Children who do not respect their parents will not know how to respect anyone.

One day, I was at the breakfast shop at the entrance of the community. A father and daughter were sitting there eating breakfast. The little girl, about eight or nine years old, suddenly lost her temper loudly. Her father just said a few words and asked her not to make trouble here. Unexpectedly, the little girl became even more angry. He cursed: \”Don\’t worry about it, you are just a pervert.\” \”Where did you learn to curse?\” Dad was also angry. \”It\’s not your business, you can\’t control it.\” The father turned pale with anger. Being scolded by his beloved daughter, I can imagine that this father\’s heart must be bleeding. Why do you love your children so much, but why are you not respected? Nowadays, we parents are trying our best to train our children to become talents. But inadvertently neglected the character education of children. We have raised too many children who are self-centered and have not learned to respect others. Let children learn to respect the rights of others as early as possible. Of course, to a young child, if you talk to him about the word respect, he will definitely not understand it. But children can feel respect and learn respect from games and daily life. The most important thing for children to learn respect is not to preach to them. Letting children experience the feeling of being respected is more effective than anything else. In fact, many parents have no real respect for their children. Children are required to be obedient, not to be stubborn, and not to resist. They raised the child\’s body but did not pay attention to his heart. In such a situation, the child suppresses his inner dissatisfaction. Children fear their parents more than they respect them. And parents have more \”control\” than respect for their children. A mother told a little story of her own, which is actually very common in many families. She once cooked many delicious dishes for her children. When eating in the evening, my son only eats meat and nothing else. At this time, she told the child what to do, telling him to put the rice on the plate first, and then put the meat and vegetables. The son argued: \”You can\’t dictate the order in which I eat.\” \”We can!\” Her attitude must be firm. But the child still didn\’t listen. She immediately got angry and forced the child to listen to her. Finally, the son cried and ate the food. After dinner, her son said to her: \”Mom, you told me to put the rice first, then the meat and vegetables. You showed yourself to be smart and made me look stupid.\” At that time, she felt that she was awakened by her child. I always thought I respected my children, but I replaced love with control. Such an arrangement will only make the children feel: \”In your eyes, I don\’t even know how to eat.\” Under such control, many children give up on themselves and rely on their parents for everything. \”Mama\’s boys\” and giant babies are often created step by step in this way. Psychologists analyze that whether we take the initiative to inherit our parents’ behavioral habits, or we try to avoid copying the ones we don’t like, in the end, because of the influence we had during our growth, we all learned those behaviors and became our own parents. However, some are explicit and some are recessive, but they are all in our bones and blood. Children\’s behavior has long been shaped by their family of origin. What kind of family, what kind of children are raised. Children who have not been respected in their original family will definitely not respect others. There are actually many ways to make children feel respected. For example, let children get the opportunity to \”make their own decisions\”meeting. Children all like to watch cartoons. But some parents directly prohibit it and tell their children NO. The child asked why? The answer is: \”If I say no, I can\’t.\” Or \”For your own good\”, which is bad for your eyes, a waste of study time, etc. Why not give your children a choice. Such as viewing time, number of times, and content. These can all be mutually agreed upon and rules set. In addition, children can take charge of their own things and feel respected. Cultivation of property rights awareness should be the first step. We will find that when several children are together, they often argue about some items. The child\’s idea is to protect his own and grab the most interesting things. In the end, they are all mine. Parents must respect their children’s absolute sovereignty over their own toys. He can decide whether the toy should be lent out, and parents cannot force their children to share it out of face. You can tell your child, \”This is yours, you can make the decision, but you can play with that child for a while, and it will be returned to you later. And you can exchange with that child and share it together.\” When the child feels respected, We must also learn to respect the rights of others. What should I do if my child insists on wanting something from someone else, no matter how much I try to persuade him? In fact, such small conflicts are the best time to learn. What can parents do? Once when I took my son to play outside, I found two children about 3 years old. One is carried by my mother, and the other is carried by my grandma. The mother\’s child also has a stroller with his own car toys in it. She parked the car on the side of the road and took the child to play with another friend. The child brought by her grandma was walking around in circles when she suddenly discovered the toys in the stroller. At this time, the child looked back at his grandma. Then he pointed at the toy and said he wanted to play with it. \”You can\’t play with it, it\’s someone else\’s toy.\” \”I just want to play with it,\” the child said with a crying face. At this time, grandma stopped talking and turned her head to watch the square dance. In fact, it is a kind of tacit approval of the child. At this time, the child hurried over and picked up the toy. For children, this toy can be obtained immediately with a little persistence. And no one will say anything. Most importantly, no one told him what to do. It is such a small experience that often causes a lot of trouble for children. Next time this kid encounters a situation like this. Maybe you won’t ask the adults and just take it yourself. If no one notices, he will take it home secretly. Children won\’t think it\’s stealing. Because they don\’t have such a sense of right and wrong yet. Many parents left me messages saying that their children secretly took things home from classmates or school. Often when we were young, we did not establish a correct awareness of property rights. Last time I read animal stories to my son. It says that the little fox\’s world is different from our human world. They feel that everything they see belongs to them. So when they steal human chickens, it\’s not called stealing, but a way of hunting. I asked my son, \”What is our human world like?\” \”Other people\’s things belong to others. If we need it, we must tell others and get permission.\” The little guy\’s answer was very good. Parents should help their children establish a correct view of property rights from an early age. If at that timeA grandmother told her child that it was another child\’s toy. You can play, but you must tell someone and get permission. Then keep doing it well. It is also okay to ask the child to talk to the aunt, or to take the child with you to talk to the little owner of the toy. Even if the other party doesn\’t agree, it doesn\’t matter. The most important thing in doing this is to help children establish a sense of property rights. Learn to respect other people\’s rights to own things. In addition, please tell your children this sentence: People are equal, and you must respect that others are different from you. This is something I often say to my son. So when he sometimes says that a child is not doing well, I will remind him to see the merits of that child. And if you think about it, are you not as good as others? Learn to respect others because we are all the same. There is no need to feel inferior, let alone laugh at others. Learning to respect the rights of others is an important lesson for parents and children.