Regarding my children’s toys, I never dare to throw them away secretly again.

Because I love neatness, I don’t like to see toys everywhere in my house. So I specially prepared a room to be used as the children\’s playroom. I put a large storage cabinet in the room and put all the toys in categories. And every once in a while, I have to tidy up my kids’ playroom. The main thing is to put away the toys that the children have not played with for a long time. If the toys are in good condition, I will transfer them online or give them away. If the toys are damaged and dirty, I will throw them away directly. Several times I threw toys in the trash can, but my children saw them and picked them up again. Later, every time I threw toys away, I would take advantage of the time when the children were sleeping and throw them directly into the large trash can in the corridor. During a routine tidying up, I saw a pair of cake-assembly toys. This toy was missing many parts, and a lot of colorful stickers and Velcro had also fallen off. Thinking about it, this toy was very cheap when I bought it, and my son hadn’t played with it for a long time, so I threw it away. But it happened to be such a coincidence. When my son entered the playroom the next day, he suddenly discovered that his cake toy was missing and asked me where he had gone. I had to tell the truth that the toy was broken and my mother lost it. Unexpectedly, my son burst into tears. He stamped his feet and waved his hands anxiously. Tears rolled down his face, and he was heartbroken. I expected he might cry, but I didn\’t expect him to cry so hard. I was also frightened by this battle. In desperation, I had to quickly say, \”Mom, go buy it again, go buy it again!\” Unexpectedly, my son cried even harder after listening to my words. I coaxed and persuaded in this way, but never got to the point. My son cried so hard that he couldn\’t breathe anymore and his voice became completely hoarse. I cried like this for a long time, and then told me hoarsely with difficulty, \”Mom can\’t buy it, that was given to me by Santa Claus!\” Then I suddenly remembered that it was his gift for Christmas last year! How could I forget this! I still remember last Christmas, my son was sitting on the bed hugging the quilt, and said to Santa Claus in a sweet voice: \”Santa Claus, I want the cake toy that my mother saw on the video on her mobile phone. Please give it to me.\” Merry Christmas to you!\” Then he happily lay down and fell asleep. He was more than three years old at that time. Strictly speaking, it was the first time he truly understood Santa Claus giving gifts, and it was also the first time he made a wish for a gift from Santa Claus. Although it is a toy that costs tens of dollars, it has no brand, the quality is not very good, and the design and color matching are also very cheap in my opinion. But in his eyes, this toy was very magical. It was an old man with a white beard driving a reindeer carriage. He somehow climbed into his house without a chimney and placed it under the Christmas tree in the living room. And although he had never met or called the old man with the white beard, the old man just gave him the cake toy he wanted most. This broken toy represents the most precious innocence and the most magical joy. And for the sake of \”cleanliness\” in the room, I casually threw him away! After learning what had happened, I immediately went to the trash can to look for it. Of course, the toy was gone. I immediately contacted the Taobao seller and asked them to send me an identical one via SF Express. Then I thought about it for a few seconds,In order to protect the beauty in my child\’s heart, I plan not to tell him that I bought a new toy that is exactly the same. I pretended to make a phone call, then went back and said to my son: \”The toys were loaded on the garbage truck. On the way to the garbage truck, I asked the courier uncle to look for them. Once he finds them, he will return them to us.\” Fortunately, my son is still young, so he was fooled by me. Then I said to him solemnly: \”I\’m sorry, mom shouldn\’t throw away your toys casually.\” Parents should not dispose of their children\’s toys casually under any excuse. But many parents like to do this. I think of all the knick-knacks I collected when I was a child, but they were all disposed of by my mother without anyone noticing. In elementary school, it was popular among my classmates to collect erasers. I saved all my pocket money to buy all kinds of beautiful erasers. Then I hid them in a schoolbag under the bed, often taking them out and smelling them. Then one day, I found that they were all gone. When I was in high school and college, I collected a lot of comics, but they all disappeared after I moved. The beautiful girl cards, old dolls, and souvenirs my parents brought me on their first trip all disappeared when I tried to look for them. I once went to the house of a good female classmate. She was also in her thirties, but she still kept all the gadgets she had had since she was a child. The stuffed toys from nap to adulthood are still on the bedside; she put the beautiful girl cards that she collected together in childhood in a book and took them out to show me. Comics are also neatly arranged in the bookcase. I suddenly wanted to cry because she could still borrow things to recall her childhood and youth, addiction and joy, but I had nothing. Perhaps this is also the reason why children are reluctant to throw away old toys. When children play with toys, they have a wonderful time; later, when they stop playing, they can still use the toys to recall the happiness they had at the time. They are unwilling to throw away toys, not because they are deliberately antagonizing us or making trouble, but because they really have feelings for the toys. This feeling does not care about the value of the toys or whether they are good-looking or not, but only whether they are fun and whether they bring them happiness. . It\’s just that we adults are too far away from childhood to understand such simple and pure feelings. There are always 100 reasons for mothers to throw away their children’s toys. There are too many toys at home, so throw some away. This toy is no longer suitable for you to play with. Give it to your younger siblings. This toy is too silly. I don’t want it anymore. Mom, buy you another educational toy. …I can understand the various starting points of mothers, but before handling the toys, mothers are asked to stop and ask their children\’s opinions. The famous Polish educator Kozak once said, \”There are no children, only people.\” Although children are young, they have independent personalities and self-awareness, and they have their own ideas and opinions. Parents cannot ignore the existence of their independent personality and self-awareness because of their children\’s weakness and dependence on adults. Therefore, the child has the right to decide what to do with the toy because the child has ownership of the toy. Disposing of children\’s toys at will is actually a sign of parents not respecting their children\’s property rights. This kind of subtle influence over a long period of time will also make children think that the property rights of others are not worthy of respect. existAfter that incident, I never quietly threw away my children\’s toys again. And I no longer regard cleaning the toy room as my own responsibility. I slowly guide the child to learn to organize his own toys and keep the toy room tidy. Because responsibility always equals power. Since children own the property rights to toys, they must also bear the responsibility of packing away the toys. Later, one time, there were too many toys to put in the cabinet. I suggested to him again whether he should tidy them up. Unexpectedly, he readily agreed to my request. He said, \”It\’s troublesome to put away the toys every day, and the cabinet is empty, so we can put in new toys.\” Then he reviewed them one by one and carefully selected a batch of toys that he didn\’t need. We also brainstormed what to do with old toys, whether to throw them away or give them to younger siblings. Finally, we decided to sell these toys at a relatively low price in the park, and the proceeds can be used for the next toy purchase. I actually took him to the park to sell toys once. It was quite hard on a hot day. The child was ignorant, but he seemed to understand that making money is not easy. So, stop secretly throwing away your kids’ toys. Although this is the most effective way to deal with troubles, how can you be afraid of these troubles when raising children. Because we have to wait patiently for them to grow up slowly, and we must always remember that this little person needs our respect.