In the first year of the second child, 5 little things to help Dabao happily accept the second child

There are many mothers around me who are considering having a second child, but they are worried that if the second child takes away the mother\’s love, it will hurt the first child\’s feelings. Sister Guozi has been in our house for eight months. As long as she is in the same room with Su Bao, Guozi will play with peace of mind and rarely cry. A few days ago, I was cooking in the kitchen and put Guozi on the floor mat to play with. After a while, Guozi started to become irritable. Su Bao, who was reading a picture book in the living room, ran over and handed a toy to her little hand and said, Guozi, don’t cry. Sister is here! I think this is also a sign that the two treasures are getting along well. Today, while my memory is still fresh, I would like to share with you some of the little things we did in the first year of our second child’s life that made the first and second babies accept and like each other. 1. On the day the second baby is born, celebrating the arrival of the second baby is a huge change for the big baby. Dabao\’s emotions may be mixed with excitement, curiosity, confusion and loss. The fruit arrived two weeks earlier than my due date, and I didn’t have time to do a lot of preparations. But when I entered the delivery room, I didn’t forget to ask my family to buy a gift and card for Su Bao. The card said: Congratulations to a new baby. big sister. After giving birth to Guo, when her family brought Su Bao to the delivery room to see us, we did not let her see her sister first, but hugged her immediately, and then solemnly gave her gifts to congratulate her on becoming a big sister. 2. Let the Dabao know that she and the second baby are completely equal. After the second baby is born, one of the behaviors that can easily hurt the Dabao is over-protection of the second baby. For example, when Dabao is near, he acts very nervous and does not allow Dabao to touch his younger brother/sister, etc. I remember when my sister was a newborn, Su Bao was very excited and wanted to pat her on the head. Sometimes Su Bao used too much force, so I quickly stopped her and said that my sister’s head was very fragile and I couldn’t pat her because it would hurt her. Now that my sister is older, when playing with Su Bao, she will sometimes pull her hair or scratch her face. I will hold her little hand and tell her seriously, no, it will hurt her. I think this can send a message to Dabao: adults will hold you both to the same standards. This will make Dabao feel at ease, because she knows that she and Erbao are equal. 3. Tell your eldest and second eldest children every day that they are parents who love each other. The words are very important in shaping the children\’s character. The love between brothers and sisters also needs to be \”taught\” by adults over and over again. When I noticed Guozi\’s smile when she saw Su Bao, I would emphasize to Su Bao, \”My sister is so happy to see her sister. My sister likes her so much.\” When Su Bao shared a toy with his sister, I would also say, \”I love my sister so much. I am so happy to have such a sister.\” Preschool children are like a blank sheet of paper. They will choose to believe what adults say unconditionally. To a certain extent, it can be said that if you tell your child what kind of person he is, he will become what kind of person he is. So don’t forget to tell Dabao repeatedly that her sister/brother loves her and that she loves her sister/brother. 4. Try your best to exaggerate that Bao is the role model for the second baby and make her proud. In Dabao\’s world, if the arrival of the second baby can give her a sense of presence, Dabao will be more likely to accept Dabao. When Su Bao pours water, eats by herself, and puts on her coat, I will praise her for her ability and ask her if she will also teach her sister how to pour water in the future.Water, food, clothes. No matter what Su Bao does now, he likes to say to his sister with an expression of \”Don\’t be afraid that the elder sister will protect you\”: Fruit! When you grow up, I will teach you. 5. Use Erbao’s tone of voice to let the two children start “communicating” early. Su Bao is now three years old. She knows that she will cry when she is sad, but when her sister first came to our house, Su Bao didn’t know there were many reasons. Makes a baby cry. In her eyes, it seemed like her sister was crying all day long (in fact, there was no question of how much someone cried when they were children). Su Bao often asks me, why is my sister crying? I would explain to her that it was because my sister was sleepy, hungry, and needed to change her diaper. My sister is eight months old and has started chattering in Martian language. I will explain my sister\’s \”thoughts\” to Su Bao. For example, my sister is very happy now and wants to play with you; or my sister likes your red car very much and she also wants to touch it. touch. Su Bao began to realize that my sister was not just a little baby who only pooped and pooped. Although my sister could not speak, she had a variety of emotions just like me. This unconsciously brought the two children closer, and also let Su Bao know that his sister was not a threat to him, but a future partner. Now Su Bao is looking forward to the day when his sister can walk and play with her. Finally, I want to say that when the second baby arrives, don’t forget that the eldest baby is still a child. During this period when Dabao is very emotionally sensitive, allowing her to lose her temper, act coquettishly, and be willful will make Dabao feel that her parents love her as much as before, and her \”status\” is very safe. Many people ask me why I gave birth to a second child. It doesn’t seem worth the hard work for another three years. But seeing Su Bao and his sister in love makes me feel at ease. Inexplicably, a lyric comes to mind: The lighthouse is never alone, because you are the coast. I hope they will be each other\’s shores (full article ends).