Parents often do these three things to turn their children into criminals

Genes load the bullet, character takes aim, and environment pulls the trigger. \”Eden Lake\”, rated as \”one of the ten most depressing and desperate movies in history\”, tells this story: the heroine Jenny is a kindergarten teacher. Because of the holiday, the hero Steve takes her to A remote vacation on Lake Eden. However, they got into an argument with a group of teenagers by the lake, and the nightmare began. A group of children headed by Brian, although they are only teenagers, are violent by nature, treating abuse as a game and treating killing as a sign of courage. The two were extremely humiliated by them. Steve was kidnapped, mutilated, doused with gasoline, and tortured to death. Jenny managed to escape, but she was covered in scars and went through hardships and dangers before finally escaping from the forest. She thought she was successfully saved, so she saw the light and ran over. Unexpectedly, it turned out to be a hell worse than hell. She accidentally escaped to the home of the parents of those children. Jenny used her last remaining hope to tell them everything that happened in the forest, but no one believed it. What\’s even more desperate is that the child\’s parents said: \”He is just a child.\” In order to cover up the children\’s crimes, the killing was once again passed to the parents of these children. They used violence to ignite the hostility of the town again. Several men dragged the heroine into the bathroom and finally killed the heroine. die. This moment pushed the inherent evil of human nature to its peak. Brian went upstairs, put on the dead hero\’s glasses, stood in front of the mirror, a smile appeared on his lips, and the film ended abruptly here. This movie brings unprecedented anger and pain points. These children cannot be called naughty children. They are cold-blooded and cruel murderers. There are also several details in the movie: on the way to Lake Eden, the radio in the car played educational information in a loop; when the male and female protagonists ordered food, the waiters spoke harshly to each other, and when parking, someone maliciously occupied the parking space; during the meal, a mother was In front of everyone, he slapped the child viciously several times; Brian was yelled at and even fisted by his out-tempered family members; there were often scoldings from couples quarreling outside the hotel… Under the influence of this environment, his parents\’ \”Leading by example\” taught them to respond to violence with violence, and this became their way of survival. A hostile community, parents\’ violent parenting methods, and quarrels between couples have created a perfect breeding ground for criminals. And the sentence \”He is just a child\” can exonerate him. Pulling these factors into reality and doing these three things can also create opportunities for children to commit crimes. I often talk about \”He\’s Just a Child\”. I remember a spoof video \”He\’s Just a Child\” directed by Lu Zhengyu. The story is funny, but it\’s very scary when you think about it carefully. When he returned home during the Chinese New Year, the naughty boy poured a bowl of noodles on Lu Xiaoyu\’s head, but his expression remained unchanged because he knew Lu Qigu would protect him. Sure enough, Lu Qigu said \”He is just a child\” and choked Lu Xiaoyu on the spot. Lu Xiaoyu could only resort to his last resort: he fell on Lu Qigu\’s head. Lu Qigu was furious and slapped him in the face. Lu Xiaoyu was slapped, and his father couldn\’t sit still, so he also slapped Lu Qigu; Lu Qigu was slapped,Her father couldn\’t sit still anymore and slapped Lu Xiaoyu\’s father; the parents jumped out one by one and slapped others in order to help their children. And in the last scene of the film, this naughty kid was sinister next to him. smiling. Endless quarrels arose because of him, but he ignored them. His facial expression tells us: It doesn\’t matter if I do something wrong, my parents will protect me anyway, and I can do whatever I want. In real life, this situation is particularly common: parents who are eager to protect their children and children who cannot distinguish right from wrong and are reckless about the consequences. The parents\’ blind indulgence and excuse will only lead to a more brutal ending. Such was the case of killing his wife and hiding her corpse that caused a sensation in Shanghai. In 2016, 29-year-old Zhu Xiaodong had a quarrel with his wife Yang Liping over trivial matters, and later brutally murdered Yang Liping and refrigerated her body in a freezer for three months. The skin all over her body had been frozen, and forensic doctors were unable to detect specific injuries. Time of death. During this period, Zhu Xiaodong forged chat records, pretended that Yang Liping was still alive, maxed out her credit card, and opened a room with other women. It was really outrageous. What’s even more hateful is that during the reporter’s interview, his mother said about her son: “He did it unintentionally. He made a mistake. He is still a child and has never experienced anything. He didn’t call the police because he was scared and didn’t know what to do!” His mother had doted on Zhu Xiaodong since childhood and adopted a consistent indulgent attitude, so that later on, even if he committed murder, in her eyes, he was just a child. Zhu Xiaodong\’s abnormal protection and doting by his parents cannot be spared the blame for causing such evil consequences. Since his parents protected him since he was young, he thought that the whole world would protect him. The reality is that the whole world would not. Let children often witness their parents quarreling. I once saw the inner monologue of a student @小林 on Weibo: What I fear most when writing essays is writing about family love, father\’s love and mother\’s love. I have to make it up every time. My parents quarreled every now and then, and I even saw them fighting when I was a child. I cried and couldn\’t do anything at that time. I was so scared that I can only stand aside and dare not speak even now. After they quarreled, they would sometimes lose their temper at me, sometimes tell me how wrong the other party was, and ask me to express my position and whose side I planned to take. Every time I go home, I feel an inexplicable sense of depression. When I was in school, I didn’t want to be out of school. I was afraid when I heard about the holidays. Because my family was like a powder keg that could explode at any time, and I gradually learned how my parents interacted with each other, and subconsciously used quarrels, abuse, and violence to solve problems. I didn’t know what I would become in the future. The scariest movie a child has ever seen is to witness their parents quarreling. Parents are the first objects of imitation for children. Quarrel between parents will not only make children sensitive, suspicious, inferior in self-esteem, and irritable, but will also have a devastating impact. The \”Ayase Cement Murder Case\” was a real murder that shocked the entire Japanese society. 17-year-old Furuta Junko was imprisoned by four minors for more than 40 days. During this period, she was humiliated and tortured to death. The young murderer\’s methods were extremely cruel and inhumane, and the ferocity displayed was staggering. The parents of one of the prisoners (Taishi Watanabe) knew about the incident but did not help, allowing Junko to be tortured alive, while Yasushi Watanabe\’s familyIt was precisely the stage where the entire crime occurred. In the follow-up of the case, it can be seen that Watanabe Yasushi\’s parents are not harmonious. They often quarrel and even use fists and kicks. When angry, Watanabe will be beaten together. Watanabe, who grew up in such an environment, was expelled from school when he was in junior high school and became a delinquent who lived on the streets. He idled around all day and joined three other people in fighting, robbing and molesting girls. Unknowingly, the four of them… People fall into the abyss of crime together and cannot recover. It has been 8 years since the incident of Yao Jiaxin who violently disciplined his children. He hit someone with his car and then stabbed the injured person eight times, killing him. He was later executed at the age of 21. In Chai Jing\’s book \”Seeing\”, there is an impressive chapter, which is the interview with Yao Jiaxin\’s parents. When Yao Jiaxin was young, his father was away with the army. When he was in kindergarten, he started to learn piano according to his mother\’s request. Her mother\’s salary was fifty yuan a month, and she paid thirty yuan for lessons. She couldn\’t learn how to be beaten by a ruler. Yao Jiaxin cried while beating Yao Jiaxin. But if he doesn’t resist, “he also knows how much money it will cost to study one more time.” My mother said: \”I have taught him since he was a child that whenever he plays with children, as long as there is a fight, no matter who is right or wrong, he will definitely be scolded when he comes back.\” She cried and asked me: \”Doesn\’t it mean that strict discipline can lead to success? Is it wrong to be strict with discipline?\” In middle school, a classmate drugged Jiaxin and knocked his head against the wall. He was afraid that his parents would tell him, so he didn\’t dare to say anything. He didn\’t dare to go to school, for fear that the student would bully him again. . The mother said that her son\’s personality was too \”slave\”, which in Shaanxi dialect means cowardly, \”afraid of men, especially his father.\” Yao Jiaxin said during the trial: \”Since I was a child, I have been extremely depressed since I entered junior high school. I often wanted to commit suicide because apart from practicing the piano endlessly, I could not see any hope in life. I felt that life was meaningless and that everyone else was boring. Happy, nothing I do is meaningless.\” For Yao Jiaxin who has left, it is difficult to change the cruel image he left in people\’s hearts. Today, we re-examine the Yao Jiaxin incident and feel a little helpless. Yao Jiaxin\’s father was a soldier with a stubborn personality and always followed a violent discipline method. The family was filled with verbal and physical violence, which caused Yao Jiaxin\’s psychological distortion and character defects. Growing up, his father had never encouraged Yao Jiaxin. In his father\’s words: \”I would crack down on anything he was very keen on doing. I just didn\’t want him to overheat. I just wanted to pour some cold water on him. Don\’t be so… \”Excessive\” and his father always felt that his ideas were right. This also caused Yao Jiaxin to rarely have his own ideas throughout his growth process, despise life, and live without knowing why. Sometimes I wonder, if Yao Jiaxin had not grown up in such a tolerant environment, could this tragedy have been avoided? But if it\’s just if, everything is irreversible. I don’t know how many Yao Jiaxin families there are in this world, and how many Yao Jiaxin children are there. I just hope that the tragedy will never happen again. There is a famous saying in criminology: \”Genes load the bullet, personality takes aim, and the environment pulls the trigger.\” We cannot change genes, but personality and environment can. Family feuds, violent discipline, and conniving lead them to hell.Only with family harmony, scientific discipline, and gentleness without losing principles can children roam in a paradise of freedom.