Love has no principles and is often a kind of harm

Last weekend, my colleagues and I went to a restaurant for dinner. As soon as we sat down, a family came in: a couple holding a little boy about 9 years old, and two elderly people. They were sitting at the table across from us. I saw that after the waiter handed the menu to his mother, the little boy snatched it from his mother\’s hand. As he read it, he shouted: \”I want to eat fish and crabs.\” \”Okay, okay, order them all. Yangyang likes them.\” Dishes.\” The mother responded to the little boy lovingly. The grandparents touched the little boy\’s head with a smile: \”We Yangyang like to eat fish and crabs the most.\” After a while, the dishes came, and the little boy moved all the dishes in front of him. The four adults looked used to it and just looked at the little boy and smiled. After eating fish, the four adults scrambled to pick out the fish bones and piled the fish meat into the little boy\’s bowl. While the grandma was feeding the little boy fish, she said softly: \”Don\’t be in a hurry, eat slowly.\” The little boy was enjoying the pampering of his parents and grandparents. After a while, grandpa was probably hungry and wanted to pick up some food for dinner, but the little boy refused. Grandpa had no choice but to put down his chopsticks. It wasn\’t until the little boy was full that the four adults picked up their bowls to eat. I watched this scene silently, feeling uncomfortable in my heart. Quietly murmuring to a colleague: \”Where are the children nowadays! How pampered are they?\” It is obvious that this little boy\’s family status is above everyone else, he enjoys \”eating alone\”, and good things are served to him first. It was everyone else\’s turn. Perhaps the parents of the little boy feel that the child is small, and only by giving the child special care and treatment can they express their deep love for the child. However, most of the children raised under such unprincipled love are selfish, self-centered, and lack sympathy for people and things. The over-indulgence of adults towards their children has turned into harm to their personality growth, and this is how naughty children are developed. Read the story \”The Thief and His Mother\” from \”Aesop\’s Fables\”. A thief was caught and sentenced to death, to be executed three days later. He said goodbye to his mother before he died. When his mother came to him, he whispered: \”Tell you something.\” The thief\’s mother couldn\’t hear, so she came closer and he whispered again. Mother still didn\’t hear, so she put her ear closer. The son suddenly bit his mother\’s ear and almost tore it off. People around him were shocked. \”This is her punishment,\” the thief said viciously. \”When I was a child and took the stolen things home, instead of punishing me, she smiled and said, \’Don\’t let anyone see me.\’ She and I have ended up like this.\” This mother must have felt extremely regretful after hearing her son\’s words. At that moment, she might be heartbroken and regretful, but what\’s the use of regret? In this world, there is never any regret about selling medicine. When the mother found out that her child was taking something home, she actually said to her child, \”Don\’t let anyone see it.\” She was using her words and deeds to encourage her child to sink deeper and deeper into the wrong quagmire. It can be said that the son\’s development from petty theft to arson and robbery cannot be pardoned, all because this mother unprincipledly tolerated and even acquiesced to the child\’s wrong behavior when the son made small mistakes when he was a child. In this unprincipled manner, In his love, his son went astray on the wrong roadHe fell deeper and deeper, eventually ruining his young life. If parents have incorrect views, it will be difficult to educate their children well. In the final analysis, parenting children is a practice. Only by cultivating yourself first and establishing good personal qualities can you educate your children with a positive and correct attitude towards life. There was news some time ago: Nanjing Six Dynasties Museum is looking for a young visitor. At the end of March, when this child went to the museum with his class on a spring outing, he quietly took away two pebbles used for the exhibition in the exhibition hall. A few days later, he came back with an apology letter and the pebbles to admit his mistake. The museum staff not only forgave him, but also wanted to praise the child\’s courage and spirit of \”knowing his mistakes and being able to correct them\”, and awarded him the title of \”Honorary Junior Librarian\”, but they did not have the contact information of the child and his parents. Museum staff discovered from the surveillance video that the child who delivered the letter of apology and pebbles was delivered by his mother on an electric scooter. The mother waited alone on the sidewalk at the door and allowed the child to go in and speak on her own. As soon as this news came out, many netizens commented: \”If a mother has three upright views, her child will not be crooked in the future.\” \”Without bear parents, there will be no naughty children.\” \”The children educated by mothers in this way will definitely be sensible sons.\” \”Family education is done well. Okay.\” He also took something home (although it was just two small pebbles), but under his mother\’s earnest guidance, the child realized his mistake and wrote a simple and sincere letter of apology and a gift. return things. Children are bathed in the radiance of their mother\’s divine love, and even if they make mistakes occasionally, they can successfully walk through the muddy path of growth. A child who grows up nourished by this kind of love must be a simple, kind and warm person. As every child grows up, he or she cannot avoid making small mistakes of one kind or another. In the face of children\’s mistakes, the parenting attitude of parents determines the direction of children\’s growth and life trajectory. Behind every naughty child, there are often parents with incorrect views or misplaced education; and behind every good child, there must be a good family education and family tradition. When children have a dispute while playing together, do you want to protect your own children and blindly blame other children\’s children, or do you stand in an objective and fair position to help your children analyze right and wrong? When a child accidentally falls, do you blame the ground under the child\’s feet or remind the child to be careful when walking? When your child cries and asks for something, do you satisfy it unconditionally or do you make a rational decision after analyzing it in your mind? When your child secretly takes other people\’s things home, do you act as if nothing has happened and even say \”Don\’t let anyone see it\” or do you teach your child \”Don\’t be greedy when it\’s cheap, don\’t do evil things for small things\”? Piece by piece, piece by piece, the parenting attitude of parents permeates into every detail of children\’s daily life, nourishing their growth. The attitude of parents determines the kind of child they will raise. Smart parents should be parents with correct views, kindness and love. They love their children with rules and principles. For those parents who love their children without any principle or bottom line, their love often turns into a kind of harm, hurting both others and themselves, and even becomes a lifetime of irreparable regret. Parents who truly love their children, in the process of accompanying their children to grow up, first of allThey will set an example for their children in all aspects; secondly, while teaching their children how to live, they pay more attention to cultivating their children\’s correct outlook on life and values; finally, when their children make mistakes, they will not let them go or even condone and protect them, but will provide timely guidance. , guide children to make corrections, and always lead them wisely on a healthy growth path.