If you have a boy at home, you should pamper him even more

A few days ago, a mother left me a message and said: She found that her son has become like a little girl recently. He always clings to me and cannot push me away. He also talks like a girl. She asked whether she was spending time with her child at home these days and pampering him too much? To be honest, there are really many parents who think this way. So I often see messages like this: \”Do boys need to be beaten more? It\’s useless to talk nicely?\” \”Why do boys still cry so much? Why do they have such a glassy heart?\” \”Why do our sons always cause destruction?\” , I would kick the basin over even if I washed my feet, and I yelled at me again!”… There was too much bitter water like this, and there was no place to pour it. Some people say that if you think raising children is fun, that’s because the child you gave birth to is not a son. I couldn\’t agree more with this statement. Because if you compare them casually, you will find a bunch of facts that daughters are better than sons. When I went to pick up my son from school. On the way home, I saw the girls holding their mothers\’ hands and happily telling stories about school. As for the boy, he still couldn’t stop! That day, a boy in my son\’s class naughtily pushed down the diversion sign on the roadside for no reason or warning. The mother said to her son very kindly: \”Baby, help it up quickly, I know you will help it up.\” Then she guided the child to help the fallen sign up. What this mother did is worth learning from. Because every boy is naughty and troublesome too many times, his parents don\’t have a good temper. The result will only be anger. Despite this, our parents, especially boys, still have high expectations for boys. I always feel that boys should look like boys. \”Don\’t cry if you fall down, get up quickly, because you are a boy. If your sister wants your toy, give it to her quickly. Because you are a brother, and more importantly, the boy must be more generous. We praise the brave and strong boys and can\’t wait They label boys as \”tough guys\” and \”manly\”.\” However, the inner world of boys is often ignored. Their loneliness is understood as being unsociable. Rebellion is taken for granted. Their backwardness was considered a lack of progress. Lack of understanding and support. Finally, what kind of boy do you raise? In fact, you can see the clues just by looking at the grown-up boys around us. Even if he is a father. Sanmao said that men in the world are often just extensions of children in their home life. If a woman treats her father, husband and brothers with the love and care for her children, most of them will repay her with warm and true feelings. The thing that many mothers complain about most about their children\’s fathers is not that the father doesn\’t take care of the children. It’s that the father doesn’t know how to get along with his children. Many fathers hide away from their children when they see them, looking aloof and aloof. In fact, it has something to do with his growth process as a child. Because there is a \”stereotypical\” boy living inside him. When you are facing your boy and you are still hesitating, am I pampering him too much, then forget about this idea quickly. Because boys need more love from their parents. Psychologists have found that boys are more sensitive and fragile than girls in infancy and need more care and comfort from their parents before they are one year old. His skin needs to be satisfied through touch and feel safe enough. When they cry, comfort them, cuddle with them a little longer, let them feelYour tenderness, thoughtfulness and love. When we express our love, boys are often slow or missing a beat. There will always be a certain moment when your child becomes particularly attached to you. Then please give him the satisfaction of love. Now my son has started sleeping in separate rooms. Before going to bed, I would read him a storybook. Then say good night to you and sometimes give him a big kiss. But sometimes, he wouldn\’t let me go and would hold my hand tightly. Then he held his hands and pressed his face against my hands. Every time I hurriedly approached him and hugged him gently. After a while, wait for his hand to loosen a little, and say good night to him and get up early tomorrow. Then he turned over and fell asleep. Every child expresses feelings differently. But the boys\’ approach always seems reserved and a little shy. They can\’t seem to make themselves look like girls. In fact, this is affected by the overall living environment in daily life. Therefore, boys always express their emotions passively. \”Come on, kiss daddy!\” \”Should I kiss mommy too?\” They always need such reminders so that they can fully express their love. And sometimes, they\’ll kiss you quietly. Many times when I put my son to sleep. I would find him secretly kissing the back of my hand sometimes. But girls are not like that. It is easier for them to express their love in front of their parents. \”Dad, let me kiss you!\” \”Mom, I love you so much!\” Boys are naturally more expressive of emotions than girls. The same is true for the feeling of love. So in the movie \”Heartbeat\”, the hero meets the heroine for the first time when he was a child. As soon as the little girl saw the little boy, she fell in love with his big eyes and dreamed of her first kiss with the little boy. There is a film review that says, \”A girl\’s heartbeat can often be determined with just one shot, but a boy\’s heartbeat requires the length of a movie.\” Every little boy needs more patience from his parents. Wait and accompany. When faced with an angry little boy, please calm down. Because he needs your acceptance. Because in terms of emotional management and expression, the boys\’ performance is \”very bad.\” Take the little dispute between the son and his cousin two days ago as an example. My sister is shooting at home with a basketball. The little brother went to maintain order and said that shooting balls was not allowed at home. My sister didn’t listen, so he came to me and said that my sister was disobedient. I said you go find your sister and talk about it. As a result, he ran over and grabbed it without saying a word. At that time, my sister said angrily, \”You are annoying me to death when you do this.\” She expressed her emotions. But the elder brother ignored it at all and continued to grab it. In the end, he didn\’t grab it, so he was left sulking alone. Girls generally express their emotions very well. And what about boys? Either he\’s yelling and impatient, or he\’s sulking. Scientists will tell us why: the right brain of little boys is responsible for processing emotions, and this area develops slower than that of girls. So, don\’t blame the boy for being ungenerous, having a bad temper, and being angry. They really weren\’t ready yet. We often say that when raising boys, we must make them more independent. Many mothers interpret it as being overindulgent, or deliberately act ruthlessly. I have always advocated learning to let go and let boys grow up.Grow into a real man. But this requires a long process. All this is inseparable from love. With this foundation in place, let’s talk about rules and sense of responsibility. Children will be more willing to communicate with their parents. What\’s more important is that most of these key qualities are formed subconsciously under the influence of parents. If you can maintain a good parent-child relationship and have a parent who understands your child, many problems will be solved. In childhood, the psychological growth environment is far more important than material conditions. A child\’s experience actually lays the foundation for his life. If the family was full of joy and love during childhood, then the background of his life will be warm and bright. Such a child will grow up to become a warm-hearted person.