Huo Qigang is already raising a baby, women really need to understand this

In fact, not only Huo Qigang, many male celebrities are raising children. Hawick Lau takes care of the baby, Deng Chao takes the baby, Lin Zhiying takes the baby… Many people are selling daddy characters and actively participate in the business of taking care of the baby. The comments were very lively. Many people said that they did not really take care of the baby just for business needs. Besides, if they were really asked to take care of the baby, the mother would not feel at ease. I thought about how every time there was a discussion about giving men maternity leave, the comments would be filled with disgust. Some people say: Come on, why are you giving men maternity leave? First, they don’t know how to take care of the children, and second, they don’t know how to wash diapers. They have to make trouble at home! Some people say: This is just a gimmick, it is of no use at all. Who expects men to take care of the baby and take care of the confinement? It can make people vomit blood in a minute, let them go to work and make money, out of sight, out of mind. Finally, someone left a message saying that her husband took care of her while she was in confinement and took good care of her children. Someone said bitterly that this kind of man is a peerless good man and he was lucky to meet him. Anyway, in the eyes of many women, whether a man is taking care of children or doing housework, he only has two words: No! Over time, men really become useless. There is a mother of her second child beside me. She suffered heavy bleeding during the birth of her second child and was very weak. The child is already half a year old and her complexion is not very good. No matter where she goes, whether it\’s back to her parents\’ house, going shopping, or eating with friends, her two children are with her 24 hours a day. Even if her husband is at home on Sunday, she still takes care of the children. Some people couldn\’t stand it and said to her: You are not in good health to begin with. It\’s not okay to let your husband take care of the children occasionally. Isn\’t it tiring to carry the children everywhere you go? Of course she is tired, and she often complains about being tired, and sometimes she has a breakdown. She will yell at her children and hit them, and she will blame her mother-in-law for not helping her. She said: You don’t know how unreliable men are when raising children. He doesn’t care when the child cries. He doesn’t know how to buy snacks when the child is hungry. The last time I let him take care of me, the child fell down and his knees bled. I was so angry that I had a big fight with him. This is not the only thing she complains about. For example, her husband\’s cooking is terrible, the floor is not clean, and when she asks him to buy things, he always gets unsatisfactory results. All kinds of trivial matters made her feel that her husband was particularly useless. Later, she simply stopped counting on him and did everything by herself. But this is too tiring. When people are tired, they tend to get emotional and complain easily. The two of them often quarrel over some messy things. She blames her husband for being stupid and not caring about her. She lived her life as a particularly typical resentful woman. There are so many women like this around me. Some people are busy working and taking care of the family at the same time, and are so tired that they want to have an affair; some people take care of their children every day, being both father and mother, and the father of the child seems to be invisible, and they are so angry that they want to divorce; some people are dissatisfied when they see their husbands doing things. , wishing he could explode on the spot. Chatting with Yang Xiaomi yesterday, she said that men are actually no worse than women at housework. Her husband was responsible for the decoration of their home. During the whole process, she visited and opened the door twice. The decoration effect turned out to be much better than she imagined. Many things in their family were planned by her husband. She didn\’t worry about anything, she just made some suggestions occasionally, and everything turned out well in the end. Including learning to drive, she decided to let her husband learn first, and he would be her full-time driver from now on. In addition to her work,I don’t care about anything, so my overall condition is very good, I can continue to make progress in my career, and my life is particularly nourishing. It just so happens that our home has been undergoing renovations in the past few months. At the beginning, my husband was afraid that I would be dissatisfied. He had to report to me what color to paint the walls, what to lay on the floor, whether to make tatami mats, how to make shoe cabinets, including what kind of doors to use, and he would give me information on WeChat every day. Send me pictures and let me choose. Choosing is really not a human thing. I have difficulty choosing. Even if I am worried about the color of a shoe cabinet, I will struggle for a long time. From a time management perspective, this is very cost-effective. He selected it first, then sent pictures for me to confirm. Finally, he had to refer to my opinions to confirm again. It was time-consuming and labor-intensive, and he was also tied up, for fear that I would not be satisfied with anything. Later I said: Don’t ask me, just use whichever one you think is better. Anyway, I don’t understand. For example, if he asks me which one is better for a wardrobe door, I will ask him: What’s the difference between each one? Which one is better? Then he explained to me the pros and cons of various doors. Since he knows better than me, why should I confirm it? Isn’t what he directly confirmed better than me? Otherwise, he would have to take care of my feelings, and he would not be very rational when making choices, which would inadvertently increase the cost of choice. Later, I didn’t care about it at all. My WeChat message suddenly became clean and I felt so good. The renovation is now more than half way through and will be completed by the end of the month. He has done a great job with many details that I didn\’t expect, which is completely beyond my imagination. Although some places may be different from what I imagined, I only look at the advantages and not the disadvantages, and I think it is beautiful and practical. You think about it, decoration is such a troublesome thing. Now there are people who have done everything. You just move in, what else are you dissatisfied with? Even if there are some small details that you are not satisfied with, it does not affect the overall situation. There is no need to be picky and insult the man\’s merits, so that he will not dare to do anything for the family next time. The decoration matter made me see my husband\’s potential. In fact, he doesn’t understand it at all, but if I ask myself to do it, I won’t do it better than him. When it comes to raising children, you can actually leave it to men with confidence. My daughter likes her father. As long as her father is at home, she will pester him 24 hours a day. She will ask him to help her get dressed when she gets up in the morning. At first, my husband was very stupid and always asked me where my clothes were and which one to wear. Afraid of wearing the wrong thing or wearing too much and too little. I was really going crazy at this moment, and I wanted to push him aside and get on top of me. But then I thought about it, I was confused the first time I dressed my child, so I patiently told him what to wear. He put on the child\’s clothes inside out and put on the child\’s shoes inside out. It was so annoying that when I pointed it out, my daughter even spoke up for her father, saying that she just liked wearing it backwards. I lost my temper instantly. After having this kind of trouble a few times, my husband became more comfortable taking care of the children. I took my children to Ocean Park on November 1 last year and went to various fun places. I got motion sick and couldn\’t take care of my daughter. My husband took care of my daughter along the way. When my daughter is thirsty, hungry, or has a headache and feels like vomiting, my husband can handle it. I hold my daughter when she\’s tired, unlike me, who can\’t hold her and only trains or coaxes her to walk a few more steps. The Dragon Boat Festival is also very interesting. Our family and my brotherMy sister drove her children out to play. After dinner, I wanted to go to a movie, but there were so many children and some were very young, so I would definitely feel uneasy watching it. My husband and brother volunteered and said, \”You guys go to the movies and we\’ll play with the kids.\” That day, two men led a group of children to play in the playground. The children were very noisy. They drank water, complained of hunger, and wanted to play other games. They accompanied them the whole time. My sister, sister-in-law, and I, the three women, were very leisurely in the cinema. After watching the movie, we were still unsatisfied. We also went to the mall to buy some clothes. We don\’t worry about men not being able to take care of children. This is their responsibility and they have to face it. If you don’t take good care of yourself at the beginning, it will be better if you take care of it a few more times. Isn’t this how women are trained? Really, even if a man is clumsy at first, as long as you let him do it, he will definitely do it no worse than a woman. Whether it\’s taking care of children or managing household chores, men can do it all. The key is that women should not deny opportunities to men, should not think that men are not good at housework or raising children, and should not think that men are not naturally good at these trivial matters. A woman must not be the Empress Dowager Cixi, who seizes both big and small powers and refuses to let go of power, leaving no room for others to exert their power and forcing herself to become a resentful woman. I really thought the earth would not turn away from you! Don\’t think too highly of yourself. Maybe in the eyes of men, many of the things you do are disgusting and disgusting. A healthy marriage relationship is about two people taking on the responsibility together, no matter what. Starting from tomorrow, feel free to leave your children to your husband, and give him as much room as possible to do housework. You have to believe that he can