How to train a 2 and a half year old who cannot speak?

I spend a lot of time reading picture books with Dingdang every day. Indeed, his understanding and development abilities have developed well in all aspects. But what you may not know is that except for language, Dingdang developed very slowly. Before he was two and a half years old, Except for a few sporadic words for mom and dad, she can\’t speak anything else. Just a month ago, Mr. Dingdang, a 2-and-a-half-year-old melancholy seed contestant, suddenly opened his mouth widely. He went from calling mom, dad, aunt, to speaking long sentences with various words. It seemed like overnight, he was Opened the language, Ren and Du channels. \”Mom, the wind is blowing, and the leaves are dancing.\” \”Crossing the road, the red light stops, the green light goes ah zhou~\” \”The sky is so blue, and the flowers are white, hello to you! I have a jingle in my chest!\” The legendary Children\’s words are so adorable, and they appear so quietly in my daily life. Although compared to many chatty little babies, Dingdang\’s progress is nothing, but since the floodgates opened, surprises have continued to appear day after day. . As an old mother who has been very anxious and has made countless efforts for this, she is very happy. She is finally worthy of the days and nights of spitting, chatting and telling stories. Although the sons I gave birth to are always blingbling with their own brilliance, in fact, speaking from conscience, I know better than anyone else that Dingdang is an ordinary little boy, even half a step slower than his peers in some aspects. . When other babies fell asleep on their own until dawn, he was still crying at night. Other people\’s dolls have gone to make soy sauce, but he is still lazily lying at home with Ge You. Not to mention that other people\’s little poets, singers and orators have all come out of nowhere, but my silly boy can only babbling and sits in the audience and claps. Are you saying there\’s no rush? Never been anxious? That\’s fake. I have also heard advice from well-intentioned people: Every child has its own growth pattern, just wait for the flowers to bloom. This sentence is magical to parents. I admit that this sentence has comforted me many times. Especially those mothers who have given birth to more than one child will usually tell you calmly that they have to wake up countless times a night? One day he will sleep until you can\’t even wake him up! You\’re over a year old and still can\’t walk? But who can’t walk when they grow up? Yes, for children, many problems can wait to bloom. But not all parenting issues can wait for the flowers to bloom? I have a friend whose daughter is 9 years old. She often wins prizes in various English competitions and has almost no obstacles in daily English communication. She is an English enlightenment celebrity mother in our circle. I sometimes write articles about English enlightenment and also Share your thoughts with this friend. But she said that before she became a mother, her English proficiency was barely above Level 4, and she never forgot about the certificate. After her daughter was born, in order to prevent her daughter from repeating her old path, she spared no effort to educate her daughter in English at home. She tried various concepts, including listening, speaking, reading, writing and playing. At that time, English picture books were not yet popular in China. She used various channels and even dragged her friends to spend a lot of money to buy English picture books abroad. Over the years, she has accompanied her daughter to learn English, and her own English proficiency has also been completely transformed. It seems to have opened the door to a new horizon, such as Liao Caixing, Pearson, and Heini.The Mandarin and Oxford trees are treasures we all hold dear. Because we can speak English, we can take our children to travel to many places to see the world. What the children gain is not only language skills, but also a deeper insight and understanding of the world. At the beginning of the year, she went to see her daughter perform and saw her child singing \”lemon tree\” confidently and cheerfully in the center of the stage. She said she was deeply moved at the time and felt very uncertain when she thought of the first word \”hello\” she taught her daughter. , not sure if the child understands. People around her also think she is very strange. She is only two years old and cannot speak Chinese well, so why should she teach her child to speak English? Are you too anxious? It’s great for such a young child to have fun playing! But a few years later, many parents in her daughter’s class joined her on WeChat to ask for the “secrets” for their children to learn English well. They don\’t know that this secret is just to work quietly and wait for the flowers to bloom. If they have not planted the seeds of \”hello\” for their children, it will be difficult to harvest the touch of \”lemon tree\”. Giving children a free and happy childhood is by no means a matter of laissez-faire. Only the land that has been cultivated silently can have the confidence to wait for the flowers to bloom. Just like Dingdang mentioned earlier, he speaks late and develops language skills slowly. Although he will also have anxiety and self-doubt: Why do you type so much and still don’t speak? But psychologically I still firmly believe that there is no need to force children to speak sooner or later. In terms of actions, I will also pay special attention to strengthening language skills. For example, reading more than two hours a day, typing more, typing more, typing more. When reading picture books, I used to focus only on the picture books themselves. Later, I changed my approach and connected picture books with life. It\’s like reading the book \”Where Has the Wind Gone\”, which says that the wind has gone to the forest and made the leaves dance. After watching it, I will take him to the community to watch \”Dancing Leaves\”. I will repeat it many times and then ask him what the leaves are doing. He could talk about dance at first, and gradually he could talk about dancing. Later, when he went out and saw the leaves moving, he would say, \”Grandma Wind is blowing, the leaves are dancing.\” In the past, when he went out with Ding Dong, he mainly went for walks. Later, in order to strengthen his language skills, I would slowly explain all the little things on the road while walking, such as \”white puppies\”, \”cats with small flowers\”, \”pink clouds\”… Over time, The child really became enlightened when talking, and as soon as he opened his mouth, all kinds of crackling words burst out, which even surprised Mr. Liu. Of course, maybe this \”enlightenment\” is also because his own growth rate has just reached this point, but no matter what, even if he still says it\’s unfavorable, at least I have the peace of mind to wait for the flowers to bloom. When he was one and a half years old, I tried to toilet train him, but failed for more than half a month. Until this summer, I thought about trying to take off diapers, so I prepared a lot of picture books, bought small toilet toys, and took the trouble to tell him various stories about my peeing. Suddenly one day, he pointed at his penis and said to me: \”Pee, pee, pee.\” I took him to the bathroom, and he actually peed into the toilet. From that day on, he seemed to have acquired new skills. He almost never peed his pants and successfully took off his diapers. Having said so much, what I actually want to say is,Every parent will experience anxiety and confusion, but in fact, the real balance is to work quietly and wait for the flowers to bloom. Of course, on the road of parenting, there are indeed many times when we don’t need to do anything and just wait for the flowers to bloom. For example, children will always learn to sleep, always learn to walk, and always know how to use the toilet. But there are more times when, without the silent hard work of parents, we would not be able to wait for the day when the flowers bloom. There is no child who can play the piano well for no reason, and there is no genius who can learn English overnight without a teacher. To work silently is the responsibility of a parent, and to wait quietly for the flowers to bloom is to eliminate inner anxiety. The happy education we often talk about is by no means just letting happiness happen. Parenting is a long road, and the definition of happiness should cover the length of a child’s life. What we call silent hard work is by no means arduous and arduous, but rather providing support, companionship, direction and guidance based on adapting to the child\’s individual growth and development. Only in this way can we wait for the flowers to bloom.