A child\’s illness is the best test of the relationship between a couple

There was an influenza outbreak a while ago, and many children around us were infected. Children\’s hospitals are as overcrowded as the Spring Festival travel rush. In addition to the busy pediatricians, parents who are even more anxious and busy are parents holding sick children. My family, Tutu, also suffered from influenza a while ago, so I feel deeply about this matter. Because my father was on a business trip, I took the baby to see a doctor and get medicine alone. Not only was I in a hurry, but the baby was also vomiting from time to time. I was really distressed and anxious. Of course, what I felt more in my heart were all kinds of complaints about the baby\’s father – —Although I know I can’t blame him because of my work, I really can’t digest the grievance of taking my child to see a doctor alone. It wasn\’t until he rushed back early, consciously took over the task of taking care of the children, and said to me: \”You have worked hard these days, you should also have a good rest\”, that I felt much better. I thought about it later, if he hadn\’t said \”Thank you for your hard work these days\” at that time, I might have lost my temper at him. Maybe because of this, our relationship will be exploded. When a child gets sick, not only is it very troublesome to go to the hospital, but in order to monitor the child\’s body temperature, you may not be able to sleep well at night. In the whole process, who goes to the hospital to register, who goes to queue up to get medicine, who goes home to cook delicious food for the children, and who stays with them at night… The division of labor and collaboration in this process really tests the relationship. So some people joked that with the outbreak of the flu, the divorce rate also began to rise. The child\’s illness suddenly increased the couple\’s family responsibilities, and the ordinary and relaxing days seemed to be over. The child\’s crying made all the good mood disappear, and the young couple was naturally not in the mood for intimacy. It can be said that the child\’s illness has almost completely changed the original living situation… Why does love collapse as soon as the child becomes ill? A mother once initiated such a topic: I want to ask everyone, what is your husband’s attitude when the child is sick? As the poster, this mother poured out all her bitterness in the post, complaining that her husband not only did not help when the child was sick, but also accused her of not being able to take care of the child: A child\’s illness is a very worrying thing in the first place, and her husband\’s correct attitude And capable help can often make wives feel a lot more relaxed, but there are also many husbands who behave in very ungentlemanly and childish ways at this moment when people need to be united, which makes many mothers feel chilled. After the child becomes ill, the unbearable husband mainly shows the following six behaviors: Attitude 1: Blaming, \”You don\’t do anything at home, but you can\’t even look after the child for me! What do you do for food?\” This is very Typical and the most numerous type of husband. In the eyes of such a husband, the mother is just a nanny who looks after the children, and has no other use than that. When a child gets sick, the person who gets blamed is always the one who has done the most! Attitude 2: Impatient \”Why are you sick again? It\’s really annoying. How can I sleep with such noise? I have to go to work tomorrow! You can go to the living room to sleep with your child!\” Such a husband is completely self-centered. , Children are very cute when they are healthy, but once they become sick and affect themselves, they are immediately regarded as a burden. Attitude 3: Don’t worry. “It’s too exaggerated! You run to the hospital when you have a fever? Who is not sick? I used to be sick all the time. Look, I’m fine now. Do you want to go to the hospital?You go, I won\’t go. \”Such a husband is really powerless to complain. The child is not nervous at all when he has a fever. Does it have to be missing arms and legs to cause the slightest fluctuation in your conscience? Attitude 4: Hindsight: \”I have to take him out to play, he may have caught a cold now! I told you not to blow the air conditioner, but I just don’t listen to balbla…\” Such a husband always treats it as an afterthought, as if mothers deliberately make their children sick! Who can make their children sick after eating enough? Huh? Is this what people do? Attitude 5: Pointing fingers. When a husband like this arrives at the hospital, he starts nagging: \”Why don\’t you go to such-and-such hospital?\” Why don\’t you go see Dr. So-and-so? You see there are so many people here, you should go to a certain hospital… You should see a specialist clinic… You should make an appointment… You should queue up first… \”Excuse me, are you my husband or the leader? If you are not the leader, just shut up. Okay? I can\’t even hear the nurse calling! Attitude 6: Ignore \”Didn\’t you see that I was busy?\” Didn\’t you see that I was upset? If your child is sick, you can just do whatever you want. If he is sick, how many people do you want to take care of him? \”Compared to a bossy husband, such an indifferent husband is even more heartbreaking to mothers. There are so many fathers like this! But there are also some fathers who are more anxious than mothers when their children are sick. Sun Li once recorded on Weibo that once she waited When she got sick, Deng Chao asked her no less than 800 times if she wanted to go to the hospital: A child\’s illness is a major test for a family. It tests the physical condition of the parents and the relationship between the couple. At this time, how many women were forced to become fake Single mother? How many women have thought of divorce? The scene when a man appears in the family is roughly like this: the child will leave, \”Look how great my son is, as great as his father!\” \”The child is sick,\” \”How do you take care of the child? You can\’t even take care of a child!\” \”Really, where can you reason? Children\’s illness should not be the trigger for couples to quarrel. Children are the crystallization of love. Children are the emotional bond between parents. Only with children can families be happy. These familiar words have made countless women I have thought about having a child. However, a new child is definitely the biggest destroyer of the relationship between husband and wife. No matter how tender and affectionate and soul confidants you were before, you are as bored as Siamese people all day long, as if you can talk about it. A love that lasts for thousands of years. As soon as the child arrives, he will return to his original form within a few days and nights. Especially when the child is sick – maybe in your imagination, even if the husband never does housework, at least when the child is sick, You have to act like a father and contribute your own strength. In reality, your husband often disappoints you. His life has not changed much. Even if the child has a fever of 40 degrees at night, there will be no disturbance in his heart. According to the legend Super dads who are good at breastfeeding and coaxing to sleep are all other people\’s husbands. You can\’t count on this one at all. So you grit your teeth and do it all yourself, looking for doctors and medicines everywhere, and coaxing the baby at home. On his side The snoring was loud. Gradually, mothers’ patienceWhen I ran out of energy, I finally couldn\’t help but start complaining to my husband, which turned into a quarrel. The content of the quarrel was repeated thousands of times, creating an endless cycle. You feel that he has disappointed you so much and chilled you so much that you begin to suspect that this marriage was wrong from the beginning. He also feels that you are no longer cute and gentle, and that you have changed from the angel you used to be to a devil. If the mother-in-law and mother-in-law take sides at this time, it can really be a bloody drama. It would be a miracle if the marriage didn\’t collapse. In fact, the crisis in a couple\’s relationship caused by a sick child is almost unsolvable. This requires sacrifice and change on both sides, which is often what men lack the most. Mothers take care of their children. This is something engraved in genes. Because of the long pregnancy of more than nine months and the painful birth process, mother and child have undoubtedly formed an extremely close connection. As children grow up, they have already occupied the most important position in their mother\’s world. When a child encounters a big event, the mother is definitely the first to jump out. The father\’s interaction with the child is obviously very poor. For him, he has far less contact with the child than the mother. When encountering a special situation, a bewildered father will most likely not be able to step into the role of guardian. When a child gets sick, it is usually a low point in the couple\’s relationship. After the child is out of danger, the situation begins to turn around, because the mother can finally take a breath and return to a stable life, and the mental depression disappears. This is the most precious moment to repair the relationship between husband and wife. Husband and wife are like pots and pans in the kitchen, they jingle and jingle to get along for a lifetime. The real state of marriage is sometimes like this: sometimes you want to kill him with a gun, but on the way to buy a gun, you see his favorite food, so you buy the food and forget to buy a gun, and then a few days later, You think it’s not possible! She still wanted to destroy him, but she softened her heart and spared him. Most couples spend their entire lives loving and hating each other like this. Children are the touchstone of the relationship between husband and wife, and they are also the coagulant. Generally speaking, whether there is true love between husband and wife depends on three things! When a child is born, when parents are in trouble and when the child is sick. In fact, where in marriage are there really so many disasters that we have to bear together? What mothers just want is that when their children are sick, they can have someone to share their anxiety with, seek medical advice, and silently take over their children and say \”Thank you\” when they are tired… But many husbands do this They can\’t do it. In addition to the high pressure of work, in their subconscious mind, women should take care of children. Some netizens posted a post about the husband’s responsibilities in marriage. The post denounced the marriage law and believed that men themselves took advantage of the law. We don’t want to discuss what is right and wrong here. Marriage is originally run by two people. If contributions are judged based on who benefits more and who benefits less, then isn’t marriage a business? The illness of a child has already made the family atmosphere more intense than before. If the couple still quarrels, it will only add fuel to the fire. Children who are uncomfortable always make everyone feel very irritated, but we must know that both emotional life and marriage life require a running-in period, and everyone has their own way of handling and coping.method, in addition to the fathers of their children trying to change their attitudes and ways of doing things, I also hope that mothers can give their husbands the time and opportunity to grow up for the second time. Similar stories keep repeating themselves. However, if you don\’t have a child, you will never imagine that this little thing will bring you endless laughter, but it will also bring many challenges and tests. I hope you and I can withstand this test.