Learn this action and make your child obedient instantly

When I was browsing Weibo today, I saw two pictures that made my heart tremble, and then I felt like I suddenly understood. Let me show you these two pictures first. The first picture shows two states of mother and child talking. The left one is standing and the right one is squatting. How do girls feel? Do you think the little girl on the left is tired with her head raised? That’s right! Listening to others talking with your head raised like this for a long time will make you tired, your neck will be sore, your eyes will hurt, and you will not be able to hear clearly what the other person is saying. Therefore, the most comfortable way to talk to your child should be like on the right, squatting down so that she can look at you. If it were just like this, it wouldn\’t have attracted my too much attention. What really shocked me was the second picture – what kind of mother the child sees when you talk to it. The same mother, the same expression, but does it give people a different real feeling? Although the standing mother is also smiling, she looks like a giant and a bit fierce; the squatting mother looks much more amiable! Think about it if you were a child, which mother would you rather talk to? The answer is obvious! Therefore, if you want to know your child\’s thoughts and communicate with him, then the most direct and effective way is to squat down. Only by squatting down can you enter the child\’s world. Many mothers say that they love their children very much, but they still can\’t help but get angry when their children disobey. Girls, try squatting down before you lose your temper next time. Maybe you will find the reason behind your child\’s \”disobedience\”. Why is the child squatting on the ground and refusing to move even though he is clearly not tired? Squat down and you will find that in the child\’s sight, there may be a budding flower, a group of ants busy carrying food, or just a strange-shaped stone. But no matter what, wanting to observe nature up close was the reason why he refused to leave. Why did my baby suddenly cry when we were strolling around the scenic spots? Squat down and you will find that the beautiful scenery in your eyes is just a lot of butts, thighs, and endless roads to him. Why doesn\’t his child listen to him when he makes mistakes? Have you ever seen the child\’s expression when you scolded him? You can\’t see it, so you can\’t feel his grievance, fear, and sadness. You only focus on venting your own emotions, but ignore the child\’s emotions. And when a child\’s emotions are not released, he will be immersed in his own bad emotions and will not hear what you say at all. Only after his emotions are recognized and relieved will he think about other issues, such as what he did wrong. This is just like when we have a quarrel with our husband. When you are angry, is it useful for your husband to reason with you? it\’s useless! It doesn\’t matter even if he is right, does it matter? Thorndike, a famous American psychologist, said: \”Only when parents look at problems from their children\’s perspective can they understand their children\’s psychological needs without drawing arbitrary conclusions. This way they can reduce conflicts with their children and win their trust.\” Therefore. Before we want to get angry, we should squat down and really see what the child sees, and really see the child, understand his emotions, and feel his world. Squat down and educate the children so easy! When you squat down, your children will be more willing to communicate with you. This is because: 1. When we squat down, we will unconsciously lower our tone and sound more gentle. When you want to get angry, squat down and you will find that you don\’t seem to be that angry anymore. Especially when you see the child\’s timid expression when he realizes his mistake and is waiting to be told, you will really soften your heart and stop yelling at your child loudly. In this way, children can hear our words better. Girls may not know that if we yell at our children very loudly, they will default to it as noise and automatically block it. This is not their subjective wish, but a normal physiological reaction! 2. Your child can see your expression, which can speed up his understanding of what you are saying. People are visual animals. For children, seeing your expressions and movements can deepen their understanding of your language. If you talk to him seriously, he will know that you are serious, so he will take it seriously. And if you make an angry expression, he will know that certain things will make you unhappy, and he should not do it in the future. This is much easier to understand than dry words! 3. Children feel that they are respected. Children are very sensitive. When you squat down and talk to them, they feel that you are putting them on the same level as adults and they feel that they are respected. In this way, he will be more willing to communicate with you, share his ideas, and listen to your teachings, which is much more effective than your condescending criticism of him. So you see, it is not that difficult to enter the world of children and make them obedient. Just squat down and you will already have a gentle halo in the eyes of your children!