Are you ready for the questions about the life and death of young children caused by the customs of Qingming Festival?

Tomb-Sweeping Day is coming, and we will take our children to visit the tombs of our ancestors. So, are you ready to ask questions about the life and death of young children? When parents are asked by their children what death is, their responses can be roughly summarized as follows: 1. Avoidance type: Children will naturally understand when they grow up. Xinxin’s mother’s mother died in a car accident during her freshman year. When her child was three years old, one day the child ran home and asked: Mom, where is my grandma? Other children all have grandmothers, why don’t I? Xinxin\’s mother explained: \”Grandma passed away and you will never see her again.\” Xinxin\’s mother continued to question her child: \”What is death? Why can\’t I see it? Will my grandparents die?\” etc. Xinxin\’s mother felt that she couldn\’t explain clearly, so she began to use toys and snacks to divert the child\’s attention. Xinxin\’s mother also dealt with Xinxin\’s questions about death several times in the future. In her opinion, if a child is so young and cannot understand it, he will naturally understand it when he grows up. 2. Angry and resistant type: avoid \”death\” like snakes and scorpions, taboo talking about death. My grandma obviously is very taboo about death, so when the rabbit she raised in the kindergarten class died, she went home and asked her parents in fear if they would die. , Grandma was very angry. After \”Bah, bah, bah,\” she yelled and scolded: \”You naughty kid, what are you talking about? Don\’t say such unlucky words in the future, otherwise grandma will beat you… …\” Obviously, he didn\’t dare to ask anymore. He was depressed for a long time, and would wake up crying from his sleep from time to time, shouting for his parents. When his parents asked him if he had a nightmare, they just shook their heads and cried without saying a word. 3. Straightforward and crude type: straightforward, simple and clear. Faced with a similar question from four-year-old Taotao about her deceased grandpa, her mother gave the most straightforward, simple and clear answer: If grandpa is dead, he is dead. You\’ll never see it again. Grandparents, grandparents, parents, you will die too, everyone is the same. Later, Taotao\’s mother regretted such treatment. She said that after hearing this, Taotao became very afraid of death. Taotao once refused to sleep, saying she was worried that she would die suddenly after falling asleep. She would often hug her mother and shed tears, worried that her mother would suddenly die and leave him. Taotao’s mother said that she had read online that American experts said that when faced with children’s questions about death, parents should give the most straightforward, simple and clear answers and try to avoid being specious or vague. Taotao\’s mother is confused: I just do what the experts say, why is it like this? 4. Euphemistic and indirect type: using heaven to explain death. In contrast to Taotao’s mother, Yueyue’s mother uses religious heaven to explain death to her children. When the child\’s grandma was seriously ill and she was afraid that she would die and leave her, Yueyue\’s mother said to the child: \”Baby, even if grandma is not cured in the end and passes away, grandma has gone to heaven. She will continue to watch and accompany the baby in heaven.\” \”Yes.\” Although Yueyue accepted her mother\’s argument, Yueyue\’s mother didn\’t know if she was doing the right thing. 5. Image metaphor: Life is like a big tree, continuous. I saw an example on the Internet: Mr. Liu used a special way to tell a 10-year-old child about the death of his grandfather. \”We told him that life is like a big tree, it is continuous, and spring willSend out new buds, and in autumn, the leaves will fall down, fall into the soil, and become nourishment for the big tree. Grandpa is like the leaves in autumn, and you are the new buds in spring. In your blood, you will always have Grandpa. The \’nourishment\’ left behind, so don\’t be too sad. Grandpa\’s life is actually still continuing in you, just like there will always be a place for grandpa in your heart. \”Birth, old age, illness and death are very natural things. When the word \”death\” often appears in a child\’s words or starts to ask related questions, it means that the child has entered a sensitive period about life and death issues. Parents\’ guidance on their children\’s concepts of life and death will affect their children. Growing up. It is naturally not advisable to be angry because of taboos. The above article is an example. Young children do not understand the concept of life and death very well. But this does not mean that we can be like Xinxin’s mother. , choose to avoid talking about it, and wait until the children grow up to understand. Children are very sensitive, and your avoidance and avoidance may be an answer in their eyes, and they will think that death is a terrible thing. So we face When children ask questions about death, we must listen carefully and answer patiently. So how should we correctly face children\’s \”questions about death\” and conduct appropriate life and death education? Here are several ways for everyone to learn from. Use picture books to educate about life and death: Some classic picture books are very good death education tools for preschool children (before 6 years old). For example, through \”Goodbye, Grandma Emma\”, children can know how death comes and the moment of death. It is calm. It can eliminate children\’s unknown fear of death. Another example is \”Tom\’s Grandpa Passed Away\”. Children can learn to miss their deceased relatives better than crying, and realize that \”life has an end, but love continues.\” Meaning. Through \”Xiaolu\’s Pond\”, children can understand that death is not the end of life. It will continue to exist in another way. It will exist in the hearts of all those who love him, keeping a warm temperature. Borrow animals and plants Education on life and death. The inquiry about death after the death of the rabbit is a very good and very necessary opportunity to educate the rabbit on life and death. After the death of the little rabbit who was fed by himself, in addition to being sad and reluctant to leave, he also has feelings for himself and his parents. Will there be anxiety and fear of death and leaving? So in addition to comforting Xiao Ming\’s sadness, we also need to eliminate the child\’s fear of death and separation. We can use the death of the little rabbit to make the child realize that death is a natural thing Things. Tell children that humans are also animals and a type of living thing. Everything must go through the process of birth, aging, maturity, and death. Give children the impression that death is a natural phenomenon. If the child is young, it will not be clear how to explain it. , then saying that the dead go to heaven like Taotao’s mother is also a good way to answer. You can revise it when the child is older. But what should be noted here is that if the child asks about what heaven is like, don’t go too far. The beautification of heaven will lead to children\’s yearning for heaven, but it will have bad effects. American children\’s education experts have found that children generally have to grow up to about 10 years old to understand that \”death is eternal\” (that is, people cannot be resurrected after death)Such profound, abstract truths as well as simple philosophies related to life and death. Therefore, Mr. Liu’s somewhat philosophical metaphorical explanation for 10-year-old children above is also very good. Use film and television works to educate about life and death. Nowadays, there are many film and television animation works, and the treatment of death is also very good. For slightly older school-age children, that is, children over 6 years old, it may be more intuitive and easier for the children to understand and accept the discussion of life and death in conjunction with film and television works. \”Coco\” is a very good movie. The world of the undead built in the film is colorful, without the darkness and coldness of death. The \”skeleton man\” in the film is friendly and cute, and children are not afraid of it. It makes people feel that death is not heavy and scary. \”As long as we do not forget our deceased relatives, they will not die forever.\” When we worship the deceased and remember the past, we are the bridge across life and death. In addition, after the death of Luke\’s father in \”Snow Fight\” and the death of the big dog Lele due to a snowball fight, the emotional response and processing of the friends are also good educational themes. Of course, there is no one-size-fits-all approach to explaining death to children. Every child is different, and parents should consider the child\’s age, personality, emotional sensitivity and maturity when answering questions about their child\’s life and death, as well as the child\’s relationship with the deceased. For example, Taotao\’s mother listened to the experts, did not consider the specific situation of her own children, and simply and crudely applied theoretical methods, which resulted in results that were completely opposite to her original intention.