arrived in line, Mao Tou had already started spouting words under my urgent help.That saves you the trouble. Therefore, parents must pay attention to their children\’s speech problems, and do not wait passively for babies who have a late onset of speech. Even if they do not find a speech rehabilitation therapist, they should pay more attention to the baby\’s language enlightenment in daily life, and try to let the baby start as early as possible. Speaking is the right thing to do. The various stages of baby\’s language development. Let\’s briefly talk about the standards for baby\’s language development. Generally, if a baby deviates from this standard by about one month, it is considered normal. If the difference is too much, it will cause attention. Babies aged 0-3 months are completely passive in accepting the language of adults, but they have a preference for their mother\’s voice. They will turn their heads when they hear the voice, and even seem to be listening attentively. Some babies are more than three months old. Will start to pronounce some vowel sounds, such as \”ah~~\”, \”oh~~~\”, \”oh~~~\” and so on. Babies at the age of 4-7 months begin to pay attention to the details of adults\’ speech, and there are some more consonants in the sounds they make, such as \”mama\”, \”dada\”, \”gege\”, \”gugu\” and so on. When adults call his name, he will also respond and express his various needs and emotions with different sounds, not just crying (note that the baby\’s name should be consistent at home and should not be used for a while. Call her by her nickname, then by her first name, then by her “little baby”, etc.) Babies at this stage of 8-12 months will start babbling and speaking in Martian language. If you talk to him often enough, he will understand more and more what adults say (for example: when we talk about changing diapers , they will crawl away immediately), and he will use movements to coordinate with Martian language to communicate with adults (for example: pointing at something and barking at the same time to express that he wants it). From 12 to 18 months old, babies will start to use some words meaningfully, such as \”mom\”, \”ball\”, \”eat\”, \”go out\”, etc. Generally, by 15 months, babies can say 3-4 words. At this time, more than 10 words can generally be used. They began to speak Martian language at length, with more consonants appearing, such as \”p\”, \”t\”, \”w\”, \”n\”, etc., in preparation for them to learn to speak more languages. At 18-24 months, they will begin to understand many adult instructions, such as, \”Where is the dog?\” \”Come for a snack!\” \”Give me the ball!\”, but sometimes they will not listen when they don\’t want to. Pretend not to understand. They begin to speak more words and even combine two words together, such as \”mother sit\” and \”baby eat\”. Of course, many of them are grammatically confusing. They may use one word to refer to all similar things, such as \”milk\” to refer to all foods, \”dog\” to refer to all animals, and so on. At 25-30 months, they begin a language explosion period, and the number of frequently used words will reach 200. Then they will combine more words to form longer sentences, such as \”The baby wants to eat\” and \”Mom plays with me.\” . They will start to use pronouns, \”you\” and \”I\”, and of course they often use them incorrectly (I still remember that Xiaoxin often talks toMom says \”You\’re back\”), and it takes them months to figure out how to use pronouns. They will also start answering your questions. From 31 months to 36 months, your baby can already master and use language very proficiently, and can even speak compound sentences. Accurately use the conjunctions of compound sentences such as \”because\”, \”so\” and \”but\”. They will speak more and more clearly. You can even tell an incident, and even strangers who are not your parents can clearly understand what he means. When should you stop talking and start to worry? You are the person who knows your child best. If you feel that something is very wrong with your child, then you should actively seek help from a doctor. Don\’t always comfort yourself with \”the noble person talks too late\”. There is a saying in English called \”better safe than sorry\”, which means that even if it is a little troublesome, it is better to be sure that it will be fine than to regret missing it. The following are some symptoms of delayed language development in babies. If any of them match, you should discuss it with your doctor immediately. Of course, meeting one of these conditions does not mean that there must be something wrong with the child, but these manifestations do indicate that the child\’s language development is relatively late and needs to be paid attention to. Until 12 months of age, he has never pronounced the words \”mom\” or \”dad\”. He has never used body language, such as waving goodbye, shaking his head or nodding. He has never uttered any consonants, such as \”p\”, \”d\” and \”m\” to adults. No response to simple commands, such as \”no\”, \”goodbye\”, etc. Never pointed out objects of interest, such as birds or airplanes flying overhead. Until 15 months, he did not say a meaningful word and never babbling. When asked about Martian words until 18 months old, he will not point out parts of his body, such as \”eyes\” or \”nose\”. When he wants help from adults, he does not use \”communication\” but \”use\”. \”Tool\” method, such as holding an adult\’s hand on the refrigerator door to open the refrigerator. Used fewer than 6 words from 19 to 24 months. No rapid growth in vocabulary (one new word per week) by 24 months. Respond to simple instructions and do not play pretend games, such as pretending to breastfeed a doll, pretending to be a doctor, etc. Do not imitate other people\’s behavior or words when reading a book, and cannot point out corresponding scenes when adults say it, such as \”Where is the puppy?\” \”Unable to join two words to form a simple sentence. Does not know the functions of common household objects (such as a toothbrush or a spoon). Does not use any two- to four-word simple sentences by 25 months. Cannot name any body part. Can recite very well. Familiar nursery rhymes are difficult Never ask any simple questions By 30 months Even family members who spend time with them every day cannot understand what the child is saying By 3 years old Does not use any pronouns (I, you, me) Most of the time, strangers listen Doesn’t understand what he is saying. Can’t understand short explanations. For example, the rice is very hot and has to wait a while before eating. Has no interest in interacting with other children. Has extreme difficulty in being separated from parents. Speaks very unclearly. Still has a severe stammer and talks about certain things. Difficult to pronounce words with great difficulty until 4 years old: the consonants in Pinyin \”bpmf dtnl gkh jqx\”, most of them have not mastered how to pronounce, do not understand the concepts of \”same\” and \”different\”, and cannot use the pronouns \”I\” and \”you\” correctly. Some common reasons and solutions for delayed speech 1. Lack of language input at ordinary times. Babies start from Language learning has begun since birth. They need a lot of language input in order to have output. So when your baby can\’t speak, don\’t think that he can\’t understand or speak, so you won\’t speak to him. Here are some specific solutions I have explained this method very clearly in my previous article \”If you want your baby to be smarter, the simplest things are the most difficult to do.\” If you are interested, click on the blue words to take a closer look. 2. The mouth muscles are not exercised. The baby has enough input and can understand many of the adults\’ words, but if he does not speak, it is probably because the muscles of the mouth are not flexible enough to support such fine movements. Therefore, when giving complementary foods to the baby, regardless of whether he has teeth or not , it is necessary to provide more chewy food. After one year old, it is necessary to transition to adult food. As long as the baby does not choke, vomit, and does not feel uncomfortable, he will chew with his gums. The enhancement of chewing ability is also a training of the baby\’s mouth. and tongue muscles, which is helpful for him to speak better. 3. Lack of one-to-one communication time There is an interesting phenomenon in families with many children, that is, generally speaking (of course there are exceptions), children born later are always He started to speak later than the first child. Although his younger siblings\’ language skills will eventually catch up explosively, the time when they first started speaking is indeed much behind that of the first child. The same is true for my Guoguo, almost He spoke more than half a year later than his elder brother. This is basically because the second child will lack one-on-one parent-child interaction time and has less time to learn language efficiently than the first child. Therefore, he usually spends more one-on-one time with his child. Parent-child interaction is very meaningful. Do not play with mobile phones and take care of your children at the same time. 4. Bilingual environment Children in a bilingual environment should speak later, because children may find it difficult to deal with the different rules of the two languages. For some languages For children in a bilingual environment with obvious lag, the language rehabilitation specialist may even suggest that the child be provided with a simple monolingual environment first, so that the burden of language learning is lighter. 5. The child\’s willingness to speak is not strong enough. The function of speaking is to express one\’s own demands. If the child has a relatively gentle personality, doesn\’t pick anything, and is too comfortable being served, and the parent will get whatever he wants with a look, he will feel that it is fine not to speak, and he will not have much motivation to learn a language. So , don’t make the child too comfortable, you can deliberately not understand the baby’s requirements and guide him to have a desire to communicate. “What do you want? Point to it, oh, you want a banana, right? Then say to your mother, \”Fragrant~~Banana~~~\”, and Mom will give it to you, \”Fragrant~~~Banana~~~~\”, oh, you can\’t say it, it doesn\’t matter, we will talk about it next time.\” It\’s usually \”embarrassing\” It is also necessary to nurse the baby. Some problems that arise in the process of learning to speak 1. Stuttering After children learn to speak, most of them will stutter for a period of time. That is because the mouth is faster than the brain, and they cannot find the words in the middle of the sentence. arriveUse accurate words to express what you are causing, do not reprimand or correct the child, deal with it indifferently, let the child speak slowly, it does not matter, and help the child express what he means, this period will pass quickly. However, if severe stammering persists for more than 6 months, attention still needs to be paid to whether the child has psychological problems, such as frequent anxiety and fear. 2. Children with insufficient vocabulary of meaningless words will invent a \”universal word\” to refer to something that is difficult to express. Our Guoguo especially liked to use the word \”guguga\” for a while. She would often say \” \”I want that Gu Gu Gu\”, \”Gu Gu Gu is fun\”, \”Brother is Gu Gu Gu\” (I really want to laugh when I recall this). This treatment method is basically the same as stuttering. Once the child\’s vocabulary is rich enough, this phenomenon will naturally disappear. 3. Unclear articulation. Some children have very standard pronunciation from the beginning of their speech. However, some children have to go through the process of being unable to pronounce many consonants and need to use other consonants to replace them. For example, calling \”rain\” \”afternoon\”, calling \”afternoon\”, etc. \”One mouthful\” is called \”one bucket\”. In this case, don\’t bother to correct it, and don\’t follow the baby to say it in the wrong way. Just repeat what the baby said in the correct way every time: Oh, you mean \”rain\”, right? Speak as slowly as possible and exaggerate so that your baby can see your mouth shape. The baby will gradually learn the correct pronunciation. As for how to help a baby who doesn\’t speak, in addition to some of the methods mentioned in my previous article \”If you want your baby to be smarter, the simplest things are the most difficult to do\”, in addition to talking to the baby more and inputting a lot, I will talk about it again. Some other experiences on how to guide your baby to talk. 1. Encourage the imitation of sounds. Usually imitate animal sounds, sirens, etc. These distinctive and interesting sounds encourage babies to learn to make these sounds. There are a lot of crows in the city here in Vancouver. I often hear crows when I go out (sweat… I feel sad every day). I take my children out, and when I hear them, I imitate the cries of crows, \”Ah! Ah!\” Then Maotou followed suit, and after a few times, Guoguo also followed suit. Soon she discovered that imitating sounds was a fun thing, and she was happy to imitate any sounds. It later developed to the point where when she saw a bird, even a white seagull, she would cry \”Ah! Ah!\”, which was also very funny. 2. Find something that the baby is particularly interested in, and bombard it with this word over and over again. The first word Maotou learned was \”dog\”, because at that time we lived on the second floor and had a floor-to-ceiling window, and Maotou lay on the window every day. I saw people walking their dogs out recently, and I was particularly interested. It was like a living \”dog detection radar\”. No matter where I went, he would be able to detect dogs within a radius of 20 meters. So I took the trouble to tell him when I saw a dog, \”The puppy is out, what color is this puppy? The puppy is yellow, what is the puppy doing? The puppy is peeing, little The dog is running around now… Say it with me now, dog~~~~\”. Anyway, he kept saying the word \”dog\” and recited it every time he met a dog. He learned it in a few days. Later I found out that he liked cars very much, so I continuedContinue to use this method to focus on the word \”car\” until he can say it. In this way, his vocabulary increases. 3. Once the baby can say a word, use it with him often. The first word Guoguo said was \”fish\”, but at that time she called fish \”Wu\”. It didn\’t matter. Every day I just saw and Fish-related things, whether they are real, pictures, or patterns on clothes, must be pointed out and recognized with her, so that she can feel that language can be useful and stimulate her enthusiasm to continue learning to speak. . 4. Play with children who can talk. Sometimes, children of the same age can easily teach things that parents cannot teach. The power of role models is endless. If your baby talks late, try to let him hang out with children who are more talkative. Maybe, when he sees that child asking for something just by talking, he thinks it\’s cool, and he will be motivated to learn to talk. . Of course, never say to your baby, \”Look, everyone can talk, why don\’t you?\” This is very hurtful to your child\’s self-esteem! Although the child cannot speak, he can understand it! It is indeed undeniable that due to congenital genetic reasons, some children are usually very good at language enlightenment, but they start to speak later. As long as you are sure that the baby has no other problems, you can only wait for the flowers to bloom. But it’s time to work hard. We have to work hard. The earlier we talk, the less miserable our children will be, and the less depressed we will be. However, after your child can speak, it is like opening the door to a new world. He will keep pulling you to practice his language skills. He wants this or that, and he will share everything he sees with you. You can\’t pretend not to understand. , just don’t feel annoyed when the time comes! I wish all the babies can become chatty chatters soon!